Recent content by STFU_foh

Question: If she says that she"s not ready to be in a committed relationship, but just wants to continue to date like you have been, what do you say?

Seriously, that sounds kind of crazy to me. Did you bring up possible future marriage, living together, kids? I can see that scaring someone off, but just being official after 5 months of dating does not seem like a valid reason to get cold feet. The whole "settling down and not knowing"...

I wastheguy in this situation. Friends and family couldn"t stand her, after a point I couldn"t stand her. How old are they? It took about 4 months or so for my friends to catch on that my ex was not good for me. Took me a little bit longer, but I still stayed with her for 4+ years, in the...

That entire story sounds like something that would happen to a freshman in college, not someone working in an industry where "people are generally extremely well educated and mature (despite being an overwhelmingly youthful company)".

As soon as I started thinking about what I need to do for myself, and stopped worrying about how/if I could work things out with my ex things got a lot better. I"ve been keeping myself busy to the point where I haven"t even had much time to think about her. I still care about her, of course...

It sounds like you know what you need to do, and you"re just not sure if you"ll be able to or not. Your situation seems to have a lot in common with the breakup I went through a few months ago. If I have any advice to give at all, it would be to concentrate on what"s important right now the...

Sorry, I was driving back home for the holidays, then busy with all the family stuff. I had a moment of weakness when I got back, called her and set up a time when I could pick up the stuff that I had at her place. In all honesty though I just wanted to hear everything that she was telling me...

Just wanted to say thanks again to everyone for the support and advice. I just turned my phone off for the day so that I didn"t even have to think about hitting the green button.

Final Update:Broke up. Not only did she go, but she"s still there right now. This is so difficult. I don"t even know how to break up with someone.

Lithose, Koivu, Erronius, eli, Jorren... I agree with a lot that you said. And I appreciate the input. I"ll give an update later as to what happened. Because I did give her an out (that I obviously probably shouldn"t have even) in that if she didn"t go tonight, we could maybe work things out...

Sorry, my edit was late... I told her no I"m still not okay with it. She doesn"t understand that it"s the whole premise of the situation, and changing the details isn"t going to change how I feel about it. I guess what"s pissing me off the most about everything is how she acts so oblivious to...

The update on the situation is this: Last night I told her that if she goes to this guys house tonight (or anytime for that matter), then that"s it. So she calls today and asks if I"d be okay with it if she took her girlfriend along with her too, so that it"s not just her and him. As if...

Yes, first serious relationship for both of us. Until I moved out here, she refused to have friends. I actively tried to get her to go out with girlfriends of hers. All the friends that she had before we met she pushed away, and then she claimed that when she tried to make new friends that...

I really appreciate the words of encouragement, everyone. Definitely helps as I struggle to stand firm. It"s a psychological flaw. From what I"ve been told by my mom (as lame as it sounds) I"m the type of person that yearns/needs to be needed. So when I met her, and heard her sob story, her...

I don"t know, she"s adamant that what she"s doing is not a big deal. It doesn"t help that apparently everyone she talks to agrees with her (the "friends" she"s been asking don"t know me, and they don"t know how much of a clinger she is/has been). That"s part of the reason I came here to ask...