Titan_Atlas
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Annoying shit your wife does
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Aelzen
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Quoted for fucking truth. Somehow conversations with me trying to, politely get her not to spend $400/week on absolute junk she thinks she or the kids needs and will just end up throwing out in a year or two, ends up with me being an asshole who doesn't love his family.
Then she lies about what she needs the money for -- buys like $150 tent, *we've never camped in our life*. or $300 on these cloth reusable diapers she threw out after a week. I could fill ten pages with this stuff... and it's my fault she lied and deceived somehow.
Yea. Used to let her hold on to the credit cards and give her $100/week additional for luxury stuff. That shit stopped quick when the cards get maxed every month and there's like $1500 in useless amazon junk charges.
Oh... and insert nightly guilt trips about how hard her job is. Bitch please, you sit on your phone and shop/watch tv 80% of the day. The other 20% you do some dishes/laundry/child care. You go wherever you want during the day and eat gourmet shit with your kids and have fun on someone else's dime. Your life is not that hard.
Love the kids, but man, fuck my life right now.
And let this be a lesson to you younger chaps!
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Miguex
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My wife is chronically late, for everything, all the time. I have no idea how she's never been fired. This wouldn't be so bad except at some point in our marriage people stopped saying 'she's always late' and it became 'they're always late.' Christ that rustles me.
Bonus rustling: when we're late and on the way she wants me to text whomever we're meeting to say we're going to be late. Ok, 1) I'm fucking driving, and 2) text them yourself since we were supposed to be there at 7.00 and you're stepping out of the shower at 7.05. That message is not coming from me.
God damn.
Bonus rustling: when we're late and on the way she wants me to text whomever we're meeting to say we're going to be late. Ok, 1) I'm fucking driving, and 2) text them yourself since we were supposed to be there at 7.00 and you're stepping out of the shower at 7.05. That message is not coming from me.
God damn.
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I started taking the kids and driving my own car places, and let her come when she's ready. I got yelled at the first few times but she started getting ready to leave earlier when it was obvious I was going to leave her there.
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Sludig
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<3 Cad not bowing.
I've got a few topics I'm whipped on and know it. Problem is some of them are so ingrained I can't even think of them hardly.
I know for damn sure amongst my 20 reasons for not having kids, some of the stuff in this thread also applies.
I've got a few topics I'm whipped on and know it. Problem is some of them are so ingrained I can't even think of them hardly.
I know for damn sure amongst my 20 reasons for not having kids, some of the stuff in this thread also applies.
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I did that a few times when we both worked downtown and had identical start times. Normally we'd bus it but if I had a thing after work I'd drive in to make getting back late easier. I'd tell her 'I need to be driving away at X time or I will be late to work.' She of course was not in the car, so I drove away. Same deal, she was pissed the first few times but quieted down after incident 6+.
Unfortunately I had to learn that lesson the hard way. The first time I drove in she asked to come with in the morning. I was younger and dumber so I agreed, and ended up being almost a half hour late to work. This was actually the day I found out we had the same start time; she was so sanguine about how late we were I was astonished. It's 8.50am, I'm supposed to clock in at 8.30am, and when I ask when she starts she says '8.30, but this is when I get in every day, it's not a problem.'
I found out some time later that she'd actually been reprimanded for it early on in her time at that job and started crying. They hadn't brought it up since. I don't think she was being manipulative on purpose, but christ if it didn't get her to the same place in the end. I think if I had started crying because of a deserved verbal reprimand everybody would be weirded out AND I'd have been fired.
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Heylel
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I deal with this shit every day. It's a family thing with my wife. They're ALL late on her side, all the time. You can pretty much count on a window of time somewhere between sun up and sundown, and as long as they arrive on the right day then they think nothing is wrong at all. Her brother showed up 3 hours late to get his daughter photographed for Santa, which we were paying for as a gift to my in-laws. We couldn't just leave; there wasn't another chance to get it done. I lit into his ass in the middle of the Santa line with kids and parents all around us once they finally showed up. Got some angry looks from mothers, and more than one moment of eye contact with dads who were obviously thinking, "yeah man, been there."
I have to keep reminding myself that it's not personal. I consider being late to be extremely rude. To me, you're effectively telling the other person that your time matters more than theirs, and that you can't be bothered to show some basic respect. That's my take on it, but my wife honestly doesn't mean any harm. She's usually late because she's finishing some kind of project or gift for a friend, and has bitten off way more than she can manage. She's not being flippant, she just cannot possibly accomplish all of the things she believes HAVE to be done, right now, regardless of time. I've caught her half dressed and ready to go somewhere, cleaning dishes or starting a load of laundry because it occurred to her that it'll need done later. There's no concept of priority or ordering tasks for maximum efficiency.
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You shouldn't give them excuses, they really are just being inconsiderate cunts. They bit off more than they could chew because... they don't care about your time.
They scheduled a lot of things that day knowing it would make them late because... they don't care about your time.
They have to have things "done right" making them late because... they don't care about your time.
Until you decide you don't give a shit about their time either and just do your own thing, they will shit on you. Give your time to the people who earn it bro.
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Heylel
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Oh it's inconsiderate as hell, and that's kinda my point. It's not conscious. They're just not thinking about how it impacts anyone else. Drives me mad.
The task overload thing is more ADHD than anything else. She has severe issues with prioritization and knows it. It's a slow process, but she at least acknowledges that it happens. We've gone from consistently an hour late for everything to around 15 minutes or so. That's still a failure, imo, but it's trending the right way. That all goes out the window if she's on her own, though. I routinely just go grab dinner myself because she zoned in at work didn't notice the time. That's started to become a punishment and she sets herself an alarm. Kinda like you just leaving and letting your wife catch up.
The task overload thing is more ADHD than anything else. She has severe issues with prioritization and knows it. It's a slow process, but she at least acknowledges that it happens. We've gone from consistently an hour late for everything to around 15 minutes or so. That's still a failure, imo, but it's trending the right way. That all goes out the window if she's on her own, though. I routinely just go grab dinner myself because she zoned in at work didn't notice the time. That's started to become a punishment and she sets herself an alarm. Kinda like you just leaving and letting your wife catch up.
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