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Let me just hide in a hole for a couple weeks/months. See you guys later... cash hibernation

I asked for an uncontested divorce, same type of answer I use to give her is what I got. I am following through with the lawyer now.

this is what I thought too, i've only been to one session with her (couples) and it appears to be heavily on the christian theology marriage-by-might type advice. I was pretty raw, but she definitely wasn't in the whack job realm entirely and it was obviously something they both talked about...

because she won. everything that she wants she could have and she 100% knows it. Like, maybe a bitter divorce could cause some discomfort -- but ultimately at worst she has to split equity of the house and move. She pulls the zeros where I pulled the bennies when coming down to a basic...

Yes. This isn't a new realm for me. My oldest step kid has been a custodial nightmare from the start and I've had the displeasure of being involved thoroughly. The realities behind what a court would order are pretty standard, we would most likely do a 50/50 3-4-4-3 type arrangement with...

My wife seems to be the one that wants us to stay together at this point. I'm insanely torn. The trust is gone, her willingness to make it work appears genuine to the point she is asking me to use an app / track / whatever. When I bring up whats the point of being in a relationship like that...

Yes, I cheat pretty regularly and just overpower it with the sheer amount of calories I burn. I can see how if I stop I will realize I am not 20 anymore...I definitely need to watch what I eat a LOT more, luckily I am only over the top glutton very rarely. Not a big sweets guy but Hershy bar +...

2017 into 18 burned me hard wanting to chase that golden dragon and avoiding correction talk. I figure on a 401K pulling the risk carpet is one of the better things I can do and I learn the timing of my fund. I didn't realize within 24 hours I could be out entirely. Newb positions I am just...

I tossed my 401K into bonds / cash last Friday from an aggressively tech-saturated fund. Definitely "feels" right. Not sure on the catalyst that will pull me in before the election, if there will be any, I feel like the sheep leading the sheep (Rightfully so). Just seems like the last two big...

In my situation I ended up locating the dude's place, personal practice and his main routine. It wasn't the first reaction, but the build up got pretty intense when it wasn't stopping (or isn't-- might be the right word, who knows in clown world over here!). Originally all the anger was at my...

Cutting the FDX run tomorrow at open because I am going to be preoccupied and was happy to hold through earnings on this particular swing.

I'm 5'11. I've been 180-190 about age 17 and on. I'm probably 215 soaking wet right now waste 38-39. I got down to 170 in boot camp and I was just an anemic twig and it definitely felt that way too. Was a bad case of H1N1 that pushed me down the extra 10lbs I could never put back on while...

I did my annual PHA for insurance and my previous last one was definitely at my lowest point in my health to date. ~275lbs, super high LDL, bunch of liver tests off the chart, and a sitting BP of 150-160 over 110 or so. Pretty bad shit. Was actually looking forward to the results on this...

That is a fair statement. I want a reality that most likely cannot exist and need to figure out where this is going. I will be taking a bit of a hiatus from here while I focus on September.

I am learning to cut my risk tolerance way the fuck down because I kept falling behind the game, couple that with doing stupid shit like market orders... Instead of my 20 % target on PTON I settled for a solid 10 % and cut while it was safe. I will be a newb in the highest regard, but it feels...

Right, at least the catalyst for doing the right thing and choosing to be sober was never about her affair. I poured out my last drink 3 weeks before I found the "Shock and awe" moment. Couldn't tell you exactly what it was that led to that decision, but I could diatribe on it for awhile...

The only difference in "this time" is shes being candidly honest on how everything went down, how it started, when it started, and how its going to stop. Let me go ahead and insert all the eye rolls from everyone because it DOES feel like a joke. It sucks to admit it feels real. It sucks to...

While everything is sucking, sobriety is there for a reason. Real life has pain and running away from it won't help me. A lot of this information has really helped, any perspective is one more filler. I think I need to be honest with her and stop trying to yo-yo who wants to be with whom. I...

Yes I am sure there were plenty of times, but I also felt pretty damn alone in all of it too. The neglect really started to hit us both where we stopped caring about each other (nothing malicious, just roommates). It definitely felt like it went straight to cheating especially the last couple...

Alright. I'm going to go back to work and get out of my own toxic pity party for awhile. I will heed the advice here and go to a lawyer. I really do appreciate this forum.

When I first found out about all of this I had a bed to stay in North Carolina / San Antonio / Portland (family) / and GA. Hell, even my work offered to put me up in one of the condos they own rent free (short term <30days). Honestly its a joke. Everyone is telling me to get away from this...

So in this turbulent time do I bite the bullet and move out? I am increasingly unhappy in my job and want to move. I'm striking out on local interviews, but will keep going forward, a lot of my skillset (security clearance) points me towards Oklahoma City which is 2 hours away and I'm not...

I'm in a one party consent state for recording. Honestly i don't even plan to use it, its not like I'm trying to get something out of it. I want the kids to be in this house (literally purchased for the school district / proximity) and obviously don't want the kids separated any extended...

I actually recorded the admissions over our last call and feel like a POS doing it but I cannot continue to being fed BS and need ammo for a lawyer.

Came pretty close to adoption (drafted) but the bio dad backed out. It is her/his kid and will remain that way. I am merely the supporting actor. Doesn’t make it hurt any less. Always post 18 if it goes that route. I treat her the same as my other kids and have no delusions about the...

Like I said, I'm 32 and feel like I woke up from a bad nightmare and have all the motivation / drive to be the person I was/am. I am not worried about pulling in a decent chick. That part excites me, but I won't stoop to my partners level and do it without a divorce, or at least separation...

I had no question about my first child, but I did bio test my last kid because that coworker was around. And I'm the dad. I honestly believe her that nothing physical happened until this year because shes fucking terrible at hiding anything and it was the time the money was split. Again...

pretty strong reactions and about what I thought. i'm trying to save a marriage for the kids and that is normally what, like sub 1% of ever working out? Failure as an adult. If she wanted to continue an open affair and there wasn't her bio kid involved, i would greatly say to her to GTFO and...

PTON is/was an easy 20 % float before earnings. I am not a big fan of holding for earnings, but to each their own. I will probably hold for the initial sell-off the following morning, but I still consider that risky. Not my main retirement acct and about to be divorced. Risk tolerance has...

I say long term because the actual "affair" was probably from Jan 2020 and onward, where she actively went out to cheat. Long term because she had a working relationship long before and I'm positive this guy was trying to get in her pants from the early on (2017 and on). She has specifically...

My scenario has been rapidly deteriorating over the last couple years, more specifically the last 4 months. I hit rock button as a functional alcoholic. It was just work, drink, video games. I got fat, and overall became a self-loathing POS. Wife wanted a divorce. It was a wake-up call and...

knees too sharp

sounds a bit further ahead than me. find out affair, rock bottom turns into reconciliation, know she has already cheated in that same time frame with exhibit A. 9 years. love turned to indifference in an instant when lied on something i knew not to be true to my face no less people suck, but...

This thread helps me appreciate the 3 POS tin buckets I keep around that only eat up a liability premium. But i do look at newer cars all the time and get envious. I drive 20k/yr and my wife 10k/yr, at least during regular times. I blame games like EQ with limited charge items and never...

At the time I had the majority of it in energy index fund just because its an easy slide with Trump then once coronachan started the only faith I had were in the major conglomerates. I honestly will probably set it and forget it to an aggressive vanguard index and just consider myself lucky...

260 -> 230 over 3 months. I basically kept the same life style out of the military (functional alcoholic) and let it ride over 5 years. I never had a "fat" body until about 240 and up and I could start seeing it in my face and cheeks. I cut that shit out and replaced it with cardio. Even...

When I got out they were just doing 401K TSPs, I don't think Roth option was available yet. Probably 50 %+ of people that just sign onto TSP just let everything ride in a G account. I wasted my 20s by dipping into mine as an easter egg. I dumped my 401k into an available blue chip index...

One girl back in HS (AIM days) was desperately trying to get me to sneak into her place and fuck her. Actually semi-proud of myself on this one... I didn't go. Why? Not because she wasn't hot, 10/10 chick that I probably would of blew my load over and over. I didn't because she was...

I will admit being a 115lb girl breaks the fuck out of immersion when you’re in more meleee heavy game play. at least make some bs up about spores making her stronger

i am getting this feeling. i struggled to say regret because the money sink doesn't phase me as much say, 10 years ago, than today. So dropping 60 for a couple of solid game sessions ain't bad when its at least polished. at first aiming was terrible, but this is one of those "ima get high"...