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It really depends on what we"re being told. I mean, for example, I want to adopt since I can"t have my own kids. I would not have married my husband if he didn"t agree to adopt a couple of kids with me, because that is a major priority for me. So if I"m dating someone with the expectation of...

Any of you folks who were using Plenty Of Fish, I suggest you go and change all of your passwords now. PlentyofFish Hacked, Founder Emails Hacker"s Mom - Slashdot 30 million customer records stolen/compromised.

A friend of mine owns a house with his roommate like Picasso is talking about. They put together a contract that laid out the terms of maintenance (50% split, and a mandatory contribution of something like $50 to a jointly held savings account to pay for repairs), right of sale (if one party...

The emotional stuff goes to my husband or to family. Friends don"t need to know about relationship details other than a general sense of how it"s going. But yeah, I make it a point not to lead guy friends on, and be "one of the guys". If they"re attracted to me, they can deal with it. It does...

Whatever makes your marriage work, you should go with! The hubby has a couple of female friends, and they"re actually pretty cool. One of them even taught me how to knit and crochet. They usually go out as a group with him and their other mutual guy friends though, so I"ve never really been...

My husband loves that I have guy friends/gay boyfriends. They go shopping with me when he doesn"t want to go, or go with me to see an indie flick that he has no interest in...basically, what Cutlery said here. And yeah, I don"t have an interest in fucking any of them. So he lets me haul them...

Well, I hope you didn"t value that friendship, Leadaas, or wanted any kind of respect from her, because you"re not just on the backburner, you"re that cookie sheet that she accidentally burned something on so badly that not even an SOS steel wool pad could get it all off, so now it sits in the...

Run. She"s poking at your boundaries like a toddler. Give her a time out.

Rare occasions: "Of course I did, dear." Too often: Ex-boyfriend.

They don"t need a divorce. They need a reality show. They"re made for each other. They both thrive on drama and attention and both of them are getting exactly what they want.

Hubby and I are looking at purchasing something in the $330k range in Silicon Valley in 6months to a year. Looks like it"s possible to get a pretty decent 3br/2ba with a garage at that price or cheaper. Once we start the process, we"ll let you know how it goes. Probably going to end up doing...

What Lejina and Pren said. The hubby didn"t even have a password on his phone until I told him to put one on it. I work in IT. Security practices, especially easy ones like setting a PIN/password on your phone are smart, especially since you"re probably checking your email, buying apps left...

The hubs and I both have passwords on our phones, and we know each other"s passwords. The password on it isn"t for him, it"s in case someone steals my phone or otherwise attempts to fuck with it.

Actually, he would need to be unbanned first.

The offer letter trump card should really only be used if you can"t come to a satisfactory resolution otherwise. More often than not, by the time I"m looking for another job, I"m fed up with the place that I"m at, so I really don"t have an interest in them matching or beating the offer -- I just...

3-5 year ramp up time for a new hire? Ouch. I thought the 6 months to a year ramp up time for a good sysadmin was nearly intolerable. Thanks for the insight!

Here"s my question for you, as someone who"s had direct reports, but not hiring/firing/pay authority. If this guy is/was a bare-minimum half-asser, especially when you"re looking at a labor market that has a ton of excess workers that would kill for the type of job you offer, why would you even...

This. Like I said, I may know my coworker makes more than me, but when I present it to my manager, I"m going to point out the fact that my reviews show that I am an above-average worker, and that the average salary in the area with my certifications and experience is X amount, so I believe that...

I would imagine that with the Ledbetter Fair Pay Act passing, it would be a lot harder to get away with firing due to pay discussion, even in a right-to-work state, without a successful wrongful termination suit. I"ve always been the type to freely discuss what I make, but then again, I can...

Okay, so... My fiance and I are getting married on August 15th, and looking at purchasing a home soon after. We"re in San Antonio, TX. I make $52k/yr pre-tax (comes out to around $1500 every two weeks after taxes and benefits), plus the occasional bonus, and he brings home $22k/yr pre-tax, so...

Pedestal. Listen, I promise I"m not trying to bust your balls or anything. But she"s using the exact same language I"d use if some guy, no matter how wonderful he was, was jumping feet first into the relationship when I was still getting my toes wet. Going forward, I think you blew your...

Yup, you came on too strong. ProTip: "Too much of a nice guy" = "Get me off this fucking pedestal".

Seriously. I almost feel the need to post my own tits just to get you all back on track.

Great. Then explain this to your fiancee. But you don"t...why? That"s right. You would prefer to be dishonest with her in order to increase your chances at some vaguely defined "success" at marriage. Apparently your fiancee is also going on the basis of this conventional wisdom, or you would be...

I"m saying that it doesn"t matter if you don"t get caught. If you are keeping something like this from your soon-to-be wife, you obviously do not respect her enough to make this relationship work, and your "logic" that you"ve used for your arguing has shown this. You think you"re being a great...

I"m cool with polyamorous relationships, and if my fiance ever wanted to change things up and get with another girl one night, as long as he asked my permission and used protection, I"d be cool with that. But if he went behind my back and did it like you are, Sharmai? I"d sure as shit dump...