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This was on a webpage about relationships in China translated with Google Translate from Mandarin.

The main thing I remember about you is we both knew the same guy in construction between Florida and Georgia. Or whatever southern state you lived in.

I’ve read WeChat is really toxic if you get into it and have a lot of friends on there, etc. For me it’s just a novelty with her so I don’t expect to use it much. She did immediately start sending me voice messages on it which is apparently a popular thing vs. texting

I’m gonna call her by her Chinese name also. She described her American name as a “throwaway.” She only uses it when, like, ordering food, or meeting an English speaking person, etcetera. She said she has no emotional attachment to it. She told me today that after five years of living in the US...

Spent the day with dragon lady / tiger mom or whatever you’d like to call her. I’ve discovered she really likes me to go shopping with her as a social activity. We went and got a couples massage (that was my treat, a gift card from Christmas.) Then lunch. Then she wanted to buy some clothes...

Why would you think it’s so awful to introduce your kids to people they may only know temporarily? I know kids who were military brats and they were all pretty well adjusted if not strangely more advanced than many other kids from my estimation. Always seemed they were more worldly, outgoing...

Related: One of the worst / most unprofessional arguments I’ve ever seen pop up at work was two people without kids telling two people with kids about how to raise kids. Ooh boy. There was apologies aplenty later that day.

Oh boy do I know it from the amount of my coworkers who bitch about it. One guy works in a garage. I know a guy who took out a half bath in his house to turn it into an office to escape his kids. Others secretly kept going to the office during COVID even though we were told not to work there...

White collar jobs often do have the latitude for things like that, and probably some even lower paying work at home jobs do too. We work from home. My coworkers with kids often peace out for an hour in the morning and in the afternoon to pick up / drop off their kids. We talk to our supervisor...

Two of my coworkers have aupairs. One is Hungarian, the other is Spanish. They seem to really like it. They also have large houses with an extra bed and bath to make that easy though.

Living where I live, the cost of childcare is approximately as much as someone working anyway, so I have no problem supporting a woman and child(s) at least until they enter school. People get on waiting lists and shit for childcare in the Bay Area I’m told sometimes like a year before they...

Er…I don’t think anyone is arguing this. You said men and women who don’t have kids are a red flag. This is a totally different conversation and I agree about the birth defects. It’s kinda crazy I know someone who had their third kid at 52 (the woman) because she married a younger guy who...

That’s a little old fashioned thinking. I don’t view people without kids in any negative light. You really don’t want a society where everyone is somehow shamed into having kids like decades back.

Yeah, hi. You’re a MGTOW / redpill / PUA guy. When you make comments like this, it’s impossible to take anything else you say seriously.

There’s differing opinions on this. Not everyone thinks you should wait any specific time. https://www.wealthysinglemommy.com/wait-to-introduce-your-love-interest-to-the-kids-no-way/

Let’s lay this out a little briefly. I have met her kid - the dad was supposed to have him, he ended up having to do something, and she had him. She very apologetically asked me if she could bring him. I said cool, please do. I enjoyed it. Secondly - I have not been on that many dates with...

Yeah. That’s why I’m happy the dad is around. He takes the kid some. And I don’t really want to be a full time adoptive father. Part time helping out with the kid and playing, I can do.

I am 90 percent sure.

Oh noes, she got your bEtABux (had to throw that in.) Awesome! And for the crowd…was it always easy? I bet it wasn’t, right? Your wife was probably crazy busy at times, yes? Dates cancelled, things rescheduled, taking the kid on dates unexpectedly, etc. I am sure everything you went through...

Hashimoto’s? Or eating and drinking too much? 😜

Yah, exactly. You really can’t talk about anything with dudes into this red pill / PUA stuff. Next thing you know Dumar starts posting again.

Not that many. I was out of town for the holidays for a long while. I only met her in…October? But we didn’t go on a real date until December maybe? After going on the first date which was what, lemme do the math…6 weeks ago, perhaps? She’s been way more active in talking to me and making...

I fully understand. You’re absolutely right. I think it’s just something I’m willing to try out at this point of my life. If it’s awful, we ain’t married, I can bail. She has said, like I’ve seen other single mothers say, been very forward about this. She has told me I’m a mom to a three year...

Ha. We haven’t actually got there yet. We’ll see how that goes when the time comes. I’m actually happy she seems a lil’ conservative in regards to sleeping with someone. I’m happy to take things slow. She didn’t even kiss me with tongue until recently. I met her at a restaurant and not from...

Seriously. Most girls like it. She was being uptight. I wasn’t even trying to go for anal (I think it’s kinda meh) I just want to play with your ass. Stop being such a prude.

I’d venture a guess she went from 130-140 pounds to closer to 200 if that’s your bag. 🤪 She still has a cute face for what that’s worth. When I first met her in 2019 and she was 130-140 she absolutely crammed her ass into jeans and it was glorious. The first time we fucked there wasn’t even...

Eeeew. Think chubby instead of morbidly obese and 30 years younger. This girl was super cute but I think I described her as “thick” before. She had a beautiful ass when I first met her. I think she was like 5’6” 130-140 pounds I’d guess.

I haven’t seen her since 2019 I guess? She did not want to buy me a house. She owned her own (which was given to her,) about 8 minutes drive away from me. She moved out of state for about six months and we just didn’t stay connected. She also got really fat last I saw her on social media. She...

Oh I’ll keep you updated!

Seriously, I appreciate outside perspectives on this. I know some guys have got fucked over and it isn’t uncommon. I am most assuredly involved in this cautiously and I don’t see any particular alarm bells personally at the moment. I am by no means in a position yet where I’m placing any great...

I’m seeing the MGTOW vibe.

Yah, I get it. I just think the guy from what she told me was *subatantially* less well off than he claimed. I don’t think she was looking for a millionaire. She just wanted someone who could actually support her while she was pregnant or taking care of a toddler. From what I gather this guy was...

There’s a difference between being a gold digger and having someone say they make way more money than they do to coerce you to move to another country though. Surely you can’t defend the actions of some man who would lie about that. Does she want a nice life for herself? Undoubtedly. But who...

No idea. It’s something I’ve thought about bringing up somehow in conversation though.

Great question. Here’s a semi answer at least — I’m not sure she actually has a credit card. I’ve only seen her pay with cash everywhere. Which does make you wonder why she doesn’t, or if she did. It’s possible she’s never established credit here.

One more thing to add to this. I read Chinese women will be blunt when asking if you have money to support a family. The very first conversation we ever had when I first met her is that she wants to have two kids, so one more. I said I would also like to date someone who wants a kid (I have...

Oh I have! I would never let her pay for everything. And I know I make more money than her. Good point about not letting her do it even when she insists…maybe that’s some cultural thing I didn’t know about. Next Monday (spa / facial day) will be expensive. I bought her a $150 gift card for...

She wasn’t working here until two years ago (year and a half ago? not sure.) I think if I’m getting the timeline right. I don’t think it was that he didn’t have a lot of money, it was that he lied about having more. Apparently when they met in China he was claiming to have this great tech job...