The thing about this is neither you nor your wife work so you don't really care about the exp much. I am not trying to talk crap I like ya plenty but you are in the same situation as most "hard core" EQers these days.
You just have to understand he's the kind of guy that was sneaking EQ at work and putting it over his family at home. It's just normal game time for the "non noobs".
Assuming he isn't full of crap and on welfare which is more likely.
Yeah that is essentially what their complaint is. They are unable to get agro from their pets and the necro pets are pretty weak at low levels. They die pretty fast.
I am bouncing between necro and wizard but I did play Wizard on Lockjaw and it was fine I didn't end up doing any raiding. I just don't want to be one of 10 million necros even though I know eventually most will quit.