I have the pleasure of working with my sister.
My sister is fairly out going, loves to run her mouth about everything. Because of this shes said things to coworkers about my life, things that are generally unflattering and might make me seem weird/odd to them. I know this because ive had coworkers mention to me in the past things shes said about me.
So the other day I told her very calmly to not talk to our coworkers about my personal life, didnt yell at her didnt belittle her just nothing more than "hey dont talk about my personal life at work". What does she turn around and do? Tell our coworkers that I told her to not talk about me personally. I know because as I walking down a hallway one of them told me kind somewhat jokingly I need to be more nice to my sister, referring to what I told my sister.
Shortly after that Im doing something in a room nearby where my sister is working. As Im about to leave a female coworker, one who I think is attractive and asked for her number a while back comes up and mentions something about my dating life. I was a bit taken back so I just said uhh what? But then my sister and another female coworker walk up beside the first and begin talking about my dating life and how my sister was just joking and didnt really mean what she said about me.
Its at this point im genuinely speechless. The only thing I could think to say would be verbally ripping her head off as loud as I can. I dont do that though, as theres other coworkers in the general vicinity as well as a bunch of clients. So I just stand there for a minute with an ever more wtf look on my face. Eventually I say I need to talk to my sister privately. At first they think im joking, but I reiterate a bit more loudly then the coworkers finally go oh and leave.
Sister comes into the room and I immediately ask her what the fuck shes thinking telling them such things. Its completely innapproriate not just from a coworker standpoint, but a shitty thing to do as a sibling. Her only response is she was just joking,they all know she was joking as well so its no big deal. She gives me a really half assed apology saying she wont talk about me personally anymore and walks out the room.
The fundamental problem though, is that while she may tell our coworkers shes "joking" or act like shes teasing me, the things she said about me specifically my dating life are things she truly believes about me. Jist of it being the reason why Im single is because Im stingy and dont know how to treat a woman right. She honestly thinks Im undateable because I say a first date is going out and having a drink. To her(a meme stereotype, the paradigm of modern western woman) thats an insult, men arent worthy of dating unless they take the woman out to a good sit down restaurant meal for a first date. Shes literally told me word for word women have the pussy so theyre worth that level of treatment. This is something shes repeated to me for years now often times in a very condencending manner combined with an aura of smug superiority because shes married so in her eyes that means shes successful, even though her marriage is a dumpster fire.
May sound cliche but its midly depressing to know my own flesh and blood thinks so little of me. It was already bad enough shes told me im undateable and puts her gender before her brother, but to now see her telling coworkers the samething under the guise "its just a joke" is just infuriating. And its not like ive ever been a bad brother to her, ive always been there for her when shes needed help in her life, ive never talked bad about her to other people in our lives. And this is the end result?
