I don't speak to my dad or sister and would no contact my mother if she was still alive.
Family or not, toxic relationships and people are still toxic
Found out earlier via my stepdad that my dad was found dead in his bed. Sister got him to tell me because I don't want any contact with her
Phoned my half sister, first time I've spoke to her since she was a kid. She's 34 now I think, I don't even know
Was worried I'd have to arrange his funeral etc, even though he was never around for me as a kid. And because he fucked up our relationship as adults massively twice.
Apparently his brother is back from China or wherever the hell he went traveling to in the 80s. So I guess him and my half sister will do it
Not even sure I want to go to funeral for a guy I barely knew and who made no attempt to apologise (which was really all I was waiting for maybe)
I got some texts off an unknown number a few months ago, offering me football tickets, I assumed it was him so I ignored it. Same number then sent me photos at Glastonbury (like Coachella) also ignored it.
Also don't want to go funeral to see a load of people I don't know and havent seen since I was a child, family or not. Also don't want to see my full sister who I've not spoken to for 15 years
It was weird timing though. Just last month I messaged an old university tutor about the archive of BBC tapes he was managing. These were "YouTube before YouTube" - random people around the uk shooting very short segments as a large scale documentary series. My dad had contributed to these, so I asked the tutor what he was doing with them
Also found my dad's YouTube channel, he came across as an embarrassment. Auditioning for Britain's got talent with shitty stand-up, getting into fights with neighbours etc
I honestly think he was always chasing some big short cut to money. I remember him trying to latch onto some asbestos lawsuit when I was younger.
He was also featured in a newspaper article which made me think he was living out of a campervan. My half sister says he lived in a house, no idea how much it was worth but any inheritance will be more than what he contributed to my upbringing (allegedly according to my mother but she wasn't exactly mentally stable)
My half sister said he was probably dead a while before anyone checked on him, and lived a lonely life because she'd moved to London. I dunno, the signal kept breaking up so we didn't speak that long