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So here's the raw information:
My brother is a fuck up
Basically he's always been an arrogant prick, who used his size to boss my family around, this was never properly checked and it has become his defacto personality.
He went off and got a job far away, with people that wouldn't tolerate his shit.
He ended up getting in a bad way, thrown in prison, most likely rightfully so. Losing his job etc... basically because he couldn't handle a break up. (I've been there and the lowest of the lows, and can understand the situation, the difference being that I didn't try to take others down with me.)
He got out after a year of my parents throwing over $30,000.00 to get his worthless ass out.
He's since moved back in with my parents, that was well over three years ago and he hasn't moved out since.
It's quite clear to me he has no intention of moving out, and he is abusive to my parents--in a verbal capacity consistently--but also recently physically.
From the story that I was told and what I've gathered on my own, after arguing with my mom,
He started choking her briefly and punched my father.
It's come extremely close to a fight between him and I.
The problem in this situation is my Dad, he won't disown this shit, at the consequence of his and his Wife's safety, health, and well being. He has martyrdom syndrome, throwing himself to the side constantly. I love him but his lack of resolve to push back, and self sacrificing nature, is a burden in this situation.
So the question is, how do I proceed with this situation?
1.
Do I wait for it to come to blows?
If it does and the cops get involved we'll both probably end up in prison.
I'm sure I would be out shortly, but he will end up doing a lot of time, due to circumstances that I cannot discuss here. Even though he probably belongs there, this would create strain on my parents, although potentially less than now.
2.
I have some law enforcement acquaintances that I train with regularly, and even some family members in law enforcement. I might be able to talk to them, and I don't know honestly...maybe scare him out of my parents house?
3.
Cut off contact with my parents until they take the necessary actions. I've tried this to a degree but I end up visiting them again after a while.
My brother is a fuck up
Basically he's always been an arrogant prick, who used his size to boss my family around, this was never properly checked and it has become his defacto personality.
He went off and got a job far away, with people that wouldn't tolerate his shit.
He ended up getting in a bad way, thrown in prison, most likely rightfully so. Losing his job etc... basically because he couldn't handle a break up. (I've been there and the lowest of the lows, and can understand the situation, the difference being that I didn't try to take others down with me.)
He got out after a year of my parents throwing over $30,000.00 to get his worthless ass out.
He's since moved back in with my parents, that was well over three years ago and he hasn't moved out since.
It's quite clear to me he has no intention of moving out, and he is abusive to my parents--in a verbal capacity consistently--but also recently physically.
From the story that I was told and what I've gathered on my own, after arguing with my mom,
He started choking her briefly and punched my father.
It's come extremely close to a fight between him and I.
The problem in this situation is my Dad, he won't disown this shit, at the consequence of his and his Wife's safety, health, and well being. He has martyrdom syndrome, throwing himself to the side constantly. I love him but his lack of resolve to push back, and self sacrificing nature, is a burden in this situation.
So the question is, how do I proceed with this situation?
1.
Do I wait for it to come to blows?
If it does and the cops get involved we'll both probably end up in prison.
I'm sure I would be out shortly, but he will end up doing a lot of time, due to circumstances that I cannot discuss here. Even though he probably belongs there, this would create strain on my parents, although potentially less than now.
2.
I have some law enforcement acquaintances that I train with regularly, and even some family members in law enforcement. I might be able to talk to them, and I don't know honestly...maybe scare him out of my parents house?
3.
Cut off contact with my parents until they take the necessary actions. I've tried this to a degree but I end up visiting them again after a while.
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