This has already been done. And I'm about to refine it further. It boils down to a very small set of accounts. (401k, e-trade, company stock plan (in a separate e-trade account) , a few Crypto wallets, and our bank accounts (all of which she already has access to

A few insurance policies of various ilk. And she's already on the title to the house.
The "wild ass crazy old Haus" brain actually wants to leave a series wacky treasure hunts for certain friends and family members and the rewards would be the various crypto wallets (as they are not a hung portion of the asset pool). But I'll worry about that if I make it past this surgery, before then I do plan on recording some "If I'm gone you should know this" letters/video clips on thumbdrives.
I thought about this, but I also know where me dying will probably put Lady Haus emotionally for a bit, and I know her strong points and such to know making any decisions or doing things would be the opposite of what she'd be good at while grieving, that I want to do everything I can to make it so she has zero to worry about/do/control/handle/decide.