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That is true, I had assumed that part was tried. If you are too lazy to court her you will have a bad time. If you court her and still aren't getting any, then you go to my advice.

Lack of sex is going to fuck you up if you have a high drive. Either you are going to cheat or just get really bitter/frustrated, it will fuck things up and change what you had. Communicate this in a way that doesn't make her feel like meat and use words like "this is how I experience intimacy...

So I think I have gone about as far as I can as an Individual Contributor... I was wondering what folks opinions were on MBA for making that leap to director/vp level stuff. The problem I have is, I am somewhat lateral to a Director in an IC type role. I don't think I can go any further as an IC...

I only eat steak at Annie Gunns! /snob

Well I run the finances for both of us as she let me take over before we got married. Thankfully she stays really responsible and doesn't blow tons of $$ on clothes, always comes to me with anything significant cost wise. Only had to veto 1-2 impulse buys and beyond that things are good. I have...

As a newly married sucker this kinda thing is scary. My wife seems so damn sane about everything (including money!) and I hope she stays that way. When I proposed we made about the same amount of money but the last few years have been good to me and I make more than double now, scary to think...

When you get a ring re-sized they appraise it and you agree in case it gets fucked up or lost.

Better than Ted Drews?

Back to the topic of motivation, I lost a bunch of weight ending about 3 years ago (140lbs). But I have slowly ticked up 15 or so since I met my (now wife) at the end of that weight loss. I don't feel the motivation to kick my ass and get out there nearly as much now as my main goal back then...

My new company has one of these discretionary time off polices that are going around in tech. Will be interesting when I start taking week long vacations every other month (plan to try and take 5+ weeks) to see if they give me shit for it.

So much this, all those things I scoffed at when I couldn't afford them to make myself feel better! Travel to great places, nice cars, services to buy back some of your time (cleaning service for my house is priceless) etc. Just make sure to fight for balance, as a professional with the right...

Going to be in KC for work tomorrow (roadshow for our tech) and will be in the Country Club Plaza area. I wanted to try some BBQ and saw a Fiorella's Jack Stack Barbecue close by. Good choice? Others in that area that are better? Anyone want to grab a beer and some BBQ with me?

I've heard some second hand reports that the ranking system leads to a lot of BS and that the culture is relatively hostile. But that is all 2rd hand, read glassdoor for a more broad view.

Amazon's reputation in tech at least is a churn and burn shop. Hire tons of smart people, and burn them out in record numbers leading to huge turnover. They pay well, but hours can be tough. A lot of people are forced to wear pagers a week at a time with strict requirements on response time.

Going tonight to watch Wacha put down Kershaw again (I HOPE!).

Big Picture is tons more fun than code imho. SA roles are great!

This happens to a lot of people if they let it. Sure I travel 1-3 nights a week and that isn't always great... but I don't actually work 80 hours or even 50 to be honest. Work life balance isn't given to a worker, it is taken by them. A lot of people in my same job at the same company fall into...

EMC is a great place to transition towards technical sales (SolutionArchitect, SalesEngineer). Go that way for the big $$$! I compete directly with the pivotal wing/spinoff. My story was that I went to college with lots of credits and no work ethic. EQ came out the year I started at the dorm...

Congrats, EMC does some really cool work.

Feels a lot like a campy Syfy show aka Warehouse 13, meh!

National is great, just got to Executive Aisle and my bills look like this: Vehicle Class Driven: Premium 2/4 Door Car Auto A/C Vehicle Class Charged: INTERMEDIATE 2/4 DOOR AUTOMATIC A/C

Looking for a new daily driver for the fiancee (weekend car for us, so want something nice). Any advice? We tend towards luxury so have looked at 328i, a4, ats, q50, is250. Any other cars in that class I am missing? Something considered a step down that is worth giving a look? Right now the A4...

Yep, I agree we will use the fastest we can get. The only really long leg (>3hrs) is the one from Siena to sorrento. It basically: Siena 14:18 to Firenze S. M. Novella 15:50 Firenze S. M. Novella 16:19 to Napoli Centrale 18:50 Then the commuter train to sorrento.

You are not much of a baseball fan if you think there is no place for it, THIS IS HOW BASEBALL HAS HANDLED PEOPLE LIKE AROD FOREVER UNTIL VERY RECENTLY.

Didn't know they served champagne, we tend to go as upscale as we can on this trip. But 18 days of hotels/B&Bs that are decent is going to drain the pockets a bit!

Using trenitalia.it to compare routes/speeds. Rome isn't as much about the art as the ruins, we both love roman era culture/ruins. I get more excited for frescos and mosaics than renaissance era art. We will probably day trip to Ostia and Hadrian's villa.

We are using Siena for our Tuscany base, so Florence is a stop but we aren't huge art fans in general.

So, my fiancee and I are really into wine with a focus on reds. We are taking a week in the Napa/Sonoma area (with some SF thrown in) to experience the American wine mecca out there. I have been to 4-5 of the wineries in Napa but need a good set of recommendations. We aren't wine snobs per say...

Since this is a grand tour of the country we had to sacrifice a lot of the smaller towns to make it feel less frantic. I very much hope to be back in the years to come though to take it a bit slower and see the small towns more. We are both red wine fans so we wanted to see the 2 major wine...

Ok, so after some major planning effort here is the framework for our trip, hotels still being chosen but have a few reserved. Day1: Arrive in Milan, have a jet lagged lunch then go see last supper (tickets procured) then quickly grab a train to Alba. Sleep at an Agritorismo in La Morra...

Unions, that break is more important than lives!

We hired a planner because the minutia would drive my fiancee nuts as she is a perfectionist and slightly OCD, didn't want to live with that. Now she just answers questions and lets the planner handle the details... been a big win so far!

Yea I ran into sparsity in the St.Louis market, had to go consulting route to make progress. It works for me however.

The problem with teachers right now is we have had entire generations where the best and brightest passed on teaching. Paying existing teachers more would be pointless, most are the crappy students who couldn't do more moving on to a career in mediocrity. We need to pay new teachers more if they...

C++ is one of those languages that when used properly is 100% superior in terms of performance and capability to Java. The downside is the barrier of entry for "properly" is MUCH higher than Java. Sure there are tons of bad Java programmers out there but imagine what those people would do to...

Not this extreme but yea, this!

Yep, I understand the concern of being a client. You want to be in the weeds not interacting through APIs etc. I sent you a PM on a related matter.

Hah yea, I can see how it would be hard to take. I just hit the point where my 4 weeks doesn't cut it for the vacations I want to take with my fiancee (she has to take 1 week unpaid to use the 4 atm). Think its an age and income dependent thing. I would just kill for 8 weeks!

Hadoop (MapReduce, Hbase, Hive, Flume, etc) are fucking gold on your resume. The short term promotion might not be worth it if you are already working with Hadoop/Hbase as C isn't that marketable long term. Don't worry about credit per say as it is more about your career experience in general.

Then take your vacation and just let it happen, clean up what you can in your hours when you return. They will get the message that having any one person with all the knowledge is a terrible idea. I don't get the obligation to do "all the work", you work your hours (40 a week unless otherwise...