I chalked up the crap writing to the shorter turn around and Nick trying to do it all. With more time and additional writing support I had hoped for something good.
I dated a vietnamese girl for about 5 years. She said they had some tradition where you bring gifts and try to bribe the bride to be into coming out of her room. Sounded weird and kind of fun.
Do you think Sansa wants to get the River lands as an army of her own? I get the feeling she seems to be playing both sides a little since she isn't being honest with Jon. I could just be a cynical ass though.
I don't really have any advice except this rarely works out and normally ends in divorce. Make sure you have pretty strict guidelines on how often and if the spouse can veto who you see etc.
Pull out? You're both pretty old not a lot of chances of you getting pregnant anyway. Assuming your claimed age is correct and your wife is about the same.