Girls who broke your heart thread
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You"re not guaranteed to get a response. You ARE guaranteed to get to say your peace (but don"t say it exactly like this...):Eomer said:
1) "despite your attempt to hide it/despite the fact that you"re unaware, I know something is wrong"
2) "by not telling me, you"re stringing me along and hurting me for your own personal gain. Ie, you want me in your life still for selfish reasons which is why you don"t want to make me think it"s over."
So even if you don"t get the truth, at least you get to call her out for being manipulative, even if it"s arguably subconscious. It"s nice for yourself to be able to say it aloud to her, and letting her know what your perspective on the situation is might lead to her stop being manipulative in regards to withholding information without clearly ending it.
zombiewizardhawk
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Just stop posting bro. All your advice will do is make him sound like a clingy/whiny/desperate loser who doesn"t want to accept the fact that it"s over.Etwynn said:
Pretty much this. Unless you require the emotional validation of closure by confronting her, its time to move on. "Break" for men is code for either 1) I am sick of dealing with your bullshit, but I want to come back once my bullshit stress system has had time to purge -OR- 2) I want to bang this other chick and come back to you afterwards without outright cheating on you. With women, its always code for "I want to trade up, but I prefer to keep you around as an emotional tampon/safety net until I am sure the new model pans out.", whether you can face that or not. The nicest girl in the world will rationalize this cruel calculous in her mind as your fault while she is stringing you along until she finds someone better. Worse, you will never get so much as an explanation or even conversation when the transition is complete and she is getting railed by her new boyfriend. You already have another woman in this thread telling you the exact same thing. Its over and the sooner you accept that, the sooner the healing can begin.Eomer said:
Tripamang
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I confronted her Sunday night and she broke down saying that "break" wasn"t really the right word for what she wanted. She just wants space to figure out whats up with herself, I asked her specifically what that meant and what "space" would entail and she just said she didn"t know. I told her that wasn"t a fair thing to ask of me, and she needed to figure that out. I gave her two days to think about it then get back to me.Drinsic said:
That"s basically tomorrow, so either we come to some sort of understanding that I don"t feel is me getting jerked around for nothing or we call it off. Since then she"s been the one initiating contact, so I kind of see that as this as potentially having a positive ending.
There really is more her to story that I haven"t been saying, she got out of an abusive relationship a few months before we met. She had been that in a couple years, and I had doubts about whether she was really ready to date again.
A "break" is always code word for "I"m going to break up with you but I"m going to slowly pull off the band-aid."