So my story..
Met a girl on OKCupid back in November. We chatted it up a bit and met to have coffee one day. We hit it off pretty well, on the first date we spent literally 9 hours together just walking around, hitting up the beach etc.
Really cute girl, not a 9 or 10 but personality definitely was. She just moved into a new place when we started dating, and on our second date she invited me over to drink with her roommates. She insisted she could keep up on the alcohol, however ended up puking all over the place, including on my shoes, haha. After the vomitfest she incessantly insisted that she loved me. Red flag? probably. I chalked it up to the booze. Everything was great from there. We spent a lot of time together, go do a lot of things, she tells me how much she loves me, sends me e-mails all the time at night telling me how happy I make her, etc.
We ran into a rough patch when she was dealing with her ex boyfriend who she lived with previously about a deposit check. He was yanking her chain, and apparently she got really upset about it, was crying etc. She constantly apologized and said that I shouldn"t have to deal with her drama etc etc, but I mostly just kept out of it.
On new years she went to some rave up in Los Angeles with a few friends that she had planned on going to for months. While there she apparently did a fuck ton of ecstasy and was pretty messed up, called me the next day and said she felt like shit.
Moving forward, after she got back she seemed like a totally different person. She wouldn"t look me in the eye and just was incredibly distant. Her sex drive totally dropped, was flakey as shit in making and keeping plans, basically seemed like a totally different person.
Prior to new years, we had made plans to go up to San Fransisco together for a week, which is where her parents live. We were going to go and get a hotel in the city and check out all the sites, and spend a few days with her parents. With her being incredibly distant, I spoke to her and she said that she was just messed up from the X, and that everything was ok.
I was hesitant, but went up with her anyways. The trip itself was pretty fun. Some of her friends were really just stuck up snotty bitches that acted like they were still 16. But whatever. She keeps getting more distant and more distant as the trip progresses. On the drive home (8 hours back to San Diego) I ask her wtf is up, why shes been so distant.
She states that she"s scared of getting into another relationship like the one she was in before, and that maybe she should only see each other one day a week. This sends me on a wtf trip, as with her being distant and now shes being even more distant. I get pissed off at this and tell her that putting an artificial barrier between us was bullshit. She agrees and apologizes, says that shes just scared, we talk things through, everything is ok.
Next few days are great, we fuck like rabbits, have a lot of fun. Then just another drop. She gets even flakier, breaking plans etc. We had a date planned for one Saturday and she broke it off because she wanted to hang out with her roommates. At that point I say we need to talk, I go over there we talk things through.
She says she doesn"t know why shes acting distant and flakey, and says she doesn"t even realize it until i point it out to her. She says she wants to stop hurting me so we should just break it off. I tell her that"s bullshit excuse 1001 from the book of 10,000 bullshits. We break it off.
That night she calls me crying her eyes out that shes sorry and that she loves me more than anything and that the ecstasy fucked up her serotonin levels and that she needs time to recover, and hopes that I"ll be her friend until she can be normal again. Says that she hopes I give her a second chance sometime in the future.
After that point she doesn"t talk to me at all. Week or so later she sends me a message that she"s thinking of quitting her job and school and moving back home. ok? I didn"t really say much to that. Another week or so goes by, I toss her a message online and find out that shes casually dating some chick.
We don"t talk at all, another week later I notice that she blocked me on AIM.
Moral of the story? Beats the fuck out of me.