Translation: My marriage failed because I"m a cunt, so marriage must be an outdated concept. PS, I write articles for a faggy ultra-elitist magazine for a living and drink Merlot, so I thought I should turn this into an article and try to start a fad on a talk show.Salshun said:
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This is exactly what made me hesitate to long with the last girl. She was giving a lot of attention, but I noticed she did that with everyone. Had no idea how to interpret this, so failed to act when my chance came up. At least I never acted like "boy" in the above story. I"m far too reserved to ever give away personal details unless asked directly, and even then I"ll likely understate.3xodus said:
(When given advice to just go for it, I think my response was something like "No, she"s everyone"s friend like that, and I"m having too much fun right now to risk fucking it up." Which was an excuse to be timid.)
That article just cleared up a lot of confusing shit for me, thanks. I knew I"d fucked up when I didn"t take my opportunity, and, from the start, that it wouldn"t work out based on my personality and her background, but I couldn"t see her motivations. (and understanding motivations for seeking companionship is necessary to decide if you can meet their needs, and how.)
Can"t say I"ll be any better off should I meet a similar girl, but my mind is a little more at ease now. Perhaps hanging out with a girl I"m still attracted to without being able to act on it (while still enjoying this time) will toughen me up some? I think so.
The whole point of the article is that she"s not playing anyone, she"s just being herself? Sounds like the guy played himself by basing expectations on an inaccurate analysis of their relationship. Anyway, don"t you think it sucks just as much for the girl to watch her friend torn up because she can"t feel anything in return, and then probably lose that friendship? Not to mention the awkwardness ... Or hell, just the disappointment of yet another guy turning out to be lame. Experience that enough times, and I can see how she might become callous towards guys who too easily get attached and clingy.3xodus said:
Dabamf: Busan since the beginning of March. Loving the beaches.
The moment the word "therapist" entered the article, my brain turned off and I wanted to cunt punch the author. Oh noes, I don"t love my sugar daddy that"s on the road 20 weeks a year earning big fucking bucks so I can see a psychiatrist!Snugglebear said:
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If I had to guess, I"d say it"s because Eomer doesn"t like the type of women that he attracts, and then he fucks up with the women he does like by coming on too strong. The shallow, vapid, gold digging cunts that would typically follow a pretty well-off guy around don"t spur his interest, and the chicks he is interested in, he smothers.Brad2770 said:
I"m not sure it"s all his fault. I would add that he also just hasn"t gotten lucky and found someone he meshes with completely.TheCutlery said:
You can modify your behaviour - to a point - to make dating more successful; however, in a long-term relationship you have to be yourself, and if you"re not compatible, you"re not compatible.
Yeah, you"re actually pretty dead on with how she probably feels when you put it that way. Maybe I"m just bitter and sympathetic because I know what it feels like to be the guy who felt strung along when it was just a bad reading on her feelings the entire time.A2T said:
It sucks because she"s a really cool girl, but I wanted to be something more than a friend just because she"s the first person to really connect to me the way she did. I don"t really want that anymore now that I"ve come to realize that she has this effect on a lot of people, and odds are her feelings will never change and meet the ones I used to have. I know she tried to change them but somethings don"t always work out I guess.
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Anyone ever use craigslist to pick up chicks and what not? Most of it seems to be prostitutes or people who aren"t who they say they are (aka. people who just reply to the email and link you to a porn site with malware), but I figure some of it has to be decent.
I"ve gone on a few dates from craigslist, but you have to be aware that you"re competing against a lot more guys for each girl posting, especially if they have a pic b/c of the way craigslist is set up. It"s just plain easier to do it on pof, okcupid, or mingle2. Although, that didn"t stop me from trying it while I was on all the other sites.
Yea, my e-mail now receives endless spam, it"s annoying! So make sure you use an e-mail you don"t care about.
Yea, my e-mail now receives endless spam, it"s annoying! So make sure you use an e-mail you don"t care about.
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Cragislist is sketchy, I talked with a girl a little bit I met on there, but most of the time the postings aren"t legit people.
Dating sites are nice because of the registering requirement, and how easy it so see if someone has filled out their profile. That"s a great way to know if its a real person or a bot.
Going out on a date to see fireworks with a PoF girl later on.
Dating sites are nice because of the registering requirement, and how easy it so see if someone has filled out their profile. That"s a great way to know if its a real person or a bot.
Going out on a date to see fireworks with a PoF girl later on.
I think the point is that no relationship (marriage or otherwise) that is based on sexual attraction can last. Unless you are one of the very lucky few to be in a relationship with the (woman or man) of your dreams you"re just going to eventually get over the early relationship heavy sex phase. At that point you better have a solid friendship to fall back upon or your relationship is fucked. I think from what I"ve read/heard of most successful long term relationships is that the couple are basically best friends. Thus long dry periods where the sex is infrequent doesn"t doom the relationship, because you still want to hang around with the other person and do stuff together, just like you"d want to do with any best friend.
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edit: Went out to date at fireworks was fun, chatted a bunch, had a good time. Haven"t made anymore plans but got the thumbs up to get out again. It"s amazing how effective a new girl can be at displacing the last one out of your mind.
Yeah a new chick will work wonders on getting an old one out of your mind. I had that happen a while back but it backfired when the new chick went awol out of nowhere. She was an old ex who I randomly texted whenever nothing else was happening and she knew that and is now probably f"ing her first choice.brekk said:
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Thought I found a new distraction with this last chick I met last saturday, got wasted had a great time, she was all your so cute this that, stayed out till 6 am, hooked up etc, she hung out at my house all sunday then we were gonna just hang out some time during week and left it at that. Well push comes to shove, can never get a hold of her through texts, and well sure I"m more of a texter than a phone caller, and after a few ignored texts I get the feeling if I call I"m just annoying the person even more, so we have yet to hang out and I"m getting the "drop it and go" vibe hardcore, except she told me shes bad at getting back to people and its not just me and she still wants to see me.. sounds like a pity excuse, read it here before something along the lines of "they always try to make it seem like u havent done anything wrong but nope its you"
Ever since then its still hell getting a fucking text back, not worth it. Top of that, she broke up with her ex for some reason, he lives in orlando and she"s in tampa so i dont know whats going on but she removed me from facebook, said she wanted to avoid fighting with her ex so she removed a couple of people.. if the text message wasnt a big enough red flag, the facebook thing was. Just awesome for my self esteem at the moment, let me tell you.
Yeah I don"t need to hear it, I"m smart enough to figure shit out, but her syaing its not you i promise and that she still wants to see me etc kinda led me on but then the facebook thing was like whoa, what a mindfuck. I"ve contemplated deleting her number as its a waste of space, but I always believe I should save all numbers incase of future needs, from now on just going to stop all communication.
I"m slowing losing my trust in females though, thats for sure. After awhile it"s going to be fuck em all and run far and fast.
I think I"ll stick to going out and finding girls vs online dating. I dont need relationship so soon, just a nice distraction.