Girls who broke your heart thread

Inconsiderable said:

Go back to her, but make her feel like she needs to earn every step you take. Fuck her, try to take photos (of course) ... until something better comes around. Then dump her and move on.

There is no reason not to have sex if you can.

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There"s a perfectly good reason. The girl is a person. I"m sure all of you guys would be here posting and crying your eyes out if something like you"re telling him to do to her happened to you. If you end up treating all the women you see in life like shit just because you want to have sex you"re never going to have a healthy relationship.

Sutekh said:

There"s a perfectly good reason. The girl is a person. I"m sure all of you guys would be here posting and crying your eyes out if something like you"re telling him to do to her happened to you. If you end up treating all the women you see in life like shit just because you want to have sex you"re never going to have a healthy relationship.

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Yeah pretty much. Unfortunately it seems like a lot of women like the abuse.

Jimmy Carter wuwu said:

Every guy should be required to watch Titus, "Love is Evol".....

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Comes on Comedy Central every couple of months, funny shit.

Sutekh said:

There"s a perfectly good reason. The girl is a person. I"m sure all of you guys would be here posting and crying your eyes out if something like you"re telling him to do to her happened to you. If you end up treating all the women you see in life like shit just because you want to have sex you"re never going to have a healthy relationship.

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What? What I suggest is pretty much "the best thing to do for both sides".

His POV: He gets sex instead of not having sex. It will also boost his confidence and behaviour making it easy to attract a better mate.

Her POV: She gets sex with a guy she seems attached to. Also she gets the chance to make him keep her. Both is better than "ignore her because she is crazy".

It is not about treating anyone like shit, it is about doing what is best for YOU. I can only speak for myself, but when I stopped doing "the right thing" from your point of view, stopped being mr nice and just did what I wanted... my life took a turn for the better. Getting laid became super easy and the more I went down the road, the more I became the one to pick woman and it was no more trying to get them. And my relationship is going superb, so you are wrong there, too.

TL;DR: Your job is to look out for yourself, not for some random crazy chick.

Inconsiderable said:

It is not about treating anyone like shit

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Inconsiderable said:

Fuck her, try to take photos (of course) ... until something better comes around. Then dump her and move on.

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Sort of a disconnect.

Inconsiderable said:

What? What I suggest is pretty much "the best thing to do for both sides".

His POV: He gets sex instead of not having sex. It will also boost his confidence and behaviour making it easy to attract a better mate.

Her POV: She gets sex with a guy she seems attached to. Also she gets the chance to make him keep her. Both is better than "ignore her because she is crazy".

It is not about treating anyone like shit, it is about doing what is best for YOU. I can only speak for myself, but when I stopped doing "the right thing" from your point of view, stopped being mr nice and just did what I wanted... my life took a turn for the better. Getting laid became super easy and the more I went down the road, the more I became the one to pick woman and it was no more trying to get them. And my relationship is going superb, so you are wrong there, too.

TL;DR: Your job is to look out for yourself, not for some random crazy chick.

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So basically what you"re saying is originally you couldn"t get any women and getting laid was hard for you. Which I"m sure is due to some flaws in your personality, since it"s blatantly obvious that you have many. It"s not about being Mr. Nice or being a Douchebag to get laid SUPER EASY. If you"re not completely devoid of any sort of game or looks it"s really not hard to get the woman you want.

Your job is to make it so both of you have fun. Not look out for your self or anyone else. I"m pretty sure some girl isn"t going to have fun when you just sleep with her because you"re incapable of finding sex any place else and then attempt to take pictures of her because for some reason you need more sources of porn (since there"s obviously no emotional attachment to this girl) then dump her and move on. That just sounds amazingly desperate and boring. But hey if that"s what you need to satisfy your life who am I to judge.

Sutekh said:

So basically what you"re saying is originally you couldn"t get any women and getting laid was hard for you. Which I"m sure is due to some flaws in your personality, since it"s blatantly obvious that you have many. It"s not about being Mr. Nice or being a Douchebag to get laid SUPER EASY. If you"re not completely devoid of any sort of game or looks it"s really not hard to get the woman you want.

Your job is to make it so both of you have fun. Not look out for your self or anyone else. I"m pretty sure some girl isn"t going to have fun when you just sleep with her because you"re incapable of finding sex any place else and then attempt to take pictures of her because for some reason you need more sources of porn (since there"s obviously no emotional attachment to this girl) then dump her and move on. That just sounds amazingly desperate and boring. But hey if that"s what you need to satisfy your life who am I to judge.

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From my experience, lots of girls do enjoy having their pictures taken.

Not for the intent that was previously stated!

Sutekh said:

So basically what you"re saying is originally you couldn"t get any women and getting laid was hard for you. Which I"m sure is due to some flaws in your personality, since it"s blatantly obvious that you have many. It"s not about being Mr. Nice or being a Douchebag to get laid SUPER EASY. If you"re not completely devoid of any sort of game or looks it"s really not hard to get the woman you want.

Your job is to make it so both of you have fun. Not look out for your self or anyone else. I"m pretty sure some girl isn"t going to have fun when you just sleep with her because you"re incapable of finding sex any place else and then attempt to take pictures of her because for some reason you need more sources of porn (since there"s obviously no emotional attachment to this girl) then dump her and move on. That just sounds amazingly desperate and boring. But hey if that"s what you need to satisfy your life who am I to judge.

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It"s a bitter attitude to have towards women, hence the euphamism "fucked." An attitude that I find increases the mysogonic feelings one feels. Which can be statistically translated to whatever bad karma is supposed to represent.

Sutekh said:

So basically what you"re saying is originally you couldn"t get any women and getting laid was hard for you. [...]

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No, thats what you interpret because it fits your thoughts.

I said "became super easy", but never that it was impossible before. But I admit it was WORK for me and I somestimes had months without sex. Changing to a more me-focussed attitude was prolly my most important step to change that. Doing what is best for yourself without actively trying to harm people of course greatly improved my life overall and if anyone else is also constantly more looking out for others than for himself -- i suggest to do the same.

Maybe my posting was not politically correct, but english is not my first language and I got the message across: Have fun, dont stick with the crazy if you get other option and take pictures because this thread lacks those.

If you think writing "make love to her" instead of "fuck her" or "keep your options open" instead of "dump her if you find something better" changes the meaning of my posting... well I disagree.

His situation is that he likes spending time with the girl, but she is too demanding/crazy. Suggestion of most people here is "ignore her". Why? Why not have a good time with a girl he likes (and that obviously likes him)? Moving on when he finds a better girl is the obvious choice anyway, given that she is CRAZY. It is not like he would treat her badly, like shit or hurt her. She"d enjoy the sex, too. She"d enjoy the time they spend together, too.
If he has other options right now; why even ask for advice regarding Mrs Crazy? Just move on. If he has no other options, why not have sex?

And the pictures? First most girls dont give a fuck. Hell, first time I took some I was asked by her to do it. Later I made it a habit, because a) I can and b) it adds some little tension to the situation, which in turn improves the quality of intercourse.

I dont get why you get so mad over this, tbh.

Inconsiderable said:

Doing what is best for yourself without actively trying to harm people of course greatly improved my life overall and if anyone else is also constantly more looking out for others than for himself -- i suggest to do the same.

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Not feeding off of others is generally better for society than making friends in the unemployment lines.

Other than that, you can make your life into whatever you think is important. In this case the pursuit of inseminating whatever you can get your dick close to.

Sutekh said:

So basically what you"re saying is originally you couldn"t get any women and getting laid was hard for you. Which I"m sure is due to some flaws in your personality,

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What are you talking about? When I was a fetus, I thought math was really hard. But later, after I practiced, I became good at math. Does that mean I have some flaw in my math-understanding ability, or does it simply mean that I hadn"t yet practiced math when I was a fetus?

Getting girls is a skill just like anything else in life, and one that can be improved upon. Just like social skills are skills, and tennis is a skill, and math is a skill. ALL skills are learned, some just learn something more naturally/intuitively, while others read a book to learn it. It"s the same process either way.

In summary, you"re a dumbshit for insulting someone for being bad at something in the past. I heard you cried like a bitch when you were born. That must make you a pussy now, right?

And yea, Inconsiderable"s post did come off as a little too frat-boy "yea brosephina fuck em and leave em WOO!" but as he points out, you can break out a couple euphemisms and the point of his post has nothing wrong with it: do what you want to do, look out for yourself, and the rest will fall in line (I would also add "while not intentionally deceiving anyone in the process").

Inconsiderable said:

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I guess I just share a completely different view. Sex isn"t the end all be all, I may have joined in a relation when I was a teenager for it. But at this point in time there"s no real necessity for it, you honestly can go out to a bar every night of the week and get laid easily. So why would you want to base something exclusive like a relationship off of something that"s so abundant? People do it everyday, I understand that. But that doesn"t mean it"s healthy. I don"t want to tell anyone how to live their life. I"m just saying it"s going to end up hurting you in the long run if you look at relationships like that..

"Oh here"s this girl that"s attracted to me and I don"t really like her, oh well I"ll get with her so we can have sex a couple times and then when the next choice cut comes by I"ll tell this one I have no interest anymore. Oh but make sure to get pictures so I can catalog my slayings."

^ Shit"s no good, because you"re going to retain that thought process whether you want to or not until you finally find someone you truly like and then you fuck it up immensely. Nearly EVERYONE in this thread has done something like that before, like at the start of the thread a good 60% of the posts are people talking about how they "fucked up" with a girl they really liked.

But I guess it"s where you place your priorities in life and no matter how many words people type that shit will never change unless you decide to do it yourself (Hello Brad).


brb wiping the froth from my mouth.

Dabamf said:

Illogical retard post

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You"ve also been thinking your entire life and it seems you still suck at it.

I guess if you take being unable to get the girls you want an insult, then take it that way. The only thing you could relate to an "insult" there was me saying there was obvious personality problems.

"getting girls" isn"t a skill, you"re not fucking calf roping. Having a fun/good personality is a skill, you don"t have to try and pick up random chicks to become good at it. You just have to be fun to be around and know how to talk to people. Try being in a relation with someone that"s your best friend, and then compare that to someone who you just purely had sex with. Because she"s HOT, I can guarntee the results will be much better!

Don"t bother man. They all know what they"re doing, which is why they"re single, amirite?

GrobbeeTrull2.0 said:

Don"t bother man. They all know what they"re doing, which is why they"re single, amirite?

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That"s not the point.

I"ll be the first person to admit having sex isAWESOMEI"m just saying building a relationship around it isn"t healthy, if you want to find some girl to have sex with at a bar, that"s cool more power to you if you"re single. But shit don"t make it an extended stay, don"t turn it in to a relationship. You will regret it.

anyways, late to class : |

Sutekh said:

I guess I just share a completely different view. Sex isn"t the end all be all,

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That"s funny, because he just said that you should enjoy casual sexuntil something better comes along.Now I know English is a difficult language and all, but I have 4th grade Korean students that woulda caught that part.

And thanks ahead of time for making this one so easy:

"getting girls" isn"t a skill

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Having a fun/good personality is a skill

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You just have to be fun to be around and know how to talk to people [to get girls].

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So having a fun/good personality is a skill, and getting girls is all about having a fun/good personality, but getting girls isn"t a skill?

How"s it feel to be so, so, sooo dumb?

Dabamf said:

do what you want to do, look out for yourself, and the rest will fall in line (I would also add "while not intentionally deceiving anyone in the process")

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This.

Sutekh: It is not only about sex, I suggest this attitude for all situations in live that do not include those you love (best friends, family, etc are clearly an exception). Always paying attention to the needs of others and always having regards towards others just gets you run over by them. And this is not their fault, it is your own fault for not looking out for yourself.

In this case it is about sex, because the topic is a girl that is no long-term option. Not sure about your age, but a large part of a young man"s life is dominated by sex (or the lack of it). When I look at my friends, how they act and how well (or not) they are doing with girls is more than enough proof.
It is in our genes, reproduction is our primary function no matter how sophisticated society tries to be. And it is a huge problem for many of us; no matter what you think.
And here is the point why I made a suggestion that seems to upset you: The simple fact of constantly having sex will improve your life overall; beside the obvious benefits, it changes your attitude, focus and confidence which affects all parts of your life. You obviously have it and act like you always did. Do you think someone who meets a girl online and asks for advice when she turns out to be crazy is in the same situation?
No offense here towards whoever posted the story in the first place, unlike Sutekh I believe it is more common that man have problems getting laid whenever they want than the other way around. Prolly the reason many seem to be so desperate for relationships. Convenience.

And btw I never suggested to build a relationship before telling mrs crazy to go to hell, I never suggested lying to her and so on. My point was and still is: Instead of ignoring her, enjoy the sex, but do not stick with her instead find someone who is not crazy. And take pictures so we can enjoy this thread abit more.

Shit"s no good, because you"re going to retain that thought process whether you want to or not until you finally find someone you truly like and then you fuck it up immensely.

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You know, I even agree with many things you say. You are not wrong. But not completely right either. The way you make it sound is just really horrible. For me its the details that make all the difference:
I agree, starting a relationship with someone you dont even like just to get sex is a terrible idea. Im on your side there. But having sex with a girl you like as a short-term thing (and no relationship) -- great idea, imo.

GrobbeeTrull2.0 said:

Don"t bother man. They all know what they"re doing, which is why they"re single, amirite?

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Wait. "They" means Dabamf and me in this case. He just broke up with a girl who wanted something long-term because he wants to enjoy single life with many different girls and I tried to avoid relationships exactly because of this, but recently started one because I found the first girl I consider to be the "right" one.
So basically this adds up to you being a moron. Big surprise.

Inconsiderable said:

Wait. "They" means Dabamf and me in this case. He just broke up with a girl who wanted something long-term because he wants to enjoy single life with many different girls and I tried to avoid relationships exactly because of this, but recently started one because I found the first girl I consider to be the "right" one.
So basically this adds up to you being a moron. Big surprise.

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Grobbee"s definition of success is the act of being in a relationship, regardless of what it is. That also makes Grobbee the most successful man here, because he is known to hold multiple relationships simultaneously, making him doubly successful. And in case anyone wants to dispute his success, he"s got the illegitimate children to prove it.

OhSeven said:

As long as you"re upfront and open about what you want in a relationship, what"s the problem? You can"t go into every relationship expecting it to turn into something long term, sometimes its healthy to just have a fuck buddy basically.

But, you"re pretty much required to be honest about it unless you"re a giant douche.

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I think you skipped past the original context. I don"t think the discussion was "Is it ok to have a casual relationship" more "Is it ok to get yours at any cost."