Girls who broke your heart thread

Ravvenn said:

You"re talking about the past, I"m talking about the current times and the future. Times have changed and the "rules" change as each year passes. That"s how it is. Women are damn near obligated to exhaust whatever means necessary to chase their youth. Even if the child"s father is not in their life and no actual drama comes with them, they"re still viewed as baggage. Dating a single mom is just not cool. That"s how it is.

Speak for the girls you date, son, not for women.

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It"s not that it isn"t cool; it"s because it"s a pain in the ass. Dating is a big enough PITA without adding another layer of baggage on top of it, and children aremassivebaggage.

As for as my comment is concerned, I was speaking largely to lack of maturity that"s prevalent in damned near 75% of the women out there. Maybe you don"t see it because you aren"t like that and don"t keep women like that in your social circle, but it sure seems that (that percentage of) women no longer dispense with the Cosmo advice columns as they whistle past 30 and still think they can pass themselves off on the same outfits they wore when they were 20. This is more of a societal issue than a gender issue though, but it"s still pertinent.

kegkilla said:

yep.

Divorce statistics in America for marriage
Marriage Divorce statistics (in percent)
First Marriage 45% to 50% marriages end in divorce
Second Marriage 60% to 67% marriages end in divorce
Third Marriage 70% to 73% marriages end in divorce


Divorce Statistics : Divorce Rate Statistics

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Exactly my point. Look at the % of Divorce by age at which they get married. Once you hit 40 years old you"re looking at a 5% Divorce rate which was what I was getting at. Which was that by the time you get into your 40"s you tend to end up with the person you spend your twilight years with and that almost nobody spends those years alone unless their partner has died.

My parents divorced when my mother was 31 (I was 3). As far as I know she never dated until she was in her late 40s, and got remarried in her mid 50s. Her time was spent on being a single mother and the sole provider for the family. As an adult now I have to say that whatever she potentially sacrificed by not dating after her divorce I gained by being in a stable household without a parade of Uncle So-and-Sos.

Being a single mom (and I"m talking about a stable single mom, not some stereotype of the so-called bad ones) is, as far as I can tell, an incredibly difficult job. I had a friend who had an Oops Baby in her early 20s and no guy would even bother.

That said, I wouldn"t date someone with children either.

Seths said:

Exactly my point. Look at the % of Divorce by age at which they get married. Once you hit 40 years old you"re looking at a 5% Divorce rate which was what I was getting at. Which was that by the time you get into your 40"s you tend to end up with the person you spend your twilight years with and that almost nobody spends those years alone unless their partner has died.

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I imagine a lot of factors come into that though moreso then just finally finding true love. The kid is old enough finally to not be an issue and the woman being more willing to settle for "good enough" being the two big ones.

I mean I"m 30 so I do run into single moms when looking to date on occasion and it"s not so much the fact that they have a kid or the logistical burdens, it"s just that I realize until that kid is 23 and out on his own I"m going to never be #1 in her life and that"s just...well fuck that noise.

My ego doesn"t tolerate competition and would seek out to crush the kid.

Jesus H. Christ

Vaginal rejuvenation
A "vaginal rejuvenation" is a non-reconstructive vaginoplasty that restores the muscle tone and the ?sthetics of the vagina, by removing excess tissues and tightening the supportive structures of the vulvovaginal complex, in effort either to reduce or to reverse the effects of aging andparturition (childbearing).The advantages are a physically comfortable health and an improved self-image (mental health); the potential disadvantages are decreased clitoral and genital sensation, and complications, such as infection, tissue adhesions, and scarring.[10]

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Yes they invented a surgery and use it for something that totally doesn"t exist?

The muscles lose their elasticity giving the feeling of being looser. That"s why most OB/GYNS recommend doing kegals to tighten things up down there. It"s also why bigger menstrual cups are recommended after giving birth. The muscles just aren"t as strong as they used to be and for some women, never will be.

Sharmai said:

For me personally I can describe the difference like this (yes my wife practices cugels and our baby was small FYI): before the baby she was tight burgeoning on painful and when wet it you could feel the pulse of her heartbeat through your groin. Now I can only feel that pulse during her orgasms and while it is still decently tight before orgasm it loosens way the he"ll up after. Usually after she orgasms the pressure loss is enough that the pleasure is downgraded to much to continue in that position.

It"s like giving yourself a hand job then all of a sudden reducing the pressure. Sure it"s still good and if you try long enough you"ll still get off but it"s obviously not as good as it was.

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Sharmai said:

@Erronius It"s more of a before and after thing. If you"ve been with a women and before it was super tight and excellently wet then she has a baby and now it"s only sometimes tight your girth isnt going to change that.

I dont care how big you are , you are never going to fill her up as fully as you did before she pushed one out and that difference is definitely noticable.

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Sharmai said:

I"m not saying it was cavernous or anything but if you are telling me your women had a baby and snapped back exactly like she was before then you are lying your ass off.

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Sharmai said:

It"s an extremely common issue (the less pressure issue not the surgery to fix it though that is common somewhat).

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TheCutlery said:

Yeah, they invented a surgery to fix a problem that a number of women stress out about. Not that they all fucking need. I"m sure prior to that surgery all families had one child because dad had to jerk off into mom"s cunt sincehe couldn"t touch the fucking walls.

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I mean really?

All this talk makes one wonder why in the world Charlie prefers pornstars?

Lefazz said:

All this talk makes one wonder why in the world Charlie prefers pornstars?

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Being single has no tangible downsides.

@Lefazz I am guessing you have never banged a women with Daddy Issues? Go try it and remember that most pornstars have EXTREME issues many times including Daddy.

Zehn - Vhex said:

I imagine a lot of factors come into that though moreso then just finally finding true love. The kid is old enough finally to not be an issue and the woman being more willing to settle for "good enough" being the two big ones.

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I didn"t mean to imply that it takes true love before they end up getting married at that age. What I think it is is that we aren"t really taught the skills or tools needed growing up in how to communicate, or interact in a serious long term relationship. These are things most people sadly only gain after years of making missteps and mistakes. It often takes lots of trial and error that if we had these skills earlier in life we wouldn"t be needing to learn our lessons the hard way.

So that in the end by the time most people are in their 40"s or later they have generally learned enough to be able to make a relationship last.

If I remember correctly while it"s true that once a person gets a divorce they are much more likely to get divorced again this pattern only holds until marriage #4 at which point IIRC the rate drops drastically. To me that says the person finally learned enough about relationships and gained enough maturity to actually make it work. That and I think what seems important at one point in our life loses that importance later, such as whether or not a woman we"re interested in already has children.

Isn"t Sharmai the one that was bragging about banging a mistress on the side and then when we didn"t think it was cool went "J/K guys lol!"

Or was that someone else?

Nope, pretty sure it was him. May have had a bastard or two as well, but it"s so hard to keep all the illegitimate kids straight round here.

I"m not judging though. This is a judgment free thread.

What"s wrong with having a mistress?

It wasn"t that simple. I don"t recall the details because frankly I didn"t give a fuck, but it was him initially saying something pretty stupid with the intent of it sounding awesome, followed by a dozen pages of people calling him out and him backtracking.

Ravvenn:

I could be wrong, but I think your perspective is a bit jilted, living in one of the most shallow places in the country, if not the world. I"m not saying things aren"t tough for single moms: they definitely are. But impossible? Far from it. It just takes a man with some character, who wants someone he wants for a life partner rather than someone who fits a neat array of checkboxes.

FoghornDeadhorn said:

Ravvenn:

I could be wrong, but I think your perspective is a bit jilted, living in one of the most shallow places in the country, if not the world. I"m not saying things aren"t tough for single moms: they definitely are. But impossible? Far from it. It just takes a man with some character, who wants someone he wants for a life partner rather than someone who fits a neat array of checkboxes...and I"m that man. call me

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