Don"t date at work. Seriously.
Something else:
My best friend, whom I have known for 12 years now, the one who helped me through the abusive relationship with crazy-ex (well it was emotionally abusive at least), the person I can 100% rely on to give me his last shirt, ended his relationship (again) in november. His ex was really stupid and their relationship was going nowhere at all, so everyone applauded him on the decision.
He then proceeded to date and bang the woman of his dreams, someone whom he knows for 9 years or something. Life was all great, until she started showing her darker side...
A little backstory: so this woman is 31, give or take a year, always had shitty jobs until she went and sat on her ass to get a degree so she can work for the state. Not bad, his last girls/women weren"t that driven for success. She earned very little money in that period, had to move around the time they got together (relocating for new job to start after her exam results come through). So he did what every upstanding idiot would do and took her in.
Not much later they were a couple. Now keep in mind she"s really thin, and he"s... fat. Not ultra huge, but easily 280 lbs. I always wondered how that works.
In the first few weeks that didn"t seem to matter, she loved him for his character, yadda yadda, until one day she told him the sex would be so much better if he wasn"t so fat.
Ouch.
She also didn"t contribute financially, i.e. heating, electricity, food... she didn"t even try to compensate him for what she used up. He wasn"t going to have her pay half the rent, but a token effort would be considered polite I guess... she might at least have asked, he could still turn down the offer.
So anyway as the year ended and the new year started he realized that this wasn"t it, after all. He tried waiting a bit to see if she changed. Nothing of that sort happened though. She borrowed his car because hers had to be repaired, she burned through a full tank of gas, and refilled about 1/8 of a tank before she gave it back.
She also lied to him about only getting 300 (monies) per month when in truth she got 850 ... he stumbled across a salary note by accident (sorting the trash or something... or maybe he went looking for it, but I wouldn"t think of him that way).
He told her he considers the relationship to be over as of today, and to pack her stuff and GTFO. Her reply was along the lines of "took you long to realize that".
My best friend feels used and I have no idea how to comfort him. All the "she wasn"t the one" or "she"s not worth it" or "look forward, not back" can"t really cheer him up.
She really broke his heart because he was 100% sure this would be the woman he wants to live his life with. Now he"s "done with women" and "will resort to whacking off in front of the tv".
Guy will be 39 this year... insert "forever alone.jpg"
I think I"ll have to get drunk with him.
