I think that this was the worst part of seeing a single mother to be honest, at least for me. Especially in a long term relationship. It"s hard enough for two parents to raise a child, even harder for a single mother. Most of the kids I"ve seen raised by single mothers played them like a harp and made out like bandits, had no discipline, and totally got away with tons of shit. So I"d be dating someone who would be pulling her hair out trying to raise kids on her own, but I wouldn"t be able to help whatsoever because those women seemingly didn"t want to depend on a mans help, to the point of seething about it. The kids, who already manipulate their mother, realize that new boyfriend #7 isn"t any different than the prior 6, and than they will always be able to play off their mother for what they want.
I had my heart broken pretty badly years ago by a single mother, when we had dated for over a year and she was only willing to keep dating for the foreseeable future. She had been married once before, and swore that she would never get married again. I saw her long enough that the kid were calling me daddy, but she would talk as if we were simply friends with benefits. It bothered me, but she would say that the kids weren"t my concern. My buddies thought I was living the dream (attractive MILF, no strings attached, no threat of marriage) but I always felt the opposite. Why would I want to keep seeing someone whose children were becoming more and more attached, but the mother was unwilling to take it beyond casual sex?
In the end we broke up partially over the children. And this woman, who had told me many times that she wasn"t looking for a husband, had her boss move in with her 2 weeks after we split. And then it hit me: she wasn"t looking to make me into a husband, because I didn"t own 3 businesses and wasn"t wealthy. I was just there to keep the bed warm until she could find someone to leech off of. Just another dick to put inside of her until she could find one that was attached to a lot of money, 2 houses, multiple cars, etc. I think that"s what made me anti-marriage and somewhat anti-family. Why do I want to bust my ass just to be taken advantage of? Just to be a meal ticket in a society where divorce rates are as high as they are? So I can work myself into an early grave and help raise the kids, so I can be divorced once they move out for college? Fuck that.
