Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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I dunno. Like when my brother comes over and watches his japamation movies on my TV I don't mind a bit. I don't give a shit. But if I'm in the kitchen and I can still hear it I'll yell at his dumb ass to turn the shit down. What the fuck are you, deaf? And I don't wanna fuck my brother either.

Once is a mistake, twice is just perverse.
 
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Screw that. Bitch is I-will-kill-you-crazy and frigid. She is taking advantage of him and she is like 10 years his senior. He needs a plan to get out of that shit ASAP.

The bro is a worker, seems like a decent man, and has killer guns and calves. He should be plowing a recently-divorced 30-something MILF who knows what she wants and doesn't play games.

There is no reason to start pulling crazy shit to start trying to manipulate this woman into sex. We're way past that now.
 
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Been tiling all day.
Ya the craziness thing is the hornets nest here. We don't fight because I typically avoid conflict with her, although she is a very negative person, she seems to like me more than the other 99.999999999999 of the world.
I joke all the time when she comes into my office about the TV, hey look I am seeing more of this chicks tits on a network channel than I see of yours. She will laugh and just keep on talking.

Yesterday I was blaring this in the house. She came in sat down in the other chair and started drinking a beer laughing about it.

She just doesn't give a fuck, I guess after all these years it is a giant joke now.
So then I went to backpage and was looking at Escorts in BG, KY and the selection is low here, but she pointed at one and said she is pretty.

In other news, on my way home I passed the gold course and there is a Paul Walker Memorial Game? WTF 2fast2furious.
Somebody That You Used to Blow (Parody of Somebody That I Used To Know) by ChokeOnFunny - YouTube

Edit NM Different Paul Walker.
 
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Been tiling all day.
Ya the craziness thing is the hornets nest here. We don't fight because I typically avoid conflict with her, although she is a very negative person, she seems to like me more than the other 99.999999999999 of the world.
I joke all the time when she comes into my office about the TV, hey look I am seeing more of this chicks tits on a network channel than I see of yours. She will laugh and just keep on talking.

Yesterday I was blaring this in the house. She came in sat down in the other chair and started drinking a beer laughing about it.

She just doesn't give a fuck, I guess after all these years it is a giant joke now.
So then I went to backpage and was looking at Escorts in BG, KY and the selection is low here, but she pointed at one and said she is pretty.

In other news, on my way home I passed the gold course and there is a Paul Walker Memorial Game? WTF 2fast2furious.
Somebody That You Used to Blow (Parody of Somebody That I Used To Know) by ChokeOnFunny - YouTube

Edit NM Different Paul Walker.
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Well, I'm not sure if I should envy or pity you. In one sense you have the equivalent of a live in maid that doesn't bust your balls and is practically encouraging you to go out and bang other women, but on the other hand you're still in what seems to be a loveless marriage. The former would possibly outweigh the latter if not for the fact that having a relationship with someone normal while living with another woman is practically impossible. Having your cake and eating it too is basically so close, yet still so far.. It's always easy to say this when you aren't the one living it, but it seems like it may be time to move-on. Start making a list of why you're sticking around, and if you can't come up with at least three solid reasons, your reason for staying may be more co-dependence related rather than a rational one.
 
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No, that was over in the first few years. She has to have it cricket quiet, no air movement and like 90 degrees. I have to have a fan and about 65 degrees. My body temp from working all day usually outside keeps me hot until late in the night. It was 90 today and she is sleeping on a heated waterbed. No way that is even possible for me. I can't sleep if I am hot.

She just went batshit again. I was reading a article about living past 100 on a news site. I laughed when I read the secret was happiness and laughter. She started asking why I was laughing. I said it is good for you. She said well I am not happy. I said that is obvious. She went on how I dragged her back from TN against her will in 2010. I was like uhh when I left TN I never asked you to move back here, her response? Well I didn't have money so you have forced me to live with you the past 4 years.

FUCKING WHAT? I pay all her shit and she is my hostage? What kind of fucked up thinking is that? She should grateful I have kept her ass from being homeless.
 
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Just start dating while you're working on leaving this mess. She is nothing but a roommate at this point given you don't even sleep in the same beds.
 
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Jesus, Olebass. I don't even.

I mean if you leave her, she might die. But it's not like you owe her your eternal soul. If she can do any kind of work, even part time. -Something- to give her a little bit of independence. Because it sounds like she has exactly 0 in this situation.

That's some srs fkn bsns for sure. There's got to be some sort of middle ground between dump her in the homeless shelter 3 towns over and spend the rest of your life as the only financial security that she has which not only do you resent her for, but that she resents you for as well.
 
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No, that was over in the first few years. She has to have it cricket quiet, no air movement and like 90 degrees. I have to have a fan and about 65 degrees. My body temp from working all day usually outside keeps me hot until late in the night. It was 90 today and she is sleeping on a heated waterbed. No way that is even possible for me. I can't sleep if I am hot.

She just went batshit again. I was reading a article about living past 100 on a news site. I laughed when I read the secret was happiness and laughter. She started asking why I was laughing. I said it is good for you. She said well I am not happy. I said that is obvious. She went on how I dragged her back from TN against her will in 2010. I was like uhh when I left TN I never asked you to move back here, her response? Well I didn't have money so you have forced me to live with you the past 4 years.

FUCKING WHAT? I pay all her shit and she is my hostage? What kind of fucked up thinking is that? She should grateful I have kept her ass from being homeless.
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It's called Blame, Rage, and entitlement. Read this article dude:Blame and Rage: What Abusive Women Call Problem-Solving | Shrink4Men

I would straight up tell her you're done. There's nothing about your relationship that is "marriage" except for the fact that you live with her. Ask her to prove otherwise, and when she can't ask her then why you should remain married.. You're still together because you're afraid of change and have become co-dependent. Been there and done that. Start planning your escape. Personally, dealing with her in any type of separation will be volatile/stressful enough, so I can't completely concur with Lindz' recommendation of dating, but if you can manage it all go for it.
 
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Last fall I was doing work for a very well off family who had issues with shoddy contractors in the past, anyways 5 months on the job( I did a fuckton of work to that house ) I am talking to the wife of the guy and telling her about her back issues.
I mentioned it was her Bday the next month and I was thinking about getting her a massage gift card or something.
Next day she gives me 4 passes to Heartland here which was worth $100 per massage due to hot stone options and more.
I give them to her being honest where they came from. No thank you, didn't call to thank her, instead bitched about how must be nice to give people money you don't know.
I said well I can give them back, and she was like no, no, no. She bitched about it every time she used one.

She made another comment tonight about someone buying a house for 50 million or something, that she should just slit her wrists because she was never going to find a millionaire.
That is what her mentality is right now. Everyone on this planet owes her something.
 
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LOL@ that article. Every example she has done and I knew this. This is why I keep the conflicts down, it is what trips her off.
I am not much a drinker. I drink some moonshine( don't ask ) at the rate of a pint every month or two. She drinks beer at the rate of a 30 pack every 2-3 days.
 
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That is a grade A psycho you living with there

Get out man. Run as fast as you can.
 
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Dat corn liqour.

People don't appreciate moonshine. It's really just everclear. You're only insane if you drink that shit straight.
 
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I have a homeowner who has a wife always wanting stuff done. If it is a small job he pays in well you know.

In other news. Tornado spotted 8 miles away. EBS came up Tornado Warning, expected hazards Tornado. Glad they cleared that up.
 
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I know we've moved on my now, but I still had this reply open so whatever...

she has anxiety issues that came on after our second kid. She claims she has always had them but I never saw that, for years, and then all of the sudden she just can't deal with reality. She's taking meds now, a ton of them, which at least keep her from having panic attacks constantly. Two of the meds have decreased libido as a side effect. And we have young kids so obviously it isn't a porn shoot 24/7 at our house anyway. But this has been more than two years of this.

Thinking it through all I can think of is that I will wait until she has recovered from her surgery and just try talking to her again. It hasn't worked so far but maybe it will. I really don't want to go the counseling route.
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I never understood "decreased libido". Is that code for not able to get an erection/lubricated or just not wanting to have sex?
This is completely untrue.
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Exactly. "biological clock" = urge to fuck.
 
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It's just code for "dont feel like having sex"

I know it's a hard thing for a red blooded man to imagine, but it's a real thing.

At a certain level it's all just chemicals coursing through your blood, man.
 
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She's nothing more than a roommate who isn't paying her fair share of the expenses. End that ASAP.
 
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It's just code for "dont feel like having sex"

I know it's a hard thing for a red blooded man to imagine, but it's a real thing.

At a certain level it's all just chemicals coursing through your blood, man.
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What horse shit then. God I hate society and views on sex.
 
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Well, but maybe there's a misunderstanding.

By code for "don't feel like having sex" it actually literally means that you don't feel like having sex. Either as much, or at all, or what have you. The frequency/impulse is decreased.

Not like it's just an excuse. And "chemicals coursing through your blood" is a gross oversimplification. But at a certain level, it's basically true.
 
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