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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Soygen
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Dick in the butt. It's the only way to interpret that.
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Crone
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My wife is 1 of 8 kids, and so their house growing up was never "spotless", so it's not in her to "clean" really. Clutter is the normal she's known her entire life. A new thing that I like doing though is making a point of eating dinners together. Whether that's Wendy's I just brought home for everyone, or something we made at home. This has forced us to get the kitchen table "shit catcher" under control and cleaned up and we eat dinner often enough together that it stays that way. The issue is gonna be when I leave for 2 weeks, and what it's going to turn into!
Hoss
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So, tell him to start on book 3. He's a fucking writer. He's never without a job unless the editor is telling him what to write. If he needs a second job, it should be household budgeting. Since you're tightening the old belt now, he could be putting everything into spreadsheets and coupon'ing and figuring out how to feed the family for 30 cents a day. I mean he chose a career where you need to be a self starter. If he wants to make it work, he needs to self start! I think it's Ok if you kick start his self starter.
By the way, what are the books about? Have you plugged them in another section?
I know this is off topic, but I'm wondering about the timing. Was the cuck thing going on during his depression or when the marriage was stressed?
Wait, why am I being down on him, I'm supposed to take the dudes side. This is your fault. How often do you blow him? Practice positive reinforcement.
Holy shit that's genius. Tell your wife I'm stealing that. I'm already allergic to nearly everything so it'll be believable. Tell her to send me a PM about how she fakes the rash.
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I can only speak anecdotally but I delved into MMO addiction to escape my real world depression when I was younger. I have to imagine he's doing the same thing. I don't have a fix because I don't think there really is a fix coming from the outside. I also don't really agree with drugging in this case because I don't believe I was depressed due to a chemical imbalance there were things wrong with my life that I was unwilling or unable to fix. If he gets a script he'll just be a drugged up zombie masking the real problem instead of fixing the root of the cause.
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I mean, you'd have to be okay with your wives being with the other guy obviously, but in a totally non-gay fashion you could have a different woman each night, and threesomes now and then. If you wanted to do foursomes/group you could, but not necessary. None of that is remotely gay.
It'd be pretty hard to deal with in a long term arrangement, but it'd be something.
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He could write a scene where a bunch of kids get lost in the sewers and have a gang bang to refocus. Just spitballing
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iannis
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yeah, you gotta stop with the EQ shit. At least he does. And you gotta remind him that you're his wife, not his mother.
Get him into Dorf Fortress.
Being stressed out by EQ is no bueno. Everyone on this board understands how it CAN happen.
We also all understand that it has to stop happening. It's giving him a sense of self worth. He needs to find a better one.
Get him into Dorf Fortress.
Being stressed out by EQ is no bueno. Everyone on this board understands how it CAN happen.
We also all understand that it has to stop happening. It's giving him a sense of self worth. He needs to find a better one.
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Haast
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Soygen
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In beta I used to farm this zombie in the Qeynos sewers(Rosco? Bosco?) who dropped this +5 CHA Order of Thunder. Nobody knew what the fuck stats even did then, but I made a killing with those things. I'd probably still be married if I didn't find that camp...
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Sort of, but swinging implies new partners regularly. This would be more like a poly quad. Swingers are like couples who go out and have sex with others. This isn't what he was implying, he was implying they are like a married foursome.
Might be a distinction without a difference, but there ya go.
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Namon
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A bit late, sure, but I'm here to tell you, that is exactly what you need to do. This is the same struggle me and my wife have had for 12 years. His tolerance and your tolerance are two completely different levels. You see dishes in the sink, and they probably burn at your retinas until they are done, whereas he's ok with that amount and won't move unprovoked on them until they are much higher. Me and my wife sit down for an evening and it's the same conversation. To me everything is fine and can wait so I can relax after a long day, and she's hopping up after a breather to tackle the pile of shit she sees that needs done before she goes to bed. Not once am I thinking "bitch needs to have my laundry clean, and my dishes clean, or else." I just flat out think it's fine and it can wait for BOTH of us until a time we aren't so tired.
Soygen
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lindz
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Yeah, we don't do them often anymore. Mainly because most suck these days. Usually only lasts for a few months when we do and it could only ever be an evening and weekend thing before. I'm thinking with the setup we have, they are definitely going to be more problematic.
I'm just trying to be really careful around all of this and I'll probably give it a few more weeks while maybe gently pushing a bit more. I'm still in the "it can't go on forever" phase which maybe is naive, but a girl can hope... Regardless, thank you all for listening to me vent for a moment.