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Haast
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She went off the deep end tonight. She sent me this 500 page text saying she went on Match.com to see if I had been on there and it said that I had been on there an hour ago. She goes on to ask how can I say I care about her when I'm out looking for other options, etc.
The thing is, I wasn't on Match and hadn't been for at least a week. I tell her as much and then she sends a screenshot and sure enough it says I'd been on there 1 hour ago. So, I'm in a tough spot. She thinks I'm lying when I've been nothing but faithful to her.
Not to be defeated, I asked Professor Google, and I found the answer. If you open any email from Match.com, it will show you as being active on their site. Earlier in the evening I had clicked on some Match emails so I could delete them.
I don't know if she believes me or not. I'm upset with her because of the too-extreme reaction and I'm pissed at Match for putting me in this situation.
The thing is, I wasn't on Match and hadn't been for at least a week. I tell her as much and then she sends a screenshot and sure enough it says I'd been on there 1 hour ago. So, I'm in a tough spot. She thinks I'm lying when I've been nothing but faithful to her.
Not to be defeated, I asked Professor Google, and I found the answer. If you open any email from Match.com, it will show you as being active on their site. Earlier in the evening I had clicked on some Match emails so I could delete them.
I don't know if she believes me or not. I'm upset with her because of the too-extreme reaction and I'm pissed at Match for putting me in this situation.
iannis
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She went on match.com to see if you'd been on there. And then confronted you about it.
It doesn't really matter if she believes you. I'd say there are some trust issues here that are going to take a bunch of work. Probably more work than it's worth. And I'm really not a bail at the first hint of not-perfect sort. But that's gonna be a persistent sort of thing.
I don't need a woman who goes checking up behind me like that. Like that. If she goes checking up behind me that's well and good. A person has to protect themselves. But I gotta say that's the wrong way to handle the situation. That betrays a deep insecurity that you're not gonna fix. So I mean if you wanna go through this shit every so often... maybe the other parts of her are worth it. And I don't mean the vaginer.
It doesn't really matter if she believes you. I'd say there are some trust issues here that are going to take a bunch of work. Probably more work than it's worth. And I'm really not a bail at the first hint of not-perfect sort. But that's gonna be a persistent sort of thing.
I don't need a woman who goes checking up behind me like that. Like that. If she goes checking up behind me that's well and good. A person has to protect themselves. But I gotta say that's the wrong way to handle the situation. That betrays a deep insecurity that you're not gonna fix. So I mean if you wanna go through this shit every so often... maybe the other parts of her are worth it. And I don't mean the vaginer.
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Big Phoenix
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iannis
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She was checking to make sure that he wasn't on it. Duh! YOU DON'T GET TO ASK THE QUESTIONS HERE.
Khane
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If she wants to know if you're seeing anyone else she can just ask you. Snooping around to try to catch you in a lie is underhanded and childish. If you don't break things off with her you should tell her that and also be completely unapologetic about why Match said you were online an hour ago. You have no reason to apologize.
Khane
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Not sure what Match could change about that. You have to log into Match to delete Match emails.
McCheese
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Oh. He said "if you open any emails from Match.com", which I took to mean deleting the actual emails from your email account and not logging into the site to delete things.
Khane
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Nah just opening the email from your email account doesn't notify Match of anything unless you click on one of the match links from within the email
Cad
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It could if the email loads a specific url image on the site which then updates your logged in status. I'm not saying it does this but it easily could.
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Khane
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