The whole female vs male in game character thing is one of those things people have odd opinions on. I've played mostly female characters for the simple fact that it just feels fucking weird to me checking out a male toon in his armor with his male bulge and all muscled out as opposed to a female one which I find much more pleasing. Its less about replacing me or role playing me in game and more about what I like to look at while I'm playing. Frankly, checking out new gear on some overly muscled out juicer vs a smoking hot chick with heavily stacked tits I'll take the tits any time.
To each his own though. By all means ogle those male bulges if you like em.
I have heard this a few times and it never rings true for me personally, subjectively speaking:
1) Its a video game character. I am never looking at a in-game character with an eye towards arousal of any type. It's apples and airplanes.
2) It's my own avatar in a video game, representing me. It's like looking into a shitty mirror and getting turned on. Not enough steps away from playing tuck-and-pose with terrible techno drowning out the screams of the girl in the pit dug in my basement.
3)The above said, if you want to be in some spiral of getting excited by looking at a female video game model which is your own avatar and then wanting to fuck yourself but being gay for yourself was just a bit too weird, go right ahead. There is a Lloyd Dobler speech in there somewhere about not getting turned on by myself, digital things, or digital things representing myself but I digress. It's trying to keep the "alternate sex image of yourself" magic happening the real world where the problems seem to come in.
If you are on the other side of the divide where some people playing games imbue the on-screen avatar with a sense of self and others who place themselves in a more voyeuristic mode for "game" "play", whatevs. Any way you process it, fine by me if you are a bulge ogler, a slit viewer, a bounce beholder, an ass assessor, or if you just play games without sizing up the in-game models like it was last call Saturday night at the Cougar Trap. Just don't let your fetishisms or lack thereof damage my enjoyment of a game, a guild, or a forum, thank you very much.