So need a little dating advice as the girl who broke your heart thread is basically dead. Back story... I started dating a girl rather seriously who I've been friends with for about 11 years. We've hooked up off and on since we met, but was never anything serious. She moved out of state (about 12 hours away) 4 years ago for work and we kept sporadic contact. About 1 year ago she comes in because of a death in the family and she ends up staying with me for about a month. Things go great and she decides she wants to move back home and luckily enough her company is willing to let her work remotely. Another thing to note, this is probably like 1 of the 3 actual real relationships I have had in my life, so I'm not some don juan or very experienced in real relationships. Things were going pretty good during the 2 months we were planning the move until one night she goes awol and isn't responding to me. After pressuring her the following week she ends up admitting me she saw (probably fucked) one of her exes. So I called it all off on my part, ceased communication with her, and pretty much lost trust with her.
About 3 months ago she randomly textes me, tells me she ended up moving home anyway, and wanted to see me. Even though I knew I probably shouldn't, I wanted ass, so I told her to come over. We proceeded to basically pick up like nothing ever happened, moved into the house she bought, and have been happily ever since. Good right?
It was until this week. She ended up having to go back to where she worked for the week for a court hearing that was work related. It made me really apprehensive because I knew she really liked living there and of course she'd be around people (guys) she hadn't seen in a while, but I didn't want to be a worry wort so I sucked it up and just told myself everything would be good. First night she gets there she tells me she's going down to the hotel restaurant for a salad. We're texting back and forth and then it just stops. After she didn't respond, I didn't send another message. All I'm reminded of at this point is of what happened earlier in our relationship. Next morning rolls around and she starts blowing my phone up while I'm at the gym. Finally call her back and she proceeds to tell me she got shit housed (with who I have no idea) and didn't realize she didn't respond to me. I tell her I'm pretty annoyed with her, had pretty much had nothing to tell her, and hang up. She texts with " Please don't act like that. I'm sorry I didn't respond. It was my first night out here and I was just having fun. I don't want to always feel like I'm in trouble." So basically I have trust issues and she just shrugs it off like I have no reason to be mad. I think if the situation is reversed, she's furious.
Like I said I'm basically a level 1 noob at relationships. Would you married folks be ok with your signicant other going down to the bar like and getting shithoused most likely with guys. I know all relationships have different boundaries they expect from their spouse, but am I being overbearing bitch for expecting that not to be ok? I've just been going back and forth all week whether I bring all this up when she gets back or just forget about it and trust her.
Sorry for the wall of text and the pity party. Most of my friends already have opinions on her, so i'd appreciate peoples insight who are neutral.
