I don't know man, that last sentence makes me just want to say fuck it all. If she's willing to give it another shot after you change some, and you're willing to give it another shot after she changes. Why not just go find people that are better suited towards the both of you.I'm really not going to chase her all over the earth. She's got valid complaints, I just never cared when anyone else said them. I get along very well with 95% of the people I meet and work with, but I'm sure I'm not an easy guy to date. One thing she said that pissed me off was that I'm always "bubbly". First off, the word is emasculating. Second, I'm not bouncing off the walls happy, I'm just always in a good mood. I enjoy life and apparently that's exhausting.
The way I see it, I lost someone I wanted to keep and part of the reason is personality flaws that have needed to be fixed for awhile. I won't date her again just because she'll have me. She needs to make some changes too, I just need to make the majority of them. She is a damn good cook, though.
Well I'd agree it does take work and compromise, but it takes work and compromise from both parties that are willing to do it. It sounds like she's pretty unwilling if she decided to call it quits and THEN wants to give it another go after you're fixed. Personally that trait isn't something that sounds appealing to me, especially in someone that I'd potentially want to marry.And that's pretty much the thought that's been occupying my mind. I normally do just say fuck it.
I used to be a tour guide in Hawaii. One of the random, cheesy, canned questions you always ask older couples that offer something like "we're celebrating our 50th anniversary" is "So, help out a young guy. What's the secret?". Older couples always say it takes work and compromise and young people aren't willing to do that.
That's a big part of why I'm willing to work at it.
Man that's some pretty important information to leave out...I think she's willing to change, she just wants to see a change in me first. Besides, who cares? If it ends up being positive life changes, the I don't think the reason matters so much. I may be doing it for her, but I'm definitely prepared for the relationship not to start up again.
ADHD was a damn good trait to have as a zipline guide. Now I'm working a more professional job where full attention is critical. I'm also back in school again.
EDIT: One thing I forgot to mention is that I broke up with her a few weeks earlier. She was getting distant and wasn't ever smiling or happy. She's got a lot going on with starting a new job, so I was trying to be understanding of that. I felt pretty bad about breaking up with her right when she's starting a new job. She came over the next day and said she's just stressed and hasn't been coming over as much because she feels like we're at the comfortable part of our relationship and she doesn't need to see me 24/7. There had been tension for a few weeks before that, but I don't feel like typing it all out right now. Basically, we were bickering about every little thing.
I asked if she wanted to give it another shot, and she said yes. I also told her if she felt like we weren't right for eachother, "now is the best and most pain free time to end it." She said that she loves me and still sees us getting married in the future.
Dunno, does not compute to me.
TL;DRI think she's willing to change, she just wants to see a change in me first. Besides, who cares? If it ends up being positive life changes, the I don't think the reason matters so much. I may be doing it for her, but I'm definitely prepared for the relationship not to start up again.
ADHD was a damn good trait to have as a zipline guide. Now I'm working a more professional job where full attention is critical. I'm also back in school again.
EDIT: One thing I forgot to mention is that I broke up with her a few weeks earlier. She was getting distant and wasn't ever smiling or happy. She's got a lot going on with starting a new job, so I was trying to be understanding of that. I felt pretty bad about breaking up with her right when she's starting a new job. She came over the next day and said she's just stressed and hasn't been coming over as much because she feels like we're at the comfortable part of our relationship and she doesn't need to see me 24/7. There had been tension for a few weeks before that, but I don't feel like typing it all out right now. Basically, we were bickering about every little thing.
I asked if she wanted to give it another shot, and she said yes. I also told her if she felt like we weren't right for eachother, "now is the best and most pain free time to end it." She said that she loves me and still sees us getting married in the future.
Dunno, does not compute to me.
Yea, there's a lot of talk about wanting to change, but none of that matters because the first communication about issues came after it was already over. There either wasn't enough respect there to have a real conversation about problems, or both of you really didn't care in the first place. You just miss it now that it's gone.Bandwagon, any good relationship is built on respect, love doesn't mean shit without respect. Short version neither of you respect each other and no matter what you do to better your self you and the current girl will never work.
Good, fuck her man--you're always in a good mood. That's fucking fantastic don't change yourself for some dumb chick, who'll try and drain that shit from you anyway. You know how many assholes, myself include have our fucking days--where, we're just a fucking a bummer to be around. Being a genuinely upbeat person is something I envy in people that can generate it perpetually. My Dad's a genuinely upbeat guy, he's spent the last 30 odd years having that drained out of him by his **** wife. Don't give up happiness that you already have, to get more happiness that she's gonna drain from you.I'm always "bubbly".
Mexians. They bring their chickens with them. I'm not even fucking kidding.Roosters. I live in a major world city, why am I dealing with roosters?
Get a fake organ donor card with N/E HepC printed in bright red letters on the front, and keep it in your wallet at all times.Not really looking to get into anything, but the ego-boost was much appreciated.
Nah man, I live in Vietnam. Not too many Mexicans here.Mexians. They bring their chickens with them. I'm not even fucking kidding.
I think it's a cute trait personally, but it is pretty fucking funny when you're sitting outside and they start crowing at like 10 o'clock. Roosters don't crow at dawn. They crow whenever they fucking feel like.
Stupid and mean. If God ever created an animal that deserves to be eaten, it's a fucking chicken.