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Today, one of my co-workers cried when I suggested that she socialize less. She spends so much time talking that it annoys a lot of people, and no one in my workplace has the balls to tell her. This has been going on foryears.Some people have indirectly (as a joke or to a group of people) asked her talk less. I work in a hospital, and I can say for a fact that her talking has delayed patient care.
I have a lot of experience suggesting stuff to people. I've done it many times at work, and people still like and respect me. So I talked to this person about her socializing, asking her if she would do it less, and she got all defensive, then started talking about random stuff not related to the issue at hand, and then drama'ed herself into crying. I did it in a reasonable and calm way, and people who heard me also agreed. I don't regret doing it at all. One of my other co-workers said that it may have been better if I had talked one-to-one, and I can see how that may have been better, but it's quite a bit more effective when you catch someone in the middle of the act. Also, I've always made suggestions in public (e.g., when someone is talking in the library and it bugs me).
This situation has left me thinking: when is it reasonable to tell someone that they bug you? You can give input into my situation, or you can talk about your own experiences in the workplace, with friends, family, girlfriend, or your spouse.
1) Is it always good to make a reasonable suggestion to someone, especially if you think it's constructive?
2) When should it be done and in what way?
3) When should you hold it in and not express your mind? Have you had experiences where you regretted not expressing your mind?
I have a lot of experience suggesting stuff to people. I've done it many times at work, and people still like and respect me. So I talked to this person about her socializing, asking her if she would do it less, and she got all defensive, then started talking about random stuff not related to the issue at hand, and then drama'ed herself into crying. I did it in a reasonable and calm way, and people who heard me also agreed. I don't regret doing it at all. One of my other co-workers said that it may have been better if I had talked one-to-one, and I can see how that may have been better, but it's quite a bit more effective when you catch someone in the middle of the act. Also, I've always made suggestions in public (e.g., when someone is talking in the library and it bugs me).
This situation has left me thinking: when is it reasonable to tell someone that they bug you? You can give input into my situation, or you can talk about your own experiences in the workplace, with friends, family, girlfriend, or your spouse.
1) Is it always good to make a reasonable suggestion to someone, especially if you think it's constructive?
2) When should it be done and in what way?
3) When should you hold it in and not express your mind? Have you had experiences where you regretted not expressing your mind?