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Mist

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So what are you suggesting? The laws and social norms as of today already coddle the woman more so than the man in a rape charge.
My point is that you guys seem to be framing all your arguments as if you're protecting Good Guy Greg from all these false rape accusations, where my point is that Good Guy Greg is not the one that's going around raping and/or abusing women, and the Good Guy Gregs of the world are not the ones being accused of rape. So while yourhypotheticalarguments are all designed to protect Good Guy Greg, what they're doing inrealityis protecting Scumbag Steve.
 

Lithose

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My point is that you guys seem to be framing all your arguments as if you're protecting Good Guy Greg from all these false rape accusations, where my point is that Good Guy Greg is not the one that's going around raping and/or abusing women, and the Good Guy Gregs of the world are not the ones being accused of rape. So while yourhypotheticalarguments are all designed to protect Good Guy Greg, what they're doing inrealityis protecting Scumbag Steve.
Define Scumbag Steve please. What did he do that should be punished. The main issue is that you refuse to give a substantive argument. You are not taking a position, you are cluster bombing a bunch of potential positions and then pouncing on people for not being specific.

But on another note Mist, congratulations. You've just realized what 90% of our laws our meant to do! Protect good guy Greg at the cost of allowing Scumbag Steve to walk more than we like. That's LITERALLY the spirit of our legal system, it's why we use reasonable doubt. (But lets not distract, lets get into specifics--what does Scumbag Steve do that warrants punishment. Is this abuse just him being invited to do things the woman does not want, but will allow in order to get Steve to stay? Or is Steve Ike Turner, who beats a woman and then says "ugh, have sex or me beat you more.")
 

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Show me some statistics on Good Guy Gregs never being falsely accused and Scumbag Steve's being the only ones falsely accused.

Seems what you are really saying is, if someone is falsely accused, they are probably scum so who gives a shit. I think that is a fucking horrible attitude and probably has no relation to reality.
 

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Protecting him from what? What youre framing your arguments around that all the good Nancys would never lie about something as damaging as a rape claim. What youre protecting is the scumbag Judys that falsely accuse men of rape ruining their lives, even if found innocent months or years later.

See? Two can play this game...
 

khalid

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You are not taking a position, you are cluster bombing a bunch of potential positions and then pouncing on people for not being specific.
Or pouncing on people if they try and pin her to any position that could be falsifiable.

Otherwise known as "Misting".
 

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The problem is mist believes every person is rationale and does not lie or misrepresent facts. Anyone with half a brain knows people at best don't perfectly recall events and at worst lie out their ass.

Really wish I could find the video of the woman who accused a cop of asexual assaulting her during a traffic stop. What did the dash cam record? Nothing more than the cop handing her a ticket (which she tried to get out of). Even with that evidence and being told it exists while giving a statement about the assault, the woman still proclaimed the officer sexually assaulted her.
 

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It's not even just lying or even convincing yourself that something happened that didn't. People are often just fuckingwrong.Eye witness testimony sucks shit. It sucks even more shit if the witness is in a high stress situation. If there is a gun present. If the bad guy is of a different race than they are.

The only thing eye-witnesses are good for is convincing idiot juries.
 

Mist

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Define Scumbag Steve please. What did he do that should be punished. The main issue is that you refuse to give a substantive argument. You are not taking a position, you are cluster bombing a bunch of potential positions and then pouncing on people for not being specific.

But on another note Mist, congratulations. You've just realized what 90% of our laws our meant to do! Protect good guy Greg at the cost of allowing Scumbag Steve to walk more than we like. That's LITERALLY the spirit of our legal system, it's why we use reasonable doubt. (But lets not distract, lets get into specifics--what does Scumbag Steve do that warrants punishment. Is this abuse just him being invited to do things the woman does not want, but will allow in order to get Steve to stay? Or is Steve Ike Turner, who beats a woman and then says "ugh, have sex or me beat you more.")
And what about the rights of victims? Our legal system is actually set up to balance the rights of the accused against the rights of the victim to seek justice. If it was just set up to protect the accused, they'd get cleared every time. It's actually setup to be about 51/49 between the rights of the accused vs the rights of the victim. We're also talking about a legal system that was set up when women didn't really have rights, and we liked to pretend people didn't have sex in polite society, and was never really designed to handle rape and sexual abuse.
 

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Protecting him from what? What youre framing your arguments around that all the good Nancys would never lie about something as damaging as a rape claim. What youre protecting is the scumbag Judys that falsely accuse men of rape ruining their lives, even if found innocent months or years later.

See? Two can play this game...
Scumbag Judys don't exist, duh. I think this line is indicative of the issue in Mist's supposition, and it's why she won't buckle down and define.

If you're giving abusers legal wiggle room to abuse people, you're coddling sociopaths, and if you try to eliminate that wiggle room, you're coddling women. Which one do you always think society is going to want to coddle more,women or abusers?

Women and abusers are not distinct groups. Women can also be abusers. If society coddles women, it is giving POWER to abusers. By coddling "abusers" all it's doing is putting the onus of defense on women. Because "coddling" here does NOT mean the same thing, "coddling" women is a net +/- interaction, women will get more power (And thus abusers among them will). "Coddling" abusers is a neutral one--abusers get no special powers; they just escape punishment. (This is aHUGEdistinction. Caveat: This is based on Mist actually talking about shitty boyfriends and not actual hardcore rapists.)
 

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And most women aren't raped. That's irrelevant to the discussion. We're talking about sociopaths that are accused of a crime and women who are victims of rape.

My point is that you're going to end up coddling someone. If you're giving abusers legal wiggle room to abuse people, you're coddling sociopaths, and if you try to eliminate that wiggle room, you're coddling women. Which one do you always think society is going to want to coddle more, women or abusers?
They're going to want to coddle the accused, in either situation. Because we are innocent until proven guilty.
 

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And what about the rights of victims? Our legal system is actually set up to balance the rights of the accused against the rights of the victim to seek justice. If it was just set up to protect the accused, they'd get cleared every time. It's actually setup to be about 51/49 between the rights of the accused vs the rights of the victim. We're also talking about a legal system that was set up when women didn't really have rights, and we liked to pretend people didn't have sex in polite society, and was never really designed to handle rape and sexual abuse.
It's called a trial Jesus.
 

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And what about the rights of victims? Our legal system is actually set up to balance the rights of the accused against the rights of the victim to seek justice. If it was just set up to protect the accused, they'd get cleared every time. It's actually setup to be about 51/49 between the rights of the accused vs the rights of the victim. We're also talking about a legal system that was set up when women didn't really have rights, and we liked to pretend people didn't have sex in polite society, and was never really designed to handle rape and sexual abuse.
51/49 is not the standard of reasonable defense. I'm not going to just take a fallacious position as fact. It's set up so to doubt the accusation would beunreasonable. 51/49 ispreponderance, it's specifically NOT set up like that.

As for the rest? Like what rights women had or have, is immaterial. The laws were set up without cars in mind too; the country adapts. The only legal framework that is nearly impossible to change is the constitution, and nothing in there, except rules which WERE changed--has anything to do with women.Also, none of this matters until you define WHAT Scumbag Steve should be punished for...What in the hell constitutes a victim to you?


Define that, please.
 

Mist

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Scumbag Judys don't exist, duh. I think this line is indicative of the issue in Mist's supposition, and it's why she won't buckle down and define.

If you're giving abusers legal wiggle room to abuse people, you're coddling sociopaths, and if you try to eliminate that wiggle room, you're coddling women. Which one do you always think society is going to want to coddle more,women or abusers?

Women and abusers are not distinct groups. Women can also be abusers. If society coddles women, it is giving POWER to abusers. By coddling "abusers" all it's doing is putting the onus of defense on women. Because "coddling" here does NOT mean the same thing, "coddling" women is a net +/- interaction, women will get more power (And thus abusers among them will). "Coddling" abusers is a neutral one--abusers get no special powers; they just escape punishment. (This is aHUGEdistinction. Caveat: This is based on Mist actually talking about shitty boyfriends and not actual hardcore rapists.)
I'm definitely not talking about shitty boyfriends, I already said she has no legal leg to stand on.
 

Mist

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It's called a trial Jesus.
Yes, exactly. We finally agree on something, Big P. I get the impression that most of the dudes in this thread think most rapes should never go to trial because we always have to side with the accused by default.
 

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Yes, exactly. We finally agree on something, Big P. I get the impression that most of the dudes in this thread think most rapes should never go to trial because we always have to side with the accused by default.
The DA's make the decision not to go to trial because there's no fucking evidence.

Which is always true when the women wait 3 months later and fuck him 10 more times and tell the guy they love him on facebook after the "rape"
 

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I'm definitely not talking about shitty boyfriends, I already said she has no legal leg to stand on.
Wha? You mean to tell me that she would never falsely accuse the shitty boyfriend for being a shitty boyfriend just to get back at him? No legal leg to stand on? WTF are you talking about? The problem is shes got three legs to stand on, contrary to his supposed three legs. (pun intended)

There is your disconnect, just like Lithose said time and time again, you cannot see the women as the abuser. Youre constantly putting her into the poor victim trope.
 

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I really don't think she's going to go around embarrassing the shit out of herself if the guy did absolutely nothing to abuse her.
She isn't "embarrassing the shit out of herself", she is making herself a celebrity and getting actual college credit for it.