Izo
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Cause you’re psychoanalyzing her texting behavior instead of just saying she probably doesn’t like you that much.
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Big Phoenix
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Daidraco
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"Hanging out" with this 26 year old lately. She put her girl on speaker phone to talk to me the other night. I looked down and she had 192 unread text messages.
On that note,
Big Phoenix
- I hope your girl is every bit of a "non-texter" as you believe she is.
On that note,
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Rajaah
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"Hanging out" with this 26 year old lately. She put her girl on speaker phone to talk to me the other night. I looked down and she had 192 unread text messages.
On that note,
To be faaaaaaair I have like 50 unread texts at any given time, mostly spam bots and messages from places I don't care about.
I'm not even mad, the girl in question could do a lot better than me. At the time I at least had youth-confidence and could punch above my station, now I have a more accurate assessment of what I bring to the table. She on the other hand was a real gem and I was lucky to spend a few nights with her.
You're getting mixed messages, so I'd probably clear that up with her in-person, if there is another in-person. Not over text, too easy for her to just dismiss from there. Object permanence and all that.
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Kirun
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You're also coming across as slightly creepy with your descriptions of everything. Chances are she was just placating you, hoping you'd start getting the hint that she's not that interested. Women have a VERY hard time about explicitly communicating and blunting stating, "I'm not into you".
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Big Phoenix
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Creepy? Whats the point of this thread then? Is not to share your experiences and interactions with dating women?
Kirun
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It is. It should also be used to help improve your interactions with women and the "dating" experience at large too, I would hope. Or I guess it could just be a LiveJournal page too.
Your first mistake is here. You're qualifying yourself to her and already putting her on a pedestal early on. Poor frame setting.
Second mistake here. Signals insecurity and desperation. If she shows up, cool. If she doesn't, cool. You're putting forth WAY more effort than she is and women never date down.
Physical contact is good, but for some chicks, going right for the tits and box can be off-putting, especially once they've had time to "think" on the date(hours and days after). They start getting into their head and their "anti-slut" defense activates. This is why the first date is almost always better if you limit it to an hour or two and keep it pretty casual - make up an excuse for why you can only meet for 1-2 hours, if you have to. The better option is to actually be busy. But even if it's just because you want to go play Elden Ring or whatever, make her think that you're a busy man and your time is valuable. Leave her wanting more. Again, the physical contact, getting close, etc. is fine. But, the full on make-out sessions on date one have never yielded good long-term results for me. It always leads to one night stands, the woman having major mental issues, etc.
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"Hanging out" with this 26 year old lately. She put her girl on speaker phone to talk to me the other night. I looked down and she had 192 unread text messages.
On that note,
She got me crushed.
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Big Phoenix
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Now that's better.
Yeah I see that coming off as too eager and groveling.
Oh I didn't give her the trump treatment even though that would have been easy with the short skirt she was wearing. Physical contact as in she was leaning into me hearing what I had to say, her hand on my shoulders etc. and me the same. And at the end I didn't try and stick my tongue down her throat.
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tugofpeace
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Need some advice..
I'm mid 30s, girl I'm interested in just turned 30. I'm a remote worker in engineering, she's a nurse.
Thing is, she's lived in LA her whole life, all her family is here, she just bought her own home, and takes pride in being "independent". Seems like a decent girl, she is christian, from Sri Lanka.
I chatted with her back in April and said I'd reach out when I got to LA. I'm in LA now, but I really don't like the prospect of living here.
Realistically, if I reached out to this girl and we hit it off - is it likely she would abandon her city to move somewhere else with me? Or should I just scrap the idea alltogether and move on? I realize it's not a black and white answer, but I need perspective.
My gut is telling me to move on.
I'm mid 30s, girl I'm interested in just turned 30. I'm a remote worker in engineering, she's a nurse.
Thing is, she's lived in LA her whole life, all her family is here, she just bought her own home, and takes pride in being "independent". Seems like a decent girl, she is christian, from Sri Lanka.
I chatted with her back in April and said I'd reach out when I got to LA. I'm in LA now, but I really don't like the prospect of living here.
Realistically, if I reached out to this girl and we hit it off - is it likely she would abandon her city to move somewhere else with me? Or should I just scrap the idea alltogether and move on? I realize it's not a black and white answer, but I need perspective.
My gut is telling me to move on.
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Don't hypothetical yourself out of ever really knowing.
Pursue it, enjoy things, see where they lead. Worst case scenario you have to have a talk about how you can't take living in LA. best case scenario happily ever after happens for you.
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, (and usually a good percentage of the ones you do, but that's another story).
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Kriptini
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There are a lot of nice areas around LA that aren't in LA. Within 1-2 hours of driving distance, there's a huge variety of geography, urbanization, local laws, etc. As long as your problems aren't with the State government, it's pretty reasonable to find a community that suits what you're looking for (unless you want something totally unique like the Yupers in Michigan or Hawaii).
If you do reach out to this woman with the intention of long-term in mind, you should definitely bring it up sooner rather than later, but I think it's worth opening your mind a little bit too - there's lots of variety outside of LA and 1 hour of distance from family isn't going to be a deal breaker for most people that like living close by.
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OU Ariakas
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Bro, every stereotype I heard about nurses turned out to be 100% fucking true. It is CRAZY (and so are they......but good for a fun time).
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Seananigans
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Nurses get a ton of emotional trauma at work that they exercise out in their personal life. They are 100% batshit.
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