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ShakyJake
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This is exactly my point. Why would I want to do stuff I don't want to do to potentially get something that I don't really want? I'd be miserable. F that.
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Control
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Just how?
I'm trying to talk you into anything. Perfectly valid to be single if you want imo. Just throwing out there though that if you find the right person, you shouldn't need to do things you don't want to do. Ideally, you find someone with enough overlap to let you enjoy plenty of things together, some out of shared interest and some out of just enjoying the time together. And also enough independence that you can enjoy things separately where necessary. Everybody seems to make relationships into a giant ordeal, but with the right person, everything gets easier.
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Big Phoenix
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Much harder to find someone when you're older and have an established life and ways of doing things.
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Fucker
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My GF likes to be alone. The only person she likes spending a lot of time with is her younger sister...and that's because they are carbon copies of each other in terms of personality. She wasn't looking for a bf until I popped up, and even then just kind of materialized over time. She kept her own house for a long time, and kept it for most of the time we knew each other.
She doesn't care for people much, and genuinely gets tired of them pretty quickly. Home is her castle, and she's content in it and quietly doing hobbies and reading. And sleeping.
I don't mind people much, but primarily don't mind them anywhere but not near me. She's been living with me for a handful of years. She wasn't sure it would work, but we are both fine with space and don't need validation and constant maintenance.
Women who always need someone else to provide stimulation for them are a chore.
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Sheriff Cad
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Extroverts and introverts are similarly baffling and maddening to each other, you need to find someone similarly clingy to you. Clingy isn't necessarily a bad thing, some people want clingy. Some people can't stand it. It's just one of those things it's better if you match with your partner, like sex drive. You can make it work if you don't match, but it's sure easier if you do.
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When we were married we both thought we were introverts. Years later she took a personality test from Jordon Petersen and found out she was an extrovert with lots of anxiety. I found out I was an introvert because she made me take the test too. Don't laugh, it's gotta be better than the stupid tests in women's magazines. Anyway, it works for us. Even though I'm introverted, I always said I wanted someone to twist my arm and get me to try new things. Now she twists my arm and has to hold onto it for the duration of the new experience.
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ShakyJake
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I took one of those Myers Briggs personality tests in college. I think it came back with something like 95% introverted.
I used to think it would be nice to have someone to travel with -- because there ain't no way I'm going anywhere by myself. But I'm such a homebody I think I'd just be miserable anyway.
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Sheriff Cad
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You're my wife in my scenario, she generally does not like new things and also would be happy chilling at home most of the time.
She enjoys it when I make plans and we do things, but if I didn't, she probably wouldn't. But she also asks why we aren't doing anything if I don't plan anything. So, typical woman in some respects.
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Sheriff Cad
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Not trying to be weird but do you not miss the sex? Like if nothing else traveling with a woman is pretty nice because they're there at night as well.
Sheriff Cad
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That definitely explains the lack of interest in putting up with women. If you're not interested in the milk, why have a cow around...
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Control
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Well sure, I didn't say it was easy. Putting yourself in a position to meet new people takes effort if you aren't already doing things that bring you into contact with new people regularly. But of those new people you meet, the right one is the one that makes everything after that easy imo.
Also, even though it takes effort, if you do it right, you only have to do it once(ish).