I keep a pretty solid line between work people and real life. People at work know basically nothing about me, I don't talk about my life at work at all. I generally don't go to the work social events either except the ones we're mandated to go to, and I just appear, have a drink, shoot the shit for 20 minutes, and sneak out.
Get the minivan started up again and some of those transients will have a place to stay.
I also do this and for some reason it gives everyone the impression that I am hyper-competent and always busy, to the point that people apologize for interrupting me when they enter my office because they "know how busy I am". Which is good, they should apologize for interrupting my latest jew post on a 30 year old elf simulator forum.
I personally have no idea. I try to be extremely outgoing anymore, but I find myself keeping to myself most of the time. But when I speak with others, I'm very friendly and inviting. However, that comes off too strong for most. I have some VERY good friends from my youth up through high school. Well, 2 specifically. Then lots of people I'm friendly with, but that's about it. I usually sit home alone (well, with my wife and kids) and I'm fine with that. As a result, I don't spend a lot of money just trying to hang out with people. So, I don't really have any advice for you. Sorry.
Cad
even had a chart) this is normal as you age. Many people pick up a spouse along the way, and that's definitely a type of friend, but obviously not the same as a fraternal friend. In my life I went from having a good social circle in high school (I was looped into the "nerd herd" and it was a solid crew). In my 20's I was pretty much the social butterfly at the center of a social circle oriented around, of all things, an IRC channel that was geo-centric. (as in parties once or more a month with 25+ people, weekly Wednesday night happy hour get togethers, etc...). 
Mrs. Haus
things shrank considerably.. Went down to around 6-8 friends, regular poker nights a few times a month, only "party" any of us wanted to throw was a rotating Super Bowl party. And as I've aged further life in general just pulls people apart in many ways, as does what I value spending my time on.
Mrs. Haus
- insert all the corny "married my friend" stuff here...I am married, without children. But nothing has come close to "the good old days". I do have a few friends but we don't talk a lot and almost never do anything together. And when we do it is nothing like it used to be. The other day I was thinking about nigh fishing with a friend. Watching the stars, cooking food over a fire, watching the sun rise with all the birds going crazy. Catching some awesome fish (tench). It was amazing. And that is just one of many experiences. I haven't felt anything remotely close to that for the past 30 years.P pwe , I've been through this exact process. Like many have mentioned (and
For me, I realized that I wanted a wife and a family. And looking around I realized none of the women in my social circle were the type of wife material I wanted.... Once I met
Now I can count it up on a short list.
That's it. And if you'd have told me that when I was 20? 25? 30? I would have been aghast and terrified. Now? It feels right and comfortable for whatever reason.
- One super close friend I met through work and we are still tight and talk all the time even though we no longer work together and they live in NYC now a days. Only the wife knows me better, and this is the other person I really consider a solid confidant when I need. If I ever had a need to have a backup comitting "nobody ever finds out" levels of violence, this is the one number I call. They'd show up with a shovel, a tarp, and wearing good work shoes.
- One person I work with who is what I'd call a "light tier friend" in that we'll still be in touch even when we don't work together any more.
Although I'll admit I file a bunch of you jackwagons as "likeable acquaintances"
I don't know anyone who would do something like that. Or pretty anything else, for that matter. Anyways, it's time I stop rambling.
You would be surprised. You never know until you ask. If you really want to go do such things, people aren't going to break down your door begging you to go camping or night fishing. Just start asking everyone you know if that seems like something they'd be interested in. If not, no harm no foul. If so, "hey I'm free like 2 weekends from now, what do you think about Lake ____? Have you been there?"