Girls who broke your heart thread

Ah ok so you"re fully aware that you topped out the creep-o-meter with the phone interaction with the girl? If you don"t recognize that then we"re going to have to start screening your phone calls similar to how all of Eomer"s emails have to go thru Aych first.

Unless she brings up something specific that you need to apologize for, never apologize. It looks and sounds weak. If you fuck up just joke about it the next time it comes up.

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Strike that to if you have a reason to apologize. A woman won"t come out and say "Apologize now" and once you say "I"m sorry" things will be golden. You have to accurately read the situation. If you"re going for the cocky&funny/neg approach and you apologize for ripping her then it was all in vein. You just kind of look weird at that point.

Next time you meet her you have to deliver her a pizza to complete the story arc.

The phone call was made because she needed my fax number. I didnt call out of the blue. Told her I would get it to her when i get back to the office.

Thanks about the "apology" advice.

I have located a flowchart for Brad"s dating life:

Brad2770 said:

recap

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Okay, it sounds like your game in terms of the whole cocky/slight-jab routine works pretty well, but whenever you do that, it"s easy to go overboard and just turn into a dick (in the bad way). When that happens, it"s usually best to just ignore and not bring it up again; apologizing just calls focus to it and totally dismantles everything you were working for previously.

And also, the make-reference-to-her-boyfriend-and-see-if-she-claims-his-existence line is just way too cheesy. It shows you"re obviously interested, as before it was up in the air enough for her to wonder if you"re interested in her, which would promote HER interest. What?

Overall, you started off well, but the phone call was a little too much. Definitely salvageable though!

Brad, if you come across half as desperate and needy in person as you do in your posting in this thread, it"s a wonder you get laid at all.

I"m just putting this out there, but you say you"re still fucked up from your ex, and it"s pretty obvious that you"re trying to prove something by going out there and trying to hook up with as many other girls as possible, and if I can pick up on that reading your posts here, I"m sure a lot of the girls you speak to can as well.

Just imo, but I think you need to sort your head out, try and get yourself in a comfortable place regarding how you feel about your ex, "then" maybe go out and throw yourself at the female populace. I think you"ll have a lot more success once your every move isn"t made with your ex in mind. Right now you"re just being counterproductive, because you"re focusing your entire sex life around the baby mama even after breaking up with her. Shit"s not healthy, and you"ll never get over her and be able to have a healthy relationship if you keep on like that.

Take that for what it"s worth.

Azrayne, what about this thread made you think you should give advice on improving emotional state of mind instead of giving advice on how to get laid, playa!

I mean seriously, way out of line.

I"m suggesting one might be conducive to the other

I am an asshole at heart. I really do not care about others. And then I am a nice guy. If I find a girl attractive, I want to at least see if I can get to know her enough and see if I will like her beyond looks.

I have a hard time balancing the asshole part of me and being nice. Kind of hard to explain, but thats what happened with LeaseLee. I was being an asshole at first because I didnt care. But after I left there the 3rd time today, I was thinking to myself that she seemed really nice and she was well spoken. She was definately very pretty, so I was like "Shit, I dont want her to think that I am a complete jerk", so when i called and gave her my fax number, thats when i rolled into the apology.

Kind of see what I was getting at? I was all business at first with some strong jokes towards her before I thought about that I would like to take her out.

As much as I enjoy being friends with women, I dont think of them as friends like my guy friends. RedHead is the first chic in a long time I have felt that kind of relationship.... which would be a shame to lose on how long i actually keep a woman around.

niteflyx said:

And also, the make-reference-to-her-boyfriend-and-see-if-she-claims-his-existence line is just way too cheesy. It shows you"re obviously interested, as before it was up in the air enough for her to wonder if you"re interested in her, which would promote HER interest. What?

Overall, you started off well, but the phone call was a little too much. Definitely salvageable though!

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Thats why I ended the conversation like I did. I will see her next week. I will see how she reacts then.

Dude, we"re all assholes.

But you GOT it. You were doing well at the start becauseyou didn"t care. Confidence? Lack of interest? Hung up on ex? Whatever the reason is, if you can combine the not caring with some slight flirting, that"s the win-zone. I just think you revealed your hand way too soon with the phone call thing. That"s just me though

uhh
what?

edit- hope this is a fucking joke

Soygen said:

Pretty shitty joke, if it is.

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potam would disagree

Dude. Hope everything"s cool.

Fuck man. Really sorry bro.

Does someone have Chamo"s phone number?