Burning bridges is always bad. I have personal experience to back up why you shouldn"t burn your bridges. One situation now that I enjoy having very much and free of obligation.
High School Sweetheart
This is your standard we met in high school, she was my best friend, we dated, she was my first, type story. She was a year behind me and I went to college first. The distance was to great and eventually we mutually agreed to break things off.
Pretty standard story.
Well I kept in touch with her VERY rarely maybe once or twice every 3 months we might talk but extremely rarely and very brief. 6 years of this passes after high school then she was having a round with a bad string of boyfriends and called me up out of the blue to see how I was doing. My guess is she just needed a confidence booster and a friend. We chat for awhile and agree to hang out sometime like we always do except this time it actually happens. She comes over and we watch tv and just catch up then she decides to spend the night and leave in the morning since she is tired. Halfway through the night we are both still wide awake and I can"t resist feeling her up. She turns around and says " You know if you keep doing that I can"t resist right?", "I say ya.. I don"t want you to."
That was that. The night passes by and we wake up feeling pretty damned good. In all honestly I wasn"t the slightest bit awkward by it. It felt... normal. Like I was returning to an old friend. We laughed, got some breakfast and talked about it briefly. Here"s how that conversation went..
She said "Hey you know I had fun last night but we are just friends right?"
I said "Yea I know. I had fun too but we tried this once. It didn"t work, we are better as friends."
She said "She said yea but ... we don"t have to stop either?"
"I said..hell no!"
She said " Sooo what if you get a girlfriend?"
I said " So what if you get a boyfriend?"
I said "Look we are friends. We just enjoy sex together to. It"s not exactly the normal thing but if you came looking I doubt I"d turn you down. It"s sex with no strings. I can just enjoy it and know that I"m not hurting you for it and your enjoying it to. It"s like friendship with sex."
She said " Friends with benefits."
I rolled my eyes and said "yea yea corny"
she said "ok but if I find a boyfriend and want a break I"m coming to get some!"
I said " Anytime babe.. anytime"
That was that. A permanent friends with benefits without strings attached. Since then we have hooked up a couple of times but not often. She found a man and I"m getting married yet we are still just like we were. It"s like how you have a best friend you can do everything with except now you can fuck also. Words can"t really express the kind of freedom this feels like.
Yes I know it"s basically agreed cheating on our spouses and that is what it is. She was basically my best friend before we go together in high school so now that we are back to friends it"s been great. But the sexual tension always builds up so instead of fighting it or never seeing each other we just hook up once in awhile. So if you have a best friend who you hooked up with and the it went south.. remember this.
High School Sweetheart
This is your standard we met in high school, she was my best friend, we dated, she was my first, type story. She was a year behind me and I went to college first. The distance was to great and eventually we mutually agreed to break things off.
Pretty standard story.
Well I kept in touch with her VERY rarely maybe once or twice every 3 months we might talk but extremely rarely and very brief. 6 years of this passes after high school then she was having a round with a bad string of boyfriends and called me up out of the blue to see how I was doing. My guess is she just needed a confidence booster and a friend. We chat for awhile and agree to hang out sometime like we always do except this time it actually happens. She comes over and we watch tv and just catch up then she decides to spend the night and leave in the morning since she is tired. Halfway through the night we are both still wide awake and I can"t resist feeling her up. She turns around and says " You know if you keep doing that I can"t resist right?", "I say ya.. I don"t want you to."
That was that. The night passes by and we wake up feeling pretty damned good. In all honestly I wasn"t the slightest bit awkward by it. It felt... normal. Like I was returning to an old friend. We laughed, got some breakfast and talked about it briefly. Here"s how that conversation went..
She said "Hey you know I had fun last night but we are just friends right?"
I said "Yea I know. I had fun too but we tried this once. It didn"t work, we are better as friends."
She said "She said yea but ... we don"t have to stop either?"
"I said..hell no!"
She said " Sooo what if you get a girlfriend?"
I said " So what if you get a boyfriend?"
I said "Look we are friends. We just enjoy sex together to. It"s not exactly the normal thing but if you came looking I doubt I"d turn you down. It"s sex with no strings. I can just enjoy it and know that I"m not hurting you for it and your enjoying it to. It"s like friendship with sex."
She said " Friends with benefits."
I rolled my eyes and said "yea yea corny"
she said "ok but if I find a boyfriend and want a break I"m coming to get some!"
I said " Anytime babe.. anytime"
That was that. A permanent friends with benefits without strings attached. Since then we have hooked up a couple of times but not often. She found a man and I"m getting married yet we are still just like we were. It"s like how you have a best friend you can do everything with except now you can fuck also. Words can"t really express the kind of freedom this feels like.
Yes I know it"s basically agreed cheating on our spouses and that is what it is. She was basically my best friend before we go together in high school so now that we are back to friends it"s been great. But the sexual tension always builds up so instead of fighting it or never seeing each other we just hook up once in awhile. So if you have a best friend who you hooked up with and the it went south.. remember this.
