Girls who broke your heart thread

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What the fuck?

What the hell happened here? You guys all bagged this dude down into thinking that he needs a motherfucking paternity test? Fucking really?

First of all, he tells the bitch he wants a paternity tests, and she"s fucking gone, I guarantee it. If not immediately, it"ll fuck the relationship up beyond repair. So yeah, you wanna ruin the guys life, and have him paying child support for 18 years, then yeah, that"s totally the way to go. IF, and I mean IF you have any doubts about that shit, keep them to yourself until other things materialize. Whores will be whores, if something else comes up down the line and you catch her on it, that"s the time to bring it up. You don"t start off a pregnancy with a "Okay, slut, well, lets make sure that"s mine before we go anywhere else."

You guys are fucking hopeless. If that"s your fucking genius advice, you really have no place here. No wonder none of you can keep any relationships for longer than a month. That"s fucking pathetic and you just drove out a pretty decent member of this thread because you called his girlfriend THAT NONE OF YOU HAVE EVER MET A WHORE.

You should be ashamed of yourselves. I fucking mean that.
 
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Would you take a 1/5-1/10 chance for a choice that effects 20+ years of your life? I wouldn"t play Russian roulette just because I have a 5/6 chance of not being killed.

Not a chance in hell we should be ashamed because most men are naive as fuck.

We"re not talking about random hookups, those are the odds in longterm relationships ffs.

I will never be ashamed for supporting people to know the truth about something as unimportant as THEIR LIFE.

Get off your PC bandwagon.

Edit: If it wasn"t reason enough, it looks like MN is one of the states who will enforce child support, even if it"s not your biological child, if you recognize it as your child, but do not renounce it within up to 1 year after birth.

He"s paying child support any way you look at it, except the one case where he tries to be informed.
 
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Darus Grey said:
Would you take a 1/5-1/10 chance for a choice that effects 20+ years of your life? I wouldn"t play Russian roulette just because I have a 5/6 chance of not being killed.

Not a chance in hell we should be ashamed because most men are naive as fuck.

We"re not talking about random hookups, those are the odds in longterm relationships ffs.

I will never be ashamed for supporting people to know the truth about something as unimportant as THEIR LIFE.

Get off your PC bandwagon.
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What happens if you call the mother of your child a whore with no evidence to support your statement? Because that"s what you"re fucking doing. You just pissed away a chance a relationship.

Grats on making $400 a week take home for the next 18 years. You wanna ask for a paternity test? Do it when the shit has already hit the fan. Don"t stir the pot.
 
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Uh, hey, last I checked you needed neither permission or knowledge of the mother to do a paternity test once it"s born. Also see above edit.
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And if she finds out? Same result. Hey honey, I decided to go see if you"re a fucking whore. Turns out you"re not. I love you babe.

Really, you guys are fucking weak as hell.
 
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TheCutlery said:
And if she finds out? Same result. Hey honey, I decided to go see if you"re a fucking whore. Turns out you"re not. I love you babe.

Really, you guys are fucking weak as hell.
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Sorry, over here in reality, life isn"t filled with easy choices.

Have fun in magic-land where love conquers all, or something.

Edit: And I"ll stop shitting the thread here, I"ve beyond made my point, past this it"s just arguing.

Double edit: In response to below, I just wanted to make it clear I wasn"t implying to go get one right now and confront her(even though that"s what I would do, but any woman who gets with me knows that), just to get one before it"s too late to change a life altering choice if you happened to be wrong...
 
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[LVC]DeGrassi said:
Couldnt you like take the kid after its born without her knowing and go get it tested just to be sure ? I have no clue about something like this. Well unless tarrant is white and she pops out a little obama. But then hes a positive guy so I am sure he would be cool with it.

And on tarrants last post ... so you gave advice for a year ... so ? the 4 main people in this thread giving advice were .. you .. eomer ... dabamf .. and brad .

All 4 of you guys can give out advice like its nothing ... its second nature .. but by god if you guys get into a situation and someone else chirps in about it .. you guys go all butthurt and stop showing up.

P.S. I hope etollie has huge grapefruit size nipples ... I love those.
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I agree with cutlery on this. Paternity test shit was premature - I understand where you all are coming from but you guys can"t be giant douches about it (not saying all of you were either).

He"s got ZERO to gain by asking for a paternity test at this stage and everything to lose.
 
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I agree with cutlery on this. Paternity test shit was premature - I understand where you all are coming from but you guys can"t be giant douches about it (not saying all of you were either).

He"s got ZERO to gain by asking for a paternity test at this stage and everything to lose.
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P.S - ? ?????
 
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as long as she puts out regularly with enthusiasm, I approve of Tarrant"s optimism. there"s no reason to be suspicious or to be unhappy when a beautiful girl with an attractive personality is givin you lovin. god damn! he"s a veteran of the worst case scenario. he can handle it if it comes to that.

the only way out is abortion and that"s not an option. otherwise the argument is for him to end the relationship before an "inevitable" burn [due to cheating], never giving his unborn child a chance at having two happy loving parents. and then do what? start dating again with a pregnant ex gf around and an ex wife around? he needs to seize the fucking day and roll with it, exactly as he is now.

tarrant, I"m not asking you to continue posting regularly, but I"d like to hear how it goes sometime in the future, whether that be in a few months or a few years. hell, set a calendar event far into the future to send me a pm about it. You can"t leave this thread at a cliffhanger man! I"ve been rooting for you!

we"ve only seen your bankai. I"m sure we"ll see your hollow mask within the next few years.

ps. obviously you don"t owe anyone anything, so if this is in fact your last post/correspondence... then.. Good luck and enjoy.
 
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TheCutlery said:
What the fuck?

What the hell happened here? You guys all bagged this dude down into thinking that he needs a motherfucking paternity test? Fucking really?

First of all, he tells the bitch he wants a paternity tests, and she"s fucking gone, I guarantee it. If not immediately, it"ll fuck the relationship up beyond repair. So yeah, you wanna ruin the guys life, and have him paying child support for 18 years, then yeah, that"s totally the way to go. IF, and I mean IF you have any doubts about that shit, keep them to yourself until other things materialize. Whores will be whores, if something else comes up down the line and you catch her on it, that"s the time to bring it up. You don"t start off a pregnancy with a "Okay, slut, well, lets make sure that"s mine before we go anywhere else."

You guys are fucking hopeless. If that"s your fucking genius advice, you really have no place here. No wonder none of you can keep any relationships for longer than a month. That"s fucking pathetic and you just drove out a pretty decent member of this thread because you called his girlfriend THAT NONE OF YOU HAVE EVER MET A WHORE.

You should be ashamed of yourselves. I fucking mean that.
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A+. I changed my mind...can we be friends?

Did anyone notice how the paternity test insanity came about? No one said anything for what, 2-3 days, then one guy said "you had only 2 breaks and she got pregnant? maybe you wanna get a paternity test." Then when Tarrant denied that possibility 2-3 more people came outa the woodwork saying DUDE GET A PATERNITY TEST. Haha, you guys are fucking idiots. You guys aren"t speaking your opinion, you"re presented with some idea that starts snowballing (grobbee shout-out) and you jump on. No one said anything about the possibilty that it"s not his kid until multiple pages after the story was posted.

Same shit happened when I posted the DG story about the apartment. A few people speculating or giving advice for 2-3 pages, little negativity, then someone suggested another boyfriend, and bam instantly DUDE BREAK UP WITH HER SHE"S LYING TO YOU from 4 people.

How do you idiots not see that you"re being completely controlled by the momentum of the idea? How many of you thought, when he FIRST posted the story, "he should get a paternity test?" I"d wager my life on the answer: one...the fucking guy who first suggested it.

Tarrant, the negativity will fuck with your head. You coulda came here and got a little check about maybe being overly optimistic, instead you got some torrent of stupidity from the jackasses that lurk in the corner. All that shit fucked with my head a bit with DG and put me in a bad state of mind with her. It"s stupid, especially when you realize you"re being told complete insanity, but when it"s such a majority, it"s hard to not let it pursuade you even if only subconsciously.

If abortion is out of the question, then obviously there"s only one route to take. And being optimistic is the only way to approach it. If you go in thinking it"ll come out a black baby, you fucked the relationship from the start anyway. But what if it comes out a black baby? Well, bad things happen in life, you get hurt, and deal with it as best you can.

People who think they have to protect themselves from every little thing, proposing ideas like getting a paternity test for a kid under any circumstance, are incredibly incredibly insecure. The most insecure and cowardly of all of us are those who are terrified of being in a position where they can get hurt. So they check everything and reject anyone before they can get rejected so they don"t risk taking that devastating ego hit.

It"s sad.
 
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Dabamf said:
it"ll come out a black baby
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Well that would be pretty convenient. Wouldn"t need a paternity test anymore.


But seriously, I think you"re naively optimistic, but +1 for keeping your chin up and dealing with an "arguably" shitty situation in a positive manner.
 
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Yeah this paternity test bullshit blows my mind. Just because you guys are all naieve and have had unfaithful bitch girlfriends and seem to have a complete lack of trust in women does Not mean that every girl is sleeping around. Yes, a lot of girls are manipulative twats, but there are some amazing, loving, completely faithful women out there, and if you treat them right and you aren"t a complete dickhead, they"ll be faithful to you forever.

Most girls are not inherently sluts that sleep around at any opportunity. When girls cheat on you, it"s usually because they"re missing something in the relationship and they"ll look elsewhere until they find it and take that opportunity as soon as they do.

For so many of you to have absolutely no trust in women it seems like you"ve been cheated on a lot. That sucks, but it also means you were doing it wrong. If you gave them everything they wanted and made them completely happy they would have no desire to cheat on you, ever. I"ve had girls Cheat on me, but looking back I can see exactly where I was fucking up and why the looked elsewhere.

I"m not saying be naieve and completely trusting, but everyone jumping on this paternity test bandwagon is utterly retarded bullshit. This guy sounds like he has found a really special girl and he"s makin the absolute right choice and making the best of a shifty situation. Just because you guys lack the ability to keep a girl faithful to you doesn"t justify this retardation at all.
 
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Nanaki Ikanan_foh

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Also before anyone says anything about how I said you should give a girl everything she wants, i mean relationship wise. Actually giving a girl anything she wants and spoiling her rotten is a terrible idea, for obvious reasons.
 
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Personally I"m more confounded by people taking the advice of people who have never met the involved parties so seriously and getting excessively defensive about it.

Pretty sure I would be curled up into a ball and cry myself to sleep at night if I took the comments I get over in the MMO forum as personally as some of you nambie pambies do over here.

You"re surprised we give stupid advise or jump on stupid trends? Are you that fucking new to the internet? Yes we want him to get a paternity test because it"s about 300x more interesting then what he should actually do.

Fuck, if all we ever gave was sound rational advice this thread would have been about 2 posts long with the second post being a "Well, there"s always porn."
 
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Dabamf said:
But what if it comes out a black baby?
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Then, I"d wager it"ll play out something like this:
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Zehn - Vhex said:
Personally I"m more confounded by people taking the advice of people who have never met the involved parties so seriously and getting excessively defensive about it.

Pretty sure I would be curled up into a ball and cry myself to sleep at night if I took the comments I get over in the MMO forum as personally as some of you nambie pambies do over here.

You"re surprised we give stupid advise or jump on stupid trends? Are you that fucking new to the internet? Yes we want him to get a paternity test because it"s about 300x more interesting then what he should actually do.

Fuck, if all we ever gave was sound rational advice this thread would have been about 2 posts long with the second post being a "Well, there"s always porn."
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The point is, the people giving the advice are completely serious about it. Coming in and going "yea dude get a paternity test and go on MAURY!" would be funny. But these people actually think this is the best option for the guy. And when he disagrees they go off like he"s some naive dumbass that needs to learn how the real world works. They are completely sincere. That"s why it"s fucked up.
 
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Touch?. No one should base any serious life decisions on FoH message boards advice, obviously. But the thing is, like dabamf said, just reading the shit from enough people can put doubt in your head when it shouldn"t be there. Yeah that"s stupid and insecure to have random message board posts influence the way you feel about relationships, but it says something about someones self conidence and security that they were looking to this thread for advice in the first place. Not saying anyone is wrong for looking for advice and talking about their problems here, it can be helpful to have a place to talk about this shit. I"m just saying if they felt the need to post about their relationships here, then the responses ARE going to have some sort of impact on them, even if they realize it"s just an internet message board.
 
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The point is, the people giving the advice are completely serious about it.
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Trust me on this broseph. They aren"t. This isn"t IM time with your girl. We aren"t going to put "j/k lol!" at the end of sarcasm to make sure you catch on.

There are exceptions of course but for the most part any advice you"re going to get here about anything is going to be shit no matter how sincere the giver is because

1) We don"t know all the details. Of -course- we"re going to assume your woman is a lying sack of shit. Insisting that she isn"t only further cements in our mind that she is. We are the devil"s advocate here. He may have known her for only 4 and a half months, we"ve only known her for the 5 minutes and 23 seconds it took to read all of his posts.

B) I had other shit to post here but we just finished doing our dailies and I"m going to go play more Mass Effect. Just assume it would have been really witty and awesome and we"d probably have high fived had we been slightly drunk in a bar somewhere having this discussion.

Peace out.
 
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Eomer said:
Hey! Fuck you guy! What"s there to facepalm? I"m not here whimpering about my life or trying to hatch ways of getting her back. I took one last kick at the can, lost, posted the aftermath for all to see and will continue doing my best to move on. No facepalming required!
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That"s what I get for posting in a hurry and not qualifying fully what I meant to say.

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So we got in the elevator, and I went in for a kiss. She backed away and said no, she didn"t want to "go down that road again" or something to that effect. I said that was fine and that"s what I wanted to talk about, she said "oh I made you mad I can tell by your voice" to which I responded "I"m not mad, and if anything that was a step towards clarifying things anyway." We got in to my place and both used the bathroom.

We sat down on the couch and she asked what I wanted to talk about. I said I wasn"t sure where to start and that maybe there wasn"t much to talk about after all, and asked her what she meant in the elevator. She said that she wasn"t looking for just a physical relationship or someone to sleep with, and that she was also happy with how her life was right now and didn"t want anything else either. I asked her point blank (not rudely or forcefully, just directly) why she even met with me the first time, let alone agreeing to the second time, if she wasn"t interested and when I made it pretty clear why we were seeing each other. She said she had thought the first time was maybe just to catch up and that she enjoyed it and thought I had too. I said no, it had been made pretty apparent that it wasn"t just to catch up and that she"d even acknowledged that with a couple of her texts.

She said she "didn"t know then." I again asked why she"d have bothered agreeing to the second meet or date or whatever if she wasn"t interested, and she kind of mumbled her way through saying something about how she hadn"t thought it was a good idea but figured she"d go anyway and just avoid anything happening, not come up to my place etc. I don"t know if I"m forgetting something, or if her response was really that useless or devoid of information.

I said that"s fine and basically said "okay, so nothing"s happening here then? I"m not saying I want to dive back in to things immediately, but there"s nothing at all from your side?" She nodded and said yes, nothing was going to happen. I asked her if she knew what had happened back when we first dated, because I really had no idea what had gone on. She again said she "didn"t know." I repeated that as a question, "so you just don"t know?" and she said the same thing. I said "well then I guess there wasn"t much to talk about afterall" and we got up off the couch and she left after a quick hug.

And just to be clear during the conversations I wasn"t being whiny or weepy or anything, if anything I was relaxed and joking around.
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To caveat what I am about to say, yes I wasn"t there and yes I don"t know either of you but in reading this my first thought was you creeped her the fuck out and she was just saying anything to get out of there without having to get into some big emotional drama. How you are describing her reactions sound exactly like someone shutting down and offering nothing to hang a conversation on for the express purpose of bringing it to an end. It reads to me like she had "friend zoned" you months ago and we all know some women like to have a few male friends around that there could be something with to stroke their ego (men do this shit too but usually sleep with them as well ). Therefore you going in for the kiss probably really took her by surprise and it all went downhill from there. You say you were joking etc but that doesn"t mean she took it that way.

That"s what I meant by the facepalm. It was probably the right thing for you personally to get some clarity from her but I think you were so caught up in the emotion of the moment that you maybe don"t have perspective on what went down.

Anyways, like Tarrant (ignore the haters bud) you are one of the guys keeping this thread alive and worth visiting so I apologise if I came off as a douche. I would post some drama myself but I don"t have any. My woman is batshit insane but in a good way
 
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