Bodom said:
Your are possibly right but that"s not how I feel now. If I think about it she"s been the most wonderful woman I"ve ever met, I was just blind to all of it.
I didn"t mention this before, but I had a smallish relationship with another girl before I met her. Well, she didn"t love me and I also didn"t love her.. I was just somehow attached to her, and when it was over I felt bad too (not nearly the hell I go through now), and I think above rule applies in this situation.
Well... I will see what happens (I stopped contacting her this morning), I took note of your advice anyhow, thanks mate !
Can you really think long and hard about this, and say that you wouldn"t end up going back to your "old habits" if you got her back?
What you did was pretty cold, to be honest. You were beyond cruel to her, and I cannot see why she even put up with it that long without losing it. That would put most girls into a pretty deep depression if they decided to "wait it out". I"m not trying to be mean to you, but you do have to realize that you"re not the victim here and also realize she had every right to give up on you, you basically forced her to. You"d have been better off fucking someone else, than mind fucking your girlfriend.
Let"s consider a few scenarios, though.
1) She gave up on you (it"s the most obvious)
2) She was asking a girlfriend for advice, and got the classic girl response. "Stop all contact with him, hint about another man" This is probably one of our best (if not our only) plays. Not saying she"s using it, as most women reserve this play for assholes, but not like, uh...actual mean assholes (again, no offense, lol)
3) She"s being courted by someone else, and is using the "I need time" line to keep you as a backup plan (like "Anne" ((no offense, Eomer)), but less of a bitch)
Regardless of whatever the case may be, you need to leave her alone. If a miracle comes along and she wants to talk to you, don"t turn into some weeping pussy of a man. Something about you was good enough for her to put up with your mindfucking,
figure out what that wasand hold on to it for dear life. If you have female friends, maybe they can help you figure out what it was in the event you"re unable to.
Don"t all of the sudden turn into a romantic if you weren"t before, but instead, make an effort to let her know you were a stupid asshole and while you can"t fix that overnight - you"re willing to try. Let her know you intend to still be "you" but be more honest about your feelings.
I"m still hesitant to believe someone who had the best girl in the world could say stuff like that, never verbally show affection, and be in love. It"s really confusing. I mean, I know some closed off guys who are relatively emotionally unreactive, but you"re (or were) emotionally detached. It"s a pretty rotten feeling to feel like you love someone more than they love you, just the fact you sit there and compare who shows affection more makes you feel like a butthole. But dude, you took it to a special level. Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel? Would you give her another chance? If so, what would you expect from her to establish trust when it comes to communication regarding emotions? Answer those questions honestly and you may come up with ways to get her closer to you, or get yourself some closure.
PS: This reminds me of a Cinderella song.
