Lusiphur said:
You probably came off as a little abrupt maybe. Just tell your sister to tell her you had company and didn"t want to be rude. On NO account phone or text vanity. That would be fail ..
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Ginn said:
This, and after she contacts you, emphasize you just didn"t want to be rude to your guest, make some shit up like you hadn"t seen them for a month or so. You don"t want to make her feel too shitty, you have to show some interest, just don"t pour yourself all over her.
Wrong.
Djaypally said:
Yes. You"re showing that your world does not revolve around her and that your time is important and something she has to work for.
WINNER!
Do YOU think you were rude to her? I"m guessing no, since you didn"t mention it. Then don"t bring it up again. Would you be thinking about it had your friend/brother/sister/father called you? Probably not, so why are you thinking about it now?
First of all, never trust how a girl responds. They VERY often say things that have nothing to do with reality in order to test a man or to figure out how to interpret a situation, usually all unconsciously. She is used to guys doing everything she wants, giving her special attention, and when you are too busy to give her your full attention, she is confused. This doesn"t happen often, so she tries to figure out what happened.
This is GOOD for you, you got her confused, she"s on her toes and has lost control, and human beings don"t like to not be in control, so naturally her first goal is regain control. If you come apologizing or even explaining why you were short with her, it reinforces the thought that you not giving her your immediate unearned attention DID require explanation, and that therefore you were wrong, she regains control, and you lose that appeal.
If instead you never bring it up, or if she brings it up and you nonchalantly tell her you were doing something else, as if you never thought about it and would be confused if you had noticed that she made it an issue out of it, she learns to interpret it as Djaypally explained it.
It"s hard to explain, but basically never take a girl"s word for it. The more "typical girl" she is (strippers are pretty much the most extreme), the more this rule applies. In a 20 minute conversation a girl will test you 3,4,5,6 times, knowingly or unknowingly. Naturals are good because they don"t care, and therefore pass most of these tests without trying. I had a girl once ask me if I was gay, in front of 4 other people, in a pretty insulting manner, because she had thrown up so many tests that I passed beautifully because I recognized them as tests. I was completely blown away, pissed off, and at a loss for words, but instead of reacting I grinned, looked her in the eyes, and said "thats for you to find out." What I said didn"t make a whole lot of sense, but again I was speechless, but what was important was that I acted like what she said didn"t faze me. I had sex with her not 1 hour later on the couch, in front of everyone (granted I was slightly intoxicated), and because of that night and the photos taken, I will never be in politics.
Always be ready to be tested, and the more and stronger the tests, the better you are doing. I LOVE when girls start throwing out more extreme tests, because she is basically saying "you have me on my heels and I"m irresistibly attracted to you." If a girl says something that doesn"t quite sit right with you, or doesn"t completely make sense, you encountered a test and it is crucial you don"t give in or treat it as legit, or you lose points significantly. Hold your ground, if you can turn it around on her do so, but a lot of times you will be speechless, and the best thing to do is fake an amused grin and completely ignore what she said.
