Girls who broke your heart thread
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Nah, you just have to be 3 or 4 times more careful to avoid the crazies . In my 6 years of service I met at least 4 or 5 very attractive AND balanced/non-psycho women.Phoenix said:
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So I"m back from my bike trip. It was good to get away and mostly worry about not hitting deer, looking at the mountains, and listening to a lot of good tunes.
Like I had mentioned, she had texted me on Wednesday about shrooms, and we"d exchanged a couple emails on Thursday about it, but literally nothing else was discussed. She had previously mentioned that she"d like to see me before I left, so while I was getting my stuff ready on Thursday after work I sent her a quick text along the lines of "so we"re not hanging out tonight because I broke the code of silence, right?" She texted back that she had been at work every night that week until 8, and she"d be there even later that night. I texted back not to worry, that I was still messing with my bags and bike, was gonna go for a long ride, and had to pack as well so it wasn"t good for me either. She told me to be careful etc.
Friday evening she texted me, wondering if I had made it there safe. I said that I had and I was sore, she said she could imagine and told me to have a nice night, I told her to have a relaxing weekend and that was about it.
Sunday she again texted me wondering how I was, I responded I was again safe and sore from 1800km of riding a sport bike, and inquired as to whether she does ass massages. She replied "haha maybe ", I said that it was going to be pretty swassy, she said "EWE!", I made a lame sheep joke, she said "jerk" and then "do you always have to correct people?", I said I wasn"t correcting her just making a lame joke, she said she hoped so with a smiley (bitches and them smilies) and I didn"t respond past that as I was having a beer and pizza with some buds enjoying the evening.
So I dunno, what do I do here? Wait around till she says she wants to hang out? Do I ask her to hang out? Last we saw each other she wasn"t sure if the relationship was gonna continue and wanted space for awhile, but it was implied that was maybe a week give or take.
Like I had mentioned, she had texted me on Wednesday about shrooms, and we"d exchanged a couple emails on Thursday about it, but literally nothing else was discussed. She had previously mentioned that she"d like to see me before I left, so while I was getting my stuff ready on Thursday after work I sent her a quick text along the lines of "so we"re not hanging out tonight because I broke the code of silence, right?" She texted back that she had been at work every night that week until 8, and she"d be there even later that night. I texted back not to worry, that I was still messing with my bags and bike, was gonna go for a long ride, and had to pack as well so it wasn"t good for me either. She told me to be careful etc.
Friday evening she texted me, wondering if I had made it there safe. I said that I had and I was sore, she said she could imagine and told me to have a nice night, I told her to have a relaxing weekend and that was about it.
Sunday she again texted me wondering how I was, I responded I was again safe and sore from 1800km of riding a sport bike, and inquired as to whether she does ass massages. She replied "haha maybe ", I said that it was going to be pretty swassy, she said "EWE!", I made a lame sheep joke, she said "jerk" and then "do you always have to correct people?", I said I wasn"t correcting her just making a lame joke, she said she hoped so with a smiley (bitches and them smilies) and I didn"t respond past that as I was having a beer and pizza with some buds enjoying the evening.
So I dunno, what do I do here? Wait around till she says she wants to hang out? Do I ask her to hang out? Last we saw each other she wasn"t sure if the relationship was gonna continue and wanted space for awhile, but it was implied that was maybe a week give or take.
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Unless this is a game and she secretlywantsyou to chase after her, I don"t see many advantages for you if you"re the one to attempt bridging the distance she requested/caused in the first place.
Unless this is a game and she secretlywantsyou to chase after her, I don"t see many advantages for you if you"re the one to attempt bridging the distance she requested/caused in the first place.
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Yeah, that"s about what I figure too. That"s why I"ve been letting her send the first texts, resisting the urge to send too many back, and always letting her send the last one (or rather just not responding after a few have gone back and forth). But when we were hanging out, it was always me determining when we"d hang out 90% of the time, what we"d do etc so I wonder if I"m not supposed to take the initiative here because she pretty much never does.Alcestis said:
I was supposed to be going to a wedding with her this weekend, and when we last saw each other she indicated that was still to be the case, but who knows.
Fuck text-chasing.
Bedecisive.Tell her to meet you, don"t dance around the subject, tell her you want to make a decision, she gets her chance to have an input on the subject.
I"m not saying be rude, but you need to be decisive for relationships to progress into marriage & families. Wishy-washy will never cut it. If you both are, then being both a husband/wife and a father/mother, later on, will both be an endless fucking struggle.
Make the decision, and move on. You have a life to live, and she"s wasting your time, otherwise.
Edit - to be clear, I"m offering this with ton of respect, it"s your life bro.
I don"t think you"re giving her enough credit. After all, shedid"take the initiative" in essentially breaking up the relationship because of a (IMO) rather wishy-washy reason. If one voluntarily fucks something up, he/she should be the one to fix it and make the first move, by my book. Therefore, your very suggestion that she"s hoping you"ll take the initiative just reeks to me of insecurity and beyond excessive timidity on her part, should it be true. That"s a pretty shitty game, as Cutlery pointed out. Don"t set yourself up to second-guess every decision and attempt being a mind-reader. You"ll go mad.Eomer said:
You could combine the best of both worlds if you don"t want to play the waiting game, as a nod to Drave"s line of thought. "Listen. I just got back from my ski trip and have been doing a lot of thinking. You know I want to continue being with you (insert brief reasoning here if you must). However, it"s not fair to either of us to leave us both dangling like this, either. Meet me at X in Y days/other deadline here." That way, you get a set date, you took the initiative, you"re giving her yet longer to decide, andyou can move on in a timely fashion when she ultimately gives another ridiculous excuse.
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I"m not really chasing though. I"m leaving her be during a really busy time of year (school ends in two weeks, she"s a teacher) after she specifically said she wanted some space to think things over.
Again though, considering she was the one who asked for some space and I said I"d leave her be until she was ready, it seems to me that demanding she make a decision immediately if she hasn"t yet made one may just backfire on me.
Quite honestly though, it"s not like I"ve got bitches lined up around the block, nor would I even really WANT to just dive in to something else should it be waiting. I AM getting frustrated, but at the same time it"s not the end of the world to wait another few days or even a week for her to get her shit sorted.
I guess I"m kind of answering my own questions here. My decision is made, I want to stay with her, provided she wants to continue the relationship (and doesn"t attempt to friend me).
More or less that"s what I did. I sent an email with some small talk about my bike trip, and this:Alcestis said:
"We talked a bit about Marie"s wedding last weekend and you weren"t sure what the arrangements were with the retirement party for the librarian (forgot her name temporarily!). Did you figure that out? Are you still expecting me to attend with you?
Just trying to figure out my week (*cough* and where we stand!)."
Oh man. No offense intended Eomer, but I"ll bedamnedif that doesn"t sound like a carefree "we"re still going to prom together rite?" email. You"re not prodding the woman to make a decision at all; you"re trying to usher her there with the wind current from a feather you"re rapidly waving by her ass. Different strokes, I suppose, heh.Eomer said:
I guess you have to make the decisions then. Some day when you two are married she"ll randomly blow up and be like FUCK YOU, YOU AINT MY DADDY, I WANNA MAKE DECISIONS TOO and you can come back here and ask for advice, when in reality, there is no advice.Eomer said:
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You might be right, but from my perspective, I didn"t think it would be a good idea to pressure her for a decision over email. My intent was to ask about the wedding thing for this weekend upcoming and slide in the "where we stand" thing to basically get her to come out and say whether or not she"d made a decision, since the wedding is 4 days away. Based upon her reply, we"ll go from there. If she"s still wishy washy despite this going on for 2-3 weeks now, then I suppose I"ll have to issue an ultimatum.Alcestis said:
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So I"m pretty sure hell"s frozen over and this 3 year relationship is finally over. I say finally because we"ve broken up a few times during the course of the relationship and decided to give it another shot based on my girlfriend not being a whore.
She never had sex with anyone to my knowledge, but flirting through texts, kissing, lying etc was the jist of it until now. Just went up to move her out of her appartment in orlando (hour drive from Tampa) and had to rent a uhaul. I only did this cause to my knowledge everything was going fine. Just about everyday the girl was leaving me facebook msgs, txt msgs, calling me in the morning saying how she cant wait to see me after work, and loves me, and cant wait to move in with me in august etc etc. Sounds pretty bi polar to me, up until the day I moved her out she was all flirting with me and showing me much love, physically and verbally (seriously though,incase that sounds like sarcasm). Shit like that confuses me, she"s done it before where she"s all good girl up until the shit hits the roof then she attempts to turn it around on me blaming me, but I don"t take that shit. You don"t tell someone you want to marry them, move in with them, that you love them etc and then go arrange a dinner date and then tell your bf when your ass is busted that its his fault and all that. Thats some crazy shit and it always spins my head around saying WTF when I look at my facebook wall the week before the day and every damn day I would have something from her saying hey baby i really miss you i"m so glad we hung out tonight i love you so much, sleep well I hope i get to see you tomorrow! Anyone explain this shit? Dunno
Since she rented the uhaul, she drove it and I volunteered to drive her car, she happened to leave her cellphone in the car and some guy texted her, peeking my curiosity and forcing me to browse through her texts. Little do I find she"s talking shit about me to this new guy, and has a dinner date with him at night, after I move her out of her apartment. Yes, just me, as she"s in no shape to lift anything cause she"s never been to a gym in her life, so yeah.
I"d go into details but basically I was stranded in orlando, threatened her to not help her and yeah she called me on leaving me there, so moved her ass out and came home and peaced out. Pretty shocked after 3 years that she would be making a dinner date and putting me down so much, but finally gonna drop it all cause if someone does that to you after 3 years, they"re not worth it all. She attempted to make up with me during the moving out situation and the hour drive home, saying shit like are you sure this is over? Tried to hold my hand, give me hugs, and still say shit liek isnt this salvageable? My response: no why would it be? You already made that decision for us, so what is there to talk about? I guess that was just her trying to show like she actually gave a shit but obviously after her two to three attempts she didnt, and attempted to text the guy while the drive home, and when I asked her not to her response was "why does it matter we"re broken up now anyway" That said it all right there, if I needed any more justification it was that, among other things. Unfortuantely for her she was driving and I was able to grab her cell phone and toss it in the back seat. Win.
So she owes me about a month"s rent, yep, not only helping her move out but loaning her rent money, yet she still doesn"t value my feelings or the relationship. A buddy of mine mentioned some website where you can sell your ex gf sex tapes for money, figured I"d post and ask if anyone knew? I need to get back my losses.
Usually I"d have some decency and feel bad, not want to do that to her, as I can edit her out, but after this blatant disregard of my feelings and my time I find myself justified in not giving two shits about her videos or pictures. I"m not about to go posting it on this forum,yet, as she does owe me teh 500 and still promises to pay it back after the incident occured, so we"ll wait that out.
She never had sex with anyone to my knowledge, but flirting through texts, kissing, lying etc was the jist of it until now. Just went up to move her out of her appartment in orlando (hour drive from Tampa) and had to rent a uhaul. I only did this cause to my knowledge everything was going fine. Just about everyday the girl was leaving me facebook msgs, txt msgs, calling me in the morning saying how she cant wait to see me after work, and loves me, and cant wait to move in with me in august etc etc. Sounds pretty bi polar to me, up until the day I moved her out she was all flirting with me and showing me much love, physically and verbally (seriously though,incase that sounds like sarcasm). Shit like that confuses me, she"s done it before where she"s all good girl up until the shit hits the roof then she attempts to turn it around on me blaming me, but I don"t take that shit. You don"t tell someone you want to marry them, move in with them, that you love them etc and then go arrange a dinner date and then tell your bf when your ass is busted that its his fault and all that. Thats some crazy shit and it always spins my head around saying WTF when I look at my facebook wall the week before the day and every damn day I would have something from her saying hey baby i really miss you i"m so glad we hung out tonight i love you so much, sleep well I hope i get to see you tomorrow! Anyone explain this shit? Dunno
Since she rented the uhaul, she drove it and I volunteered to drive her car, she happened to leave her cellphone in the car and some guy texted her, peeking my curiosity and forcing me to browse through her texts. Little do I find she"s talking shit about me to this new guy, and has a dinner date with him at night, after I move her out of her apartment. Yes, just me, as she"s in no shape to lift anything cause she"s never been to a gym in her life, so yeah.
I"d go into details but basically I was stranded in orlando, threatened her to not help her and yeah she called me on leaving me there, so moved her ass out and came home and peaced out. Pretty shocked after 3 years that she would be making a dinner date and putting me down so much, but finally gonna drop it all cause if someone does that to you after 3 years, they"re not worth it all. She attempted to make up with me during the moving out situation and the hour drive home, saying shit like are you sure this is over? Tried to hold my hand, give me hugs, and still say shit liek isnt this salvageable? My response: no why would it be? You already made that decision for us, so what is there to talk about? I guess that was just her trying to show like she actually gave a shit but obviously after her two to three attempts she didnt, and attempted to text the guy while the drive home, and when I asked her not to her response was "why does it matter we"re broken up now anyway" That said it all right there, if I needed any more justification it was that, among other things. Unfortuantely for her she was driving and I was able to grab her cell phone and toss it in the back seat. Win.
So she owes me about a month"s rent, yep, not only helping her move out but loaning her rent money, yet she still doesn"t value my feelings or the relationship. A buddy of mine mentioned some website where you can sell your ex gf sex tapes for money, figured I"d post and ask if anyone knew? I need to get back my losses.
Usually I"d have some decency and feel bad, not want to do that to her, as I can edit her out, but after this blatant disregard of my feelings and my time I find myself justified in not giving two shits about her videos or pictures. I"m not about to go posting it on this forum,yet, as she does owe me teh 500 and still promises to pay it back after the incident occured, so we"ll wait that out.
Long as she knew the tapes were being made, you can do what you want with em. They"re your property.
not sure how much people would pay for a sex tape staring a girl who has never been to a gym a day in her life tbh
You can be thin without going to the gym but you"ll be very, very "skinny fat" where nothing is tight and shit is still flapping everywhere.
Thats true though most people will pay good money for "normal person" porn.
Thats true though most people will pay good money for "normal person" porn.