Girls who broke your heart thread
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do not tempt us and not deliver. Who cares if she delivers on the money? bitch still needs to be put on display imo. And don"t make your fellow FOHers have to go to some porn site to pay to see it, provide us!lost said:
Nah. You already did her a huge favor and moved her after you found out that she"s a stupid slut (which is more than I would"ve done: next time if you threaten something and someone calls you on that shit, make sure you can follow through). She has no remorse whatsoever and just used you for her own ego at best and whatever else you could give her, like your money, at worst. Fuck her.lost said:
I don"t know of a website like that, but I"m sure it exists. Inclined to agree with Vatoreus that the tapes are yours and you can do what you want with them. Don"t tell her about your plans before you spring them into action though, even as a threat/blackmail to get back your money. I"m no e-lawyer, but I"m sure people can sue for anything these days and win. You don"t want her getting the last laugh.
This. Don"t be a dumb shit and break the law when you have a perfectly legal option to just sell the shit off. No matter what, blackmail is 100% against the law and will get you way more trouble than it"s worth.Alcestis said:
Or cut your losses, eradicate everything pertaining to her (literally and figuratively), rebuild yourself, and succeed.lost said:
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But I think blackmailing her has a much higher probability of keeping us entertained!
So I got a response back from Anne:
And it seems like she"s already built in an excuse to back out on anything we set up for tomorrow.
Thoughts?
So I got a response back from Anne:
So I dunno what the hell. One side of me thinks "well she should just come right out and say "hey, yes, I"d like you to come with me to the wedding"" and since she"s not or leaving it to me, I should just take the hint and beat it. But the other side thinks back to the wedding reception a couple weeks ago where she remarked in an offhand way "this is a big step for me, I"ve never taken a date to a friend"s wedding." But then the first voice kicks back in and says "yeah, that probably doesn"t mean shit because up until things went sideways she"d probably been blabbing to all her friends about this great guy she met and all her friends are now curious to meet him and she"d probably like to be spared the embarassment of showing up alone."
And it seems like she"s already built in an excuse to back out on anything we set up for tomorrow.
Thoughts?
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Yeah I"m not going to threaten her with it or anything. That"s not how I do things and would be more gratifying for her to see the shit after it"s been put public. Thanks for the support, I believe that too, yes I did spoil her also and spend a lot of money on her so that was one thing I felt used about. Sure I thought I could follow through with it I had some friends around there but its a long drive back, wasn"t sure if any of them would hitch me back to town. Believe me, usually I drive us up there, this time I thought I"d do myself a favor and make her drive and pay for her own gas, if I had my own car I would have left here there empty handed, she would have had no one to help her move out and would have been fucked considering her last day to move out is tuesday.Alcestis said:
Even after that she was still not grateful, even more insulting was after it she offered to buy me food for helping her, was like wow are you fucking joking? is that how you thank me and make up for the shit you just caused?
But man you hit the nail on the head, I didnt even go into detail and you"ve got her explained in the exact way I think of her.
Anyway I"m going to think about it and just wait a week or two see what happens etc. She still has some of my DvDs that I need also. It"s like 3 years and now I have to sit around and think about what shit she has of mine that she probably would keep
question..teach just got back in town from a wedding on sunday. after our last date I told her I would call her next week sometime (last thursday). i"m a damn good cook and want to make her something nice, sooo the question...wanna shoot her something like "let me make you dinner tomorrow night" or "i"m making you dinner tomorrow night" something along those lines..thoughts..comments?
Cooking for her at your place is a great idea Bofa. The first line you said sounds a bunch better than the second but it"s a winner date idea in my book.
Hah. I havent logged into my PoF account in a couple months and I get a message right away from this gem...
Empire: In her slinky red dress and everything. Watch out, she"s talking business.
bofa:If you"ll be cooking it while she"s there: don"t cloister yourself over your pots while she flips through Showtime in the other room. Keep it interactive. Makes for great conversation and, if she"s up for being a sous-chef, you can see how you two mesh in the kitchen. There"s also the option of having it plated as soon as she walks in the door. Either way, it"s a fabulous idea.
bofa:If you"ll be cooking it while she"s there: don"t cloister yourself over your pots while she flips through Showtime in the other room. Keep it interactive. Makes for great conversation and, if she"s up for being a sous-chef, you can see how you two mesh in the kitchen. There"s also the option of having it plated as soon as she walks in the door. Either way, it"s a fabulous idea.
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Haha noSnugglebear said:
In fact I sent her a mindfuck e-mail because I"m a vindictive bitch.
"You were right, we should sit down over a cup of coffee some time and talk, I had so much time to think, (insert lots of whiny wah wah here)".
Yeah it"s an asshole move but she treated me like shit for 4 years out of the 4.5 we were a couple, might as well get even.
(of course this only works because she doesn"t know that I know)
lost: You are driving her car and find her cell phone proving she"s cheating on you. Under no circumstance should you have moved her out. Ideally you should have turned around on immediately, driven home to your house, left her car there, and take yours out to meet some friends for a beer. Leaving her with no way to contact you and find out where you are (no cell phone) and no way to know where or why you left. That scenario was so fucking perfect for a "fuck you" farewell that I came a little when I got to that part. Even if you had to talk to her first (you didn"t, there is no legit explanation) you shoulda taken a cab home or something if she was actually gonna leave you there (she wouldn"t), regardless of the cost. Have some dignity.
bofa, cooking date is great idea. It is so good that there is only 1 real way I can think of to fuck it up, and that is to invite her by saying "let me make you dinner." Soooo bad. "Let me do x for you" is one sentence you should never say in your life, ever, to a girl. Here you have a great night planned with a great skill that women love to see in men, and you ruin it by telling her that she is doing you a favor by "LETTING" you cook for her.
Say "I want you to come over to my place, I"m gonna cook." Or some variation of that.
Eomer:I"ve read 100% of what you"ve written about this girl. At this point, I can"t picture a scenario where in a week she says "ok, I figured it all out, it"s solved, and now lets get back together and live happily ever after." Ask yourself honestly, can you? Somewhere, somehow, you lost her. I don"t know how or if you did anything wrong or she is just one of those girls that likes rollercoaster relationships and getting beaten by drunk husbands, but somehow you lost her.
There are 2 options I see, but I have absolutely no idea which is ideal or even if any of them will work. My instinct tells me that waiting around is gonna do jack shit. Again, can you picture any case where a guy who "waited around" actually got the girl? So, option (A) is take control, be demanding with her and let her know that time is up and if she hasn"t figured her shit out you are gonna move on. Option (B) is pull away, as clearly and blatantly as you can, respond to her texts with 0 effort (e.g. "what are you doing", "nothing"...."how was your day?" "fine") and putting in nothing. There is also option (C) which is make plans with her for the wedding, and on the day of you call and cancel and go out with friends for a beer or something, which would royally piss her off and with any luck, put the power right back into your hands. Risky, assholeish, but I kind of like that option.
For option (A), if she is ready again but just waiting for you to take initiative, you win. However if she really lost interest and hasn"t regained it, she pulls away more and game over.
For option (B), if she has lost interest, by pulling away and acting like you don"t give a shit, you ignite the fear of loss inside of her and if she still has feelings for you she will try to get you back. The down side is if she is a girl that has no initiative and tends to let life happen to her rather than take control of life herself, she will let you go and just be sad about it.
For option (C), it is the most manipulative and not conducive to a long-lasting relationship, but I think it has the best chance of success.
I like (B). I think she lost feelings somehow and you need to remind her how much she likes you by pulling away. You can"t half ass it though and can"t be afraid to go against the inborn social ritual norms that you have, such as reciprocating politeness & interest. You gotta make a point of being short as much as possible and never reassure her. If you are doing this right you will feel very uncomfortable when you talk to her, you"ll feel like you"re being excessively impolite. If you don"t, you"re doing it wrong.
Good luck. I"m very curious which one is the best route. But please please please PICK one and commit to it. I think it"s the only hope you have.
bofa, cooking date is great idea. It is so good that there is only 1 real way I can think of to fuck it up, and that is to invite her by saying "let me make you dinner." Soooo bad. "Let me do x for you" is one sentence you should never say in your life, ever, to a girl. Here you have a great night planned with a great skill that women love to see in men, and you ruin it by telling her that she is doing you a favor by "LETTING" you cook for her.
Say "I want you to come over to my place, I"m gonna cook." Or some variation of that.
Eomer:I"ve read 100% of what you"ve written about this girl. At this point, I can"t picture a scenario where in a week she says "ok, I figured it all out, it"s solved, and now lets get back together and live happily ever after." Ask yourself honestly, can you? Somewhere, somehow, you lost her. I don"t know how or if you did anything wrong or she is just one of those girls that likes rollercoaster relationships and getting beaten by drunk husbands, but somehow you lost her.
There are 2 options I see, but I have absolutely no idea which is ideal or even if any of them will work. My instinct tells me that waiting around is gonna do jack shit. Again, can you picture any case where a guy who "waited around" actually got the girl? So, option (A) is take control, be demanding with her and let her know that time is up and if she hasn"t figured her shit out you are gonna move on. Option (B) is pull away, as clearly and blatantly as you can, respond to her texts with 0 effort (e.g. "what are you doing", "nothing"...."how was your day?" "fine") and putting in nothing. There is also option (C) which is make plans with her for the wedding, and on the day of you call and cancel and go out with friends for a beer or something, which would royally piss her off and with any luck, put the power right back into your hands. Risky, assholeish, but I kind of like that option.
For option (A), if she is ready again but just waiting for you to take initiative, you win. However if she really lost interest and hasn"t regained it, she pulls away more and game over.
For option (B), if she has lost interest, by pulling away and acting like you don"t give a shit, you ignite the fear of loss inside of her and if she still has feelings for you she will try to get you back. The down side is if she is a girl that has no initiative and tends to let life happen to her rather than take control of life herself, she will let you go and just be sad about it.
For option (C), it is the most manipulative and not conducive to a long-lasting relationship, but I think it has the best chance of success.
I like (B). I think she lost feelings somehow and you need to remind her how much she likes you by pulling away. You can"t half ass it though and can"t be afraid to go against the inborn social ritual norms that you have, such as reciprocating politeness & interest. You gotta make a point of being short as much as possible and never reassure her. If you are doing this right you will feel very uncomfortable when you talk to her, you"ll feel like you"re being excessively impolite. If you don"t, you"re doing it wrong.
Good luck. I"m very curious which one is the best route. But please please please PICK one and commit to it. I think it"s the only hope you have.
Option D) Go to the wedding with her, then ignore her as much as possible, while ingratiating yourself upon her family members and hot single girlfriends (in a charming fashion, don"t be creepy/sleazy). Make extensive use of the free/discount bar booze.
What"s her nationality? That sounds very British/Aussie.
Anyway she honestly sounds tired/stressed from her life in that message. (As opposed to a tease/leading you on, etc.)
(Big Fucking Guess disclaimer)
Maybe she wants to make it work, she just wants to see if you are able man-up and help with the "business" side of the relationship (aka like bills, planning, etc), not just sex (which mostly relieves you, not her).
If you can"t, you are added to her workload (like taking care of a child), instead of helping (like a husband).
Ok enough of the /Dr. Phil mode!
Eomer:
Both my mother and sister are teachers, I have an Ed degree and knowa pile of teachers (I was almost one myself). Report card time is crazy time.
Growing up, it was understood that during report card time, Mom was almost completely inaccessible. She was one of those teachers that cared a lot about every student and she spent a ton of time coming up with personalized commentary on each"s strengths/weaknesses/attitudes etc. She was almost a different person for a couple of weeks twice a year, but especially in June.
While reading about your current situation, that"s totally what popped into my head. May or may not have any truth to it (we all know wimmins can be cray-ay-zeeee), but keep it in mind anyway.
Both my mother and sister are teachers, I have an Ed degree and knowa pile of teachers (I was almost one myself). Report card time is crazy time.
Growing up, it was understood that during report card time, Mom was almost completely inaccessible. She was one of those teachers that cared a lot about every student and she spent a ton of time coming up with personalized commentary on each"s strengths/weaknesses/attitudes etc. She was almost a different person for a couple of weeks twice a year, but especially in June.
While reading about your current situation, that"s totally what popped into my head. May or may not have any truth to it (we all know wimmins can be cray-ay-zeeee), but keep it in mind anyway.