The Ancient_sl
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Your "plan" sucks. Have an enjoyable dinner and see where it goes from there.
Giving a girl some good loving doesn"t make them want you less.
Giving a girl some good loving doesn"t make them want you less.
this. Like I said she"s a cool chick that I"d definitely like to hang out with more / get to know better. I know plenty of girls I could go wine dine then 69 to get my jollies off, yet I"m gonna try a different angle this time around and see if the results vary. This one just might be worth hanging out with more than just a week or two..who knows, I"ll find out more tonight.*shrug* All"s I know is that the past half dozen or so relationships I"ve had, sex has come within the first couple dates (which took place over no more than a week), and they"ve not gone anywhere. So in some ways I"m glad that things in my current situation are proceeding quite slowly, perhaps it"ll lead to something that lasts longer.
And you think this has to do with your time period for having sex with them and not some other compatibility measure?Eomer said:*shrug* All"s I know is that the past half dozen or so relationships I"ve had, sex has come within the first couple dates (which took place over no more than a week), and they"ve not gone anywhere. So in some ways I"m glad that things in my current situation are proceeding quite slowly, perhaps it"ll lead to something that lasts longer.
The Ancient is right. Don"t worry so much about whether you"re going to end up getting some or not. Who knows, maybe SHE won"t want to sleep with you on the first date (generally a good indicator of "nice girl" status, but not always). I would go on the date, have a good time, drive her home, walk her up to her door, give her a nice kiss and then go home. If she asks to go to your place just tell her you have work tomorrow but that you would love to see her again on X day this upcoming week.this. Like I said she"s a cool chick that I"d definitely like to hang out with more / get to know better. I know plenty of girls I could go wine dine then 69 to get my jollies off, yet I"m gonna try a different angle this time around and see if the results vary. This one just might be worth hanging out with more than just a week or two..who knows, I"ll find out more tonight.
Abort. Run away. Pull out. Eject.Ashes Emberblade said:A girl I met on Halloween and I have been talking since... we"ve been out a few times, talk on the phone for hours, all that fun stuff... I like her. I like her so much I threw away the 8 phone numbers hot girls gave me the past few days of mardi gras.
She"s pretty stand offish physically though. Reluctant to be affectionate. Last night she told me she was raped a few years ago. I am confused about my feelings.
FML
I dated a girl who was raped. It"s not a good situation to knowingly push yourself into.Ashes Emberblade said:A girl I met on Halloween and I have been talking since... we"ve been out a few times, talk on the phone for hours, all that fun stuff... I like her. I like her so much I threw away the 8 phone numbers hot girls gave me the past few days of mardi gras.
She"s pretty stand offish physically though. Reluctant to be affectionate. Last night she told me she was raped a few years ago. I am confused about my feelings.
FML
That just sounds bad when talking about a rape victim.Tenks said:knowingly push yourself into.
Are you saying that you shouldn"t date girls who admit to being raped?Tenks said:I dated a girl who was raped. It"s not a good situation to knowingly push yourself into.
But I wouldn"t go so far to say that if you dated a girl who was raped, you"re in for an emotionall taxing relationship.Eomer said:I think he"s more saying that getting into a relationship with someone with that background without realizing that it"s likely going to be emotionally taxing/confusing for both sides is not a good idea.
I get your point and I agree. But restraint sets the tone for a more mature and real relationship. (It can also rile a girl up and keep her more interested and for longer if you are just looking for a fuck buddy.) And her perception matters also. What do you think of when you meet a girl and hook up with her the first night? Even if you really like her, you are probably gonna proceed very cautiously thinking maybe she"s just a party girl and you"re gonna get hurt (or if you"re a guy, you"ll probably see it as fucked over or simply "she"s a slut"). She might think the same about you, that you"re a player or a womanizer or whatever. Maybe there could be something real there, but since you both are on your guard protecting your ego from what may be an insincere person, the relationship never takes off.The Ancient said:And you think this has to do with your time period for having sex with them and not some other compatibility measure?
Here is a honest break-down for you and bofa, you don"t get to force a girl into wanting more than a temporary sexual relationship by putting it off in the beginning. You can make her want you more, for sure, but it"s not going to translate into some over-arching true love scenario just cause you pull it off. And while you can pull it off if you aren"t really good at it, you"ll fuck it up just as easily. Take some when you can get it, I say. You probably need the practice more than you need to make sure this girl becomes "the one."