Girls who broke your heart thread

Ravvenn_sl

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Yeah, but is he married and happy? Because, uh, if he"s not, then... he"s failing at his own game.
I think that"s the point of his game,it"s a game. He"s not out looking for love, he"s looking to get his junk wet. While his "techniques" (for lack of better wording) are beneficial to newbies, virgins, basement dwellers, shy people, etc. I don"t think it"s a how-to for finding love as much as it is a how-to for finding the confidence to approach and bed girls at bars.

For the record, I have no intention of ever enabling something like that.
I didn"t think you would have those intentions. Sorry if I came off rude, it wasn"t my intention.

On the flip side, there are people independent enough that they are truly happy alone. They may find their companionship through friends or other means and if so fuck it, more power to them. Everyone has a right to be happy.
Makes sense. Every person is different, though, so really in this pseudo-debate, no-one is really right when it"s a matter of feelings over facts. It took me being happy with someone to realize I could be happy with myself (because I was given the chance to learn, grow, and all of that silly shit to realize who I even was and wanted to be). I"m kind of backwards and retarded, though.

Hit it directly on the head. People that flaunt their relationships are ultimately not happy with themselves. People who are content with who they are do not need to go around talking about how great their significant other is because they"re genuinely happy people.
I"ve met those people and while I will sometimes brag on the man, it"s not really flaunting my relationship as much as it is me being proud of him. So I don"t think I apply there. If I"m asked for advice, I usually give it based off of personal experiences and/or mistakes I"ve made in my relationship(s). I"ve seen the people who brag so much you feel like they"re trying to convince you (and themselves) something is so perfect that you end up convinced it"s probably the opposite. There"s a difference between being proud and being annoying, trying to find the balance and appropriate times to boast your significant others" awesomeness is key.

I cannot see anyone saying "let"s just have fun" in any sincere or meaningful way that would make a girl feel appreciated and respected. it"s just not my style.
Right. Regardless of the tone used, your average woman would hear that as; "Look, I"d like to just sleep with you right now but not get too serious in the event something better comes along." Your intentions could be the opposite, but remember, females are sensitive, they over-analyze, second guess, etc. That"s a dangerous line right there!

Ultimately you may not be interested in the guy romantically for all the reasons you say, but to say or imply he would fail at getting your emotions pumping is silly.
If repulsion counts as an emotion, sure! Hey, we don"t have to agree on everything. I forgot how old you are, but maybe it"s just my old hag POV that clashes with the views of you young lads.
 

redslash_foh

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to say or imply he would fail at getting your emotions pumping is silly. His career revolves around that, and he"s multimillionaire now because of it.
That"s like saying Criss Angel"s career revolves around his ability to levitate and cut himself in half. Obviously the fact that he can"t do magic hasn"t stopped his career, because the money is made by selling you the illusion. Along the same lines, Mystery"s career doesn"t depend on him being able to get women, Mystery"s career depends on his ability toconvince you that his techniques work, so that you will give him money. He"s good at his job.
 

Brad2770

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GrobbeeTrull2.0 said:
Because for all the shit talking you boys do, I"ve managed to do the truly hard thing: keep one. What does a one night stand or three month fuck-fling get you in the long run? Nothing, except maybe AIDS. Or an unwanted pregnancy.
Isnt the one you got for keeps an unwanted preganancy? Shut the fuck up...

I await your rebuttal.
 

Rune_foh

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GrobbeeTrull2.0 said:
Because for all the shit talking you boys do, I"ve managed to do the truly hard thing: keep one.
Fascinating words from a divorcee. Fucking retard, eat your own words for once and see how they taste.
 
Brad2770 said:
Isnt the one you got for keeps an unwanted preganancy? Shut the fuck up...

I await your rebuttal.
What? We planned this baby. Read back. It was out of wedlock, but certainly wanted.

Fascinating words from a divorcee. Fucking retard, eat your own words for once and see how they taste.
I left her. For a better one. Tastes like you.
 
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Seriously wtf.

This thread has deteriorated into "being single is better than being married!!111!!!!" and "being married is awesome you single people are losers!!!111"??

Look folks ToeMissile, Rav, those are the people getting it right.

I"ll troll with the best of them (I don"t troll Brad however that guy just flat out pisses me off with the whole victim bit) but here"s how this plays out.

Some people ARE happy being alone and single. There"s nothing wrong with them its just who they friggin are. They aren"t afraid of marriage they"re not fucked in the head some people just aren"t programmed for one person one relationship one life.

Some people like being in relationships. It doesn"t make them codependent it doesn"t mean they don"t know who they are it just means that they enjoy the company of people around them and seek that company out for satisfaction beyond a sexual nature.

I think judging people because they are single or married at a young age is the STUPIDEST shit ever. If someone"s happy then they"re happy. If the relationship is healthy -that"s all that matters. When people start talking shit like "oh you got married at 19 wtf do you know" or "you can"t get a date on the internet" .......its just retarded.

I love my fiance to death but christ if I"m going to use that as something to throw in someone"s face. Being married/engaged/w/e doesn"t mean I somehow "won". Nor does it mean that he lost (though sometimes the shit I put him thru even I"d agree that maybe he"s being karmatically punished).

If you find someone that you can stand that can stand you fantastic. If you don"t want to mess with that process, good on you for knowing that about yourself. At the end of the day what really matters is that you"re getting what you want out of life. And if you"re not then you have to be open to suggestions about changing your situation. Period.

Its not about winning or losing, being single or being married - theres no magic answer that will just make you happy because of what your tax filing status is.


PS - I held it in til just now but Cutlery - that card your wife gave you for Valentines day? I gave that to my fiance two or three years ago.
 

Brad2770

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Sutekh said:
I think everyone needs a refresher, who"s got the link.
Here is a PM I received from her before she had access (4-2-2009):

Grobbeeisaliar said:
Hello, this grobbee"s soon to be ex wife. the fucking moron doesn"t think that i read what he writes on here. EVERYTHING he has said about me is a lie. his new girlfriend? well he cheated on me with her right after we got married. This me being sick and kicking him out of my mom"s house, total crap. he came crying to me about how i wasn"t being attentive to his needs, well too bad i"m trying to not be in the hospital. I gave him a chance to leave the relationship there, but he said no i love you and want to be with you. this new girlfriend was never "our" girlfriend, just a one time stupid 3some. I kicked him out when i found out he had slept with her without my knowledge. Before that, i was ready and willing to leave the country and everything i knew for him. his story about me screaming and lying to him is bullshit. He begged me to try and reconcile. Which we tried, then he left me 3 weeks later. 3 weeks after that, he once again asked me to take him back but as soon as i said no, he and his new girlfriend officially became a couple and she got pregnant like the next fucking day. He still emails me and tells me i was his soul mate. Too bad you need a soul in order to have a soul mate.
We have only been separated since the end of January. not even 3 months yet. I see that he is trying to call you on some shit, but while i wait for my account to be activated so I can blast him myself i thought i"d tell you about his drudgery. So at least you know you are in the right to call him on his crap and not take his advice. Oh and i"m not the only one he"s cheated on. Grobbee was never honest with me. So instead of facing it, he says that i was the one that was never honest. He"s full of nothing but shit and lies. So go ahead, call him on his crap. He fucking deserves it.
Went ahead and looked it up since I had the date. Starts here:

 

Dryst_foh

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How do you guys feel about letting your g/f hang alone with another man. My g/f asked me if she could watch the fight with her manager at his place with him and his roomate since I have plans to go to the Casino"s with my guy friends. I felt pretty uncomfortable about it since i"ve never met her manager and when she could tell that I was troubled she told me that she"s hung out there before and he"s never hit on her at all and she wouldn"t go if I didn"t want her to. Trying to be an adult and not seem jealous I told her that it was completely fine as long as she didn"t think he would try anything which she acted like I was saying something ludicrous suggesting that her "manager" would try to hook up with her.

She"s not a slut, i"m only the 3rd guy she"s had sex with at 22 and she even made me even wait a month until I said those magic words "I don"t want to stick my dick in other girls, just you".

It"s a shitty situation, she"s pretty into me so i"m not that worried about her doing anything... but I can never feel comfortable about having a g/f hang out with a guy b/c lets be honest, friendly or not all we want to do is fuck. I"m trying not to pull the same jealous bullshit now at 25 than I did when I was 18 but fuck it bothers me, then again i"ve never really dated trustworthy girls before either. Should I grow up and not be uncomfortable about this or put the dick down and not let her go?
 

Sutekh

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She wants to fuck him. But hey, what are you going to do about it? If she wants to do it she"s going to do it. I"d say let her go!
 

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Ashes Emberblade said:
Link the exact post since you"re a retard and not on max posts per page.
Fuck you. I should make you look for it because youre not at default settings.

 

Dryst_foh

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Sutekh said:
She wants to fuck him. But hey, what are you going to do about it? If she wants to do it she"s going to do it. I"d say let her go!
Lol see that"s my rationale with pretty much every other girl i"ve ever dated. This girl is different though, she literally talks to every girl and guy we come across when we go drinking... she"s one of the few genuinely friendly people. That"s the problem though, i"ve never trusted a girl before because I never had one worth trusting... don"t want to look like a naive idiot when she calls me telling me he tried to make a move on her, then again don"t want to be a controlling asshole if he really is a respectful guy, he knows she has a b/f.
 

Aulirophile_foh

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Dryst said:
How do you guys feel about letting your g/f hang alone with another man. My g/f asked me if she could watch the fight with her manager at his place with him and his roomate since I have plans to go to the Casino"s with my guy friends. I felt pretty uncomfortable about it since i"ve never met her manager and when she could tell that I was troubled she told me that she"s hung out there before and he"s never hit on her at all and she wouldn"t go if I didn"t want her to. Trying to be an adult and not seem jealous I told her that it was completely fine as long as she didn"t think he would try anything which she acted like I was saying something ludicrous suggesting that her "manager" would try to hook up with her.

She"s not a slut, i"m only the 3rd guy she"s had sex with at 22 and she even made me even wait a month until I said those magic words "I don"t want to stick my dick in other girls, just you".

It"s a shitty situation, she"s pretty into me so i"m not that worried about her doing anything... but I can never feel comfortable about having a g/f hang out with a guy b/c lets be honest, friendly or not all we want to do is fuck. I"m trying not to pull the same jealous bullshit now at 25 than I did when I was 18 but fuck it bothers me, then again i"ve never really dated trustworthy girls before either. Should I grow up and not be uncomfortable about this or put the dick down and not let her go?
It isn"t about the guy (any guy), it is about the girl. Being a little jealous is fine, girls think it is cute in small doses anyway, but the fundamental question is "Do you trust her?" After only a month there should be some definite hesitation imo, but you absolutely don"t want to indicate that she isn"t trustworthy by saying "no, you can"t hang out with your guy friends." What you did was the right thing. It"ll come easier if you trust her more... which is totally time and behavior based, so.

For me, my fiance could say she was going to an orgy just to watch and I"d tell her to have fun. After five years she has not given me any reason not to trust her, so I absolutely trust her. No doubt half the thread is going to tell me that I"m dumb for doing so, but it is a choice I make. I"ve never been the jealous type, either.
 

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Give them the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. When proven otherwise DUMP THEM AND DON"T LOOK BACK.
 

Dryst_foh

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brekk said:
Give them the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. When proven otherwise DUMP THEM AND DON"T LOOK BACK.
Sigh, for once FoH actually makes me feel better. I thought I was past this shit since i"ve spent the last year care free just dating and not getting attached to anyone but now that I am attached I feel ridiculously vulnerable. Being a manwhore and all it just doesn"t compute that a guy and girl can hang out without anything happening... I guess I got to remember not everyone is a sleezy shit like me.