Girls who broke your heart thread
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You"ve randomly posted about how your wife has a good way of fucking you up whenever she feels like it, so you should seriously cover all of your bases - even with child support. Your way of doing it may be better but it"s always good to have it in writing. Hell who knows, you fix things up and be a good dad your kid might grow up to resent his mother later in life if she really ping pongs you around.Brad2770 said:
Good post. Brad, every time the board comes together with advice that is against what you instinctively want to do (which is what advice IS), you fight it tooth and nail with more vigor than Etoille eating a cheeseburger. It"s a god damn pain in the ass. Then finally you get beat down so much that you eventually are willing to listen, and HOLY SHIT IT WAS GOOD ADVICE. Look back at the therapy argument. 20 people yelling to go to a god damn counselor for pages and pages and you fighting it, then finally you give in and, in your own words, it has been working great.Tarrant220 said:
You don"t like your visitation agreement. Your informal agreement allows your ex to manipulate you. And you really, really hate that. Coming here to complain also means that you really, really hate your visitation agreement.
You want your life to be unaffected by your ex"s manipulation attempts. She can currently manipulate you very easily. The solution is to make everything official. That"s your option. You can solve your problem that you really really hate, or you can embrace it for no reason.
She may get more money from you through the court. You may get more visitation. You may get less. Of course there"s no guaranteed answer. You can TRY to improve your situation, or you can do nothing about it and complain.
But if you aren"t gonna listen to people, stop posting for advice. It"s exhausting to see you do the same exact thing you did about the counselor. You"re so god damn stubborn.
If anything will get through to him, that extremely graphic analogy might be it.Dabamf said:
I lol"ed.
You have to be a dick, to fuck the assholes that would shit all over the pussies.Eomer said:
Your attorney sounds pretty retarded if he thinks you have a good thing (unless you"re not giving out some important information here). I had a friend with a "good situation" like yours. Up until she (his ex) married someone else and sued him for unpaid support (her honeymoon), everything he paid through a shared account and checks (even where he put "child support" as the note) was considered a gift and he ended up owing several years of back-pay in child support (about $13,000 and his kid was 4-5). Maybe the Texas laws are different, but if they"re as backwards as you claim they are, and she randomly gets pissed at you and decides she wants some money, she"s going to sue you for back-pay and there"s probably not a damn thing you can do about it. Not once did this guy mention covering your ass and paying through the child support department?
It"s not a good thing, but it"s a good way to end up paying double in the long run.
It"s not a good thing, but it"s a good way to end up paying double in the long run.
Brad2770
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Im not leaving anything out. I didnt go into full detail, just the basics. I dont feel like trying to explain the full conversation now because-
I talked to my ex. I told her I was seriously considering a lawyer and fighting for set visitation with at least 2 or 3 days a week. She asked me why i was thinking about this and I told her how I felt. She asked me if it was really coming to this and i told her I was unhappy. Surprisingly enough, she didnt mention child support. We did agree on this (for now- Until I start school.):
I have 2 alternating weeks-
1st week: Saturday night through monday night. I take him to dinner on Weds night.
2nd week: Saturday night and Tuesday night.
I told her that if I had problems, I would get the ball rolling. She said she didnt want issues with me, that she wanted both of us to be happy without any third party aid.
We will see how it goes. I figured i would at least talk to her one more time before getting a judge involved.
I talked to my ex. I told her I was seriously considering a lawyer and fighting for set visitation with at least 2 or 3 days a week. She asked me why i was thinking about this and I told her how I felt. She asked me if it was really coming to this and i told her I was unhappy. Surprisingly enough, she didnt mention child support. We did agree on this (for now- Until I start school.):
I have 2 alternating weeks-
1st week: Saturday night through monday night. I take him to dinner on Weds night.
2nd week: Saturday night and Tuesday night.
I told her that if I had problems, I would get the ball rolling. She said she didnt want issues with me, that she wanted both of us to be happy without any third party aid.
We will see how it goes. I figured i would at least talk to her one more time before getting a judge involved.
...And then she has a bad case of PMS and decides to fuck you over.Brad2770 said:
Brad, I implore you to listen to the advice this board is giving you: get the god damn courts involved and make it official.
It doesn"t matter what your manipulative bitch of an ex-wife is telling you now, you *will* get fucked HARD if you continue on with this informal shit.
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Why do you even ask for advice when you basically just do what you want anyways. Seriously, if after like 50 people tell you to get everything in writing you just go full retard and ignore it and have more informal bullshit that will likely end up blowing up in your face. That"s seriously fucking dense.
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Because I cant go out with guns blazing without giving her (or anyone, for that matter) some sort of heads up. She knows now that there will be consequences. If things go south, then it is on her. I deal with her family almost on a daily basis. I WORK with her dad. I would prefer things be easy going for me. Right now, I dont catch problems from her family (unless I bitch at her and she shows her dad text messages).manslayer said:
Papers or not, if she decided to keep my son from me one weekend, the worst that would happen is I show up with the police, they write up a report and I have to take her back to court and spend more money. They cant remove the child from her custody even if it was my weekend/time with him.
