I was in Brads shoes ones. My ex wife and I had an "agreement". visitation wasn"t in writing, neither was child support and we had an agreement to take turns claiming the kids.
Little by little she went back on things, it was harder to get the kids, she gave me a hard time about shit, she ended up claiming the kids on my turn come tax time, finally when I said I had enough of it I took her to court and she counter filled for back child support.
I got everything I wanted but ended up having to pay $6000 in back child support even though i had a log and receipt of every expense involving the kids and legal documentation.
The whole time I thought I had things good, people told me I didn"t and I didn"t listen so I understand Brads mentality.....however that doesn"t change the fact that it"s retarded and I didn"t have the benefit of 30 people all telling me at the same time how retarded it was, nor did I have someone with experience telling it to me.
Brad you"re setting yourself up for a fall. You cant go in all guns blazing? Why the fuck not, stop caring about what she thinks, what she feels and what she is going to say or do. Get over it and her, man the hell up and take full control of the situation.
By not doing so you"re going to fuck yourself over int he end then you"re gonna post here about it and the cycle all begins over again. You seem to be the only one that thinks it"s a good idea....there"s a reason for that, because it"s not.
I"m not calling you names like others here, I"m telling you from experience and no, your situation isn"t different, your ex isn"t unlike all the others and there is nothing special about the situation. Get with it, get your shit together and get everything in writing before it"s to late and you"re fucked beyond belief.
I mean, unless you can afford to pay 10"s of thousands of dollars later on and want un-needed drama, by all means, keep doing what you"re doing.
