Hate to say it man, but your story sounds exactly like mine with Anne. Maybe not exactly, but a lot of similarities. Whether she knows it consciously or not, she may be trying to get you to end the relationship so she doesn"t have to feel the guilt of doing so.Vim said:
The fact that you asked means that she thinks you"re thinking about it, and in her mind that will justify her seeing other dudes while you "give her space".Vim said:
I lurk here a lot (this thread), never post, but this just made me feel like I had to say something. Having pictures of another woman on your phone is not a big deal. Obviously it is a landmine for an unstable, insecure woman to find, but any woman who is secure enough in her own position with you and has had partners in the past realizes that it is no big deal. You keep saying it is such a bad problem, but it isn"t. The same kind of woman that will blow up and go back to her abusive, controlling ex after seeing evidence of your past with any woman would do the same with or without evidence. The fact that she reacted the way she did suggests her trust in men has been destroyed and is only seeking someone to make her suffer as her ex did, that is why she left. It happens a lot - after being in an abusive relationship for so long, people tend to become addicted and want the abuse more, so they will either create a source of tension themselves (which she did), and when that fails, simply go back to someone who will do it for them (which she did also).Kenadul said:
So you"d be cool with your gf/girl/woman getting pics sent to them by other guys? And it isn"t necessarily a stability/security issue. My gf and I have been together for +4 years and don"t have any trust issues. We both have friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with and it"s not a problem. But neither of us think it"s appropriate when in a relationship to be sending/receiving photos of that nature.Grozmok said:
I agree that she overreacted, but I think she"s justified in being at least a little pissed off about it.Inconsiderable said:
Yeah she like all women had bits of insecurities and it would occasionally come up but she was beautiful and I would remind her of that often. The worst of the pictures were very old and two of them which were basically the same were sent to me while we were dating. I simply should have deleted those right away as I did not look at them even once after she sent them. I think you are right about the abusive relationship part as well. I had the same thought that she like many women who have been through that almost want to create an environment of chaos at times because they have gotten use to that in past relationships. Luckily that did not come up much with us until this incident but it is very telling. To the guy that said she should have talked to me about it before running to her friends and family and getting it set in her mind that I cheated on her with 40 chicks is so right, that is the biggest problem I have, and it goes back to immaturity. I am still moving on and not looking back btw.Grozmok said:
I agree completely except my apologizing was more about me checking her phone and the big ass fight where she went nuts. When this all went down in the beginning I told her that it was ridiculous and even laughed at how she was making it such a big deal when it was nothing, the laughing was probably a bad idea and pissed her off, but I was more pissed than apologetic until I looked through her phone.Dabamf said:
Yeah I did too, when I was at work the day it all happened or the day after we were texting and she was like, what the hell was that picture, and I sent back "an ass lol" and then it was downhill from there haha, oh well.Inconsiderable said:
