Girls who broke your heart thread

Oh lol, another winner for sure I guess.

adebisi said:

Not Grob"s.

GaliemVaelant

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Wow thanks, I totally missed that thread"s return and got to re-enjoy the original hilarity.

Edit: Fuck no, I got to some pictures I did not want to see. I rescind my thank you.

Brad2770 said:

That"s almost exactly how I feel. Like a little part of me, in the back of my mind, is like "Yeah, there will be great times, but it will more than likely end terribly... why waste my time? I think I want a motorcycle."

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I"m not the hopeless romantic type, but at some point it"s fairly likely that you"ll meet someone that changes how you feel about that kind of thing. Might take a couple years, might not be until you"re 60, might not ever happen. But the odds of any of those things are significantly affected by how you approach things. If you"re fine feeling that way, great, act accordingly. If not, then give some thought to what you can do about it.

FML sums up that wack ass post.

Tarrant220 said:

Thanks!

It"s kinda crazy going over the very first post I had in this thread...reading where I came from and seeing where I ended up. I"m a whole different person now, pretty nuts.

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I"ll forever remember your "I don"t like to get cancelled on, so there won"t be another time" or however you worded it to her when she cancelled your first date. Pretty sure your balls grew an inch in diameter after that.

Hell, so after my last relationship I made some life changes and am going back to school. I"m 26 (27 in November) in classes with 18-22 year olds and I hate partying. I"m taking enough units that school is going to be basically where I spend most of my time.

Help.

what do you need help with?

you hate partying: do not go to partys

you are almost 27: dont date 18-22 year olds

you spend most of your time at school: people your age spend most of their time at work and generally do not date within the office

pick up an out of school hobby, classes at lowes or home depot will be great for your age group

adebisi said:

I have way more respect for education then I did when I was in college (almost 9 years ago).

Embrace your studies and tune everything else out.

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I"ve read the books, even the parts we"re not covering, for all my classes. I"m roughly three weeks ahead on my homework. I never went to college before so these are just general ed credits, I just need to prove I know stuff that I"ve known for years. Maybe in a couple of years when I get to new stuff it"ll require some focus, but not so much right now. And honestly part of what I"m looking for is getting better at socializing and talking to girls so I don"t repeat certain mistakes, that probably has more educational value then any of the classes I"m taking.

Just not sure how to meet people, I"m a total introvert. The Lowe"s classes might actually work. Funny thing about the town I live in, it is so expensive to live here that almost everyone is old and retired or a student, the people my age are a real minority.

Zeitgeist said:

Dabamf et al. Recently I have been in contact with a lot of (native) Korean chicks. And it"s kinda strange to really get talking with them.
It"s like you can only talk shortly about one topic and then it"s silence or so. There is no natural flow like I am used to with girls @ my home country.

So any tips to be able to read their behaviour better?

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Forgot about this. Need more info. Are you in Korea? In the states? Were the girls born in Korea and moved? What age? All that stuff matters a lot.

Also, if it"s in the states, where is this bastion of Korean women so I can move there when I return to the states?

Aulirophile said:

Just not sure how to meet people, I"m a total introvert.

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Converse with everyone. In class, ask the person next to you a question about your homework, even if you know the answer. If their answer is minimal or reluctant, they"re sorta awkward themselves anyway (lots of that in college) and just talk to someone else instead. You can judge their openness to talk to you right away by their body language. But don"t force conversation; speak casually. If you end up sitting next to and speaking to the same person twice, start saying hello to them. Pretty simple basic stuff.

Start saying hi and how are you to any service person you meet, even to the mutants at the walmart checkout. Just make that a rule for yourself now. That"s the easiest one. The only way to get comfortable socially is to force yourself. You"ll do and say awkward things here and there and be embarrassed, but over time you develop the necessary skills. Like everything in life, sociability can be learned and improved with practice. It"s not a magic pill, but it made me approximately 13434159194 times better at interacting with people compared to my awkward high school and college years.

Dabamf said:

Start saying hi and how are you to any service person you meet, even to the mutants at the walmart checkout. Just make that a rule for yourself now.

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Are there people who don"t do this? I"ve never really paid attention. That is standard etiquette by the standards I was raised by....

Talk to people in class. Right. "Force myself" is definitely the right phrasing.

Aulirophile said:

Talk to people in class. Right. "Force myself" is definitely the right phrasing.

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There are no magic solutions. Practice is pretty much the answer to everything in life. The best way to get comfortable meeting people is to meet people. If you don"t exercise and decide you want to run a 6 minute mile, your first run will totally suck. But you power your way through it and eventually you start improving, and it doesn"t suck so much. Eventually you may come to enjoy it (I do) and, with enough practice, reach your goal.

If you open your mind about it, you"ll be surprised by the things you end up liking. I used to think most people are morons, and that"s probably still true, but I remember reading a quote by someone years ago that said something like "everyone is my superior in some form," ie everyone is better than you at something, so everyone can be learned from. That made me more open to meet people. And that line is true.

So, I was reluctant to post this here, but I figure I am due for some "I told you so"s"...

I called my ex today to tell her I wanted my son on Thurs. She told me that I could get him Weds. or Fri. (I chose Fri.), but that his first T-Ball practice was on Thurs. I said "That"s great! Where at?"

"Oh, it"s in [city]. I"ll let [my son] know you will be seeing him on Fri."

"Uh, I"ll be seeing him Thurs. too."

"Well, I have a CPR class I will be attending and We already have plans for [her husband] to be taking him. It"s just a practice, you won"t be missing anything. My dad isn"t going and I can"t be there either."

"So fucking what! I want to be there and I will be there"

Basically, it ended with her saying that she will think about it, but most likely not because she doesn"t think I should be there with her new husband without her there. I informed her that I would not be sitting with the chump, that i will be either watching my son or helping him, but that I would be tending my own business.

It means a lot to me that I am there for him. One of the promises I made to him when he was a baby. I already failed at one - "Not keeping his family together" - I will not fail on another one.

Not sure why this took the cake, but it has finally been revealed that she cannot be trusted. I know you guys told me, but even with all that happened, I really wanted to trust what she had said. I wanted to believe that she would be a good person to me at least for my son and not use me, because I would not use her. I had always told her the truth about everything. She knew all of my intentions and how I felt about everything. I really and truly wanted to make things work again and I wasn"t going to rebuild on lies... She took advantage of my trust and generosity.

I checked my divorce decree and it said nothing about events like this- Like if she is obligated to tell me. Cad, if you could PM me, I would like to speak to you. As soon as I secure work, I will be taking her to court. I will be finding out what my full rights are. I will be setting myself up on child support.

For fuck"s sake, it"s just a baseball practice. I could easily be the one to take him and surely deserve to be the one to take him.

Aulirophile said:

Just not sure how to meet people, I"m a total introvert.

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See if your school has a student tutoring program. Introduce you to new people fairly regularly, teach you how to form connections with people on a 1 on 1 level. You probably won"t meet your intellectual equal this way but it"s good practice. Teaching is the antithesis of intoversion at the very least and you never know. A girl might invite you out for a beer and she may have a smarter, cuter friend.

If you want a real trial by fire though join a theater group. As an extrovert myself that was like...heaven. ~Especially~ if you can find one that does improv and the like. I"m talking improv like "Whose Line" and not interpretive dance improv that is. I get to entertain people, make them laugh and smile, all attention is focused on me and I get to showcase my talent and quick wit? God, just the thought of it gives me wood.

I"m in the same boat. Just went back to school and I"m 27. As far as being awkward around people? Nah, be a retard so what. I"ve found if I do what I want (within normal bounds ex. No dancing naked in the hall) people think I know something they dont and want to hang out.

Worst case scenario they think your weird and hate you. Fuck em, your going to school to get some education, not impress a bunch of shit ass 18 year olds.