aww hell yeah Brad. just be prepared for a significant hit to your bank account.
but it"ll be worth it in the long run!
but it"ll be worth it in the long run!
Girls who broke your heart thread
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Non-profit volunteering is a great way to meet nice girls, which it sounds like you"re looking for.Aulirophile said:Are there people who don"t do this?I"ve never really paid attention. That is standard etiquette by the standards I was raised by....
Talk to people in class. Right. "Force myself" is definitely the right phrasing.
This is good advice, but you really have to be genuine about volunteering first. These girls are smarter than your standard barfly and will pick up on the fact that you are there just to meet women(and be guarded) if that"s your goal.MrGraham said:
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I dunno why anyone would feel nervous about meeting people when they go back to school and they"re 5-10 years older. If anything those kids are intimidated by you, and will think you"re pretty swell if you show you"re not some ancient geezer and actually can relate to them on some levels.
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Yeah, a lot of them.Aulirophile said:Are there people who don"t do this?
I"ll say "hi" if people say hi to me. I"ll nod at men if that"s the greeting they choose to use. Other than that, I don"t generally pay any recognition to anyone else. And I pretty much never ask "How are you?" because I don"t give a fuck and I really don"t want to get into random conversations with people.
Having a seething hatred for most of the human race kinda does that to you, I guess.
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Glad to see you"re finally getting aroudn to getting everything in paper Brad, I know what you"re feeling and thinking and all along I got your reasoning for doign what you did....because I did all of it too. I"m glad you came to your senses over something minor like t-ball pratice instead of something more serious.
Hope it goes well for you....the extra money you"ll be spending will be worth it to have the peace of mind knowing no matter what, you"ll get time with your son as oposed to awaiting her approval.
Hope it goes well for you....the extra money you"ll be spending will be worth it to have the peace of mind knowing no matter what, you"ll get time with your son as oposed to awaiting her approval.
Not really, no. If anything someone that age is going to feel better than someone older, seeing how they"re doing the same stuff younger.Eomer said:
Being a recent graduate I felt nothing about older people in my classes. I just kind of assumed they tried something out right after HS, failed, and are now in college. I just skipped the whole failing after HS part.Eomer said:
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It wasnt really the T-Ball game that got to me. It was the thought of my ex thinking another man should have priority over me with my son.Tarrant220 said:
Her reasoning- I didnt sign him up nor did I pay for it. (Even though I buy things for my son all the time, because I didnt SPECIFCALLY pay for the T-Ball, she doesnt think I should be the one to take him).
I might have missed it, Brad, but did she say anything in response to you telling her that you"d be at the game?
I ask because in these parts, the courts do not look kindly on parents jerking the kid around to satisfy their power struggle. In other words, if your ex cancels T-Ball practice because you told her that you were going to show up, especially when she herself couldn"t even be present, that decision could reflect very poorly on her.
When you talk to your family law attorney, you should definitely get an idea how the particular judge who will be hearing your case feels about situations such as this. For example, some judges feel that the non-custodial parent isn"t entitled to any "extra" visitation time with the children beyond what is specified in the order, so showing up at school to chat with the children or attending softball practice on the other parent"s "time" isn"t kosher, while most other judges are only too happy to allow the parents to attend the children"s events regardless of who"s "time" it is on paper, so long as the parents aren"t getting into fist fights or name-calling.
Oh, and belated congratulations, Tarrant. I, too, remember the time you proved to the board that your balls had well and truly dropped.
I ask because in these parts, the courts do not look kindly on parents jerking the kid around to satisfy their power struggle. In other words, if your ex cancels T-Ball practice because you told her that you were going to show up, especially when she herself couldn"t even be present, that decision could reflect very poorly on her.
When you talk to your family law attorney, you should definitely get an idea how the particular judge who will be hearing your case feels about situations such as this. For example, some judges feel that the non-custodial parent isn"t entitled to any "extra" visitation time with the children beyond what is specified in the order, so showing up at school to chat with the children or attending softball practice on the other parent"s "time" isn"t kosher, while most other judges are only too happy to allow the parents to attend the children"s events regardless of who"s "time" it is on paper, so long as the parents aren"t getting into fist fights or name-calling.
Oh, and belated congratulations, Tarrant. I, too, remember the time you proved to the board that your balls had well and truly dropped.
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I still take under-grad classes a lot since they count for elective grad credits at my school, and I would say intimidated is the right word for how most younger students react to you.
I know we like to be self-conscious and assume that they just assume we"re losers or something, but that has simply not been my experience in the slightest. Quite the opposite, they start asking about you, and if your story isn"t a loserish one, they start revering even... I find it weird and try to avoid it.
Just remember when speaking to them even having a job is a major accomplishment from their perspective...lol.
If they"re treating you like a loser it"s probably because you are.
Same here. I did school and then started studying. In two weeks I turn 27 and my 5th semester is about to start. I am way older than most other students (not all) and it is a HUGE advantage.Jx3 said:
The time I spend with my apprenticeship and work really gives me the edge in business studies, marketing, etc. People that start studying with like 18 and have their master with 22 ... what can you say about them. Its nice, but has its flaws. Their lack of work experience really shows. If any of them will apply for a job I am applying for, I am pretty sure they are not going to get it.
Some fuckers were looking down on us older students in the beginning, but that quickly stopped once the profs started asking questions and we were giving answers while the young students had none.
I can see where you are coming from, but, since you don"t have complete joint access to him, shouldn"t you let the person that is essentially raising your child for 6 days out of the week be able to have something to bond with him? Like it or not, this man is going to be in his life now. Like it or not, he is going to have a relationship with his step-dad. Do you really want to jeopardize your son having as good of a childhood as possible just because you feel you should have priority? Maybe next year you should be the one to sign him up for baseball and take him to all of his practices and games and that can be "your thing" to do with him.Brad2770 said:
Divorces are ugly and there are always a lot of hurt feelings, especially when there are children involved. You won"t always be able to do everything with him anymore. Unfortunately, that went away with your divorce.
I have a similar situation to that, but thankfully, my situation is reversed. I have full custody of both of my kids. I had the same talk with my ex-wife about a year ago. She would call every night and the kids would tell her what they did with my wife. She would then ask to talk to me and complain that whatever they did was something she wanted to do with them. I told her that I don"t care what she does with them, but the swimming lessons (for example) that my wife signed them up for and took them to 3 nights a week, she wouldn"t be able to do with them because that is one of their bonding activities. They looked forward to doing that with her every night they went. I was not going to let her step in and take that away from any of them just because she felt that she was entitled to do it.
Also, to all of you men out there that are going through a divorce with children, I am a living example that judges will award custody to men. You just have to show without any doubt that you have your life together and you can offer the children everything that is needed and important to children. We had joint custody at first (with me being the primary), but when she got her feelings hurt that she couldn"t find the time to do anything with them, she moved from Chicago to Texas. When she moved, I petitioned the courts again to have full custody. That was also granted. A lot of genuine honesty, persistence and patience is all it takes.
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Grats to you, but it"s not the norm no matter how much you have your shit together.Petra~ said:
I run a successful business, granted I"m not pulling in a ton of money, not trying to say I do...because I don"t...but it"s more then enough to live comfortably off of. My life is orderly and set, my kids love being here when they visit and have told the court they would like to live with me.
My ex wife hasn"t worked in 2 years, she was fired from her last job on purpose to collect unemployment because she hated working and mooches welfare to the max limits. Her boy friend has had (this is not a joke or a blind number) 17 jobs in two years all of which he was "laid off" from...and now he hit the jackpot (their words, not mine) as he injured himself at work and now gets workmens comp and gets paid to stay home. With this guy my ex wife got knocked up with twins and can barely afford to make ends meet.
I had a PI follow her around, had pictures of her drinking at the bar while preg with her twins, she lets my (3 years old at the time) daughter play where ever she wants unsupervised. Last time I was up there to see them I found her 7 blocks away walking around. She"s 4 now.
My son needed dental work done (8 cavities because she doesn"t make them brush their teeth) and she told me she couldn"t help with the bill, that same PI had photos of her gambling in a casino the day after my son had his dental work done.
I had proof upon proof shes an unfit mother and puts her interests first before the kids. When I brought all this to court, know what I was told?
The judge told me it was disturbing that I would hire a stalker to follow my ex around and go out of my way to separate my kids from their mother and I should be ashamed of myself. I"ll still never forget the look my lawyer had as he picked his jaw up off the floor when it dropped.
Some places just don"t care, if you have a vagina you get the kids...period...end of story. By the way, that was my 3rd appeal, I have to wait another year before I can do so again.
Grats to you, but save me the "It"s a long process but all you need if your life together" speech because -I"M- proof it doesn"t matter at all.
But again, grats to you, I wish I knew what it was like to have my kids with me everyday, spending time with them, watching them grow and putting them to bed each night. I"m very jealous, but very happy for you.
