Camerous said:
So how do I get past this? I am like on a dog track. I keep running in circles again and again. I tried going out with a couple other women but that shit didn"t work at all.
You"re missing the point. It"s not about knowing where to go. It"s about paradigm shift. It"s about letting go.
What do you do? Shit if I know. When I went through my first big break up I started getting into different hobbies; b&w photography, billiards, working out, etc before I even started thinking about getting back into a relationship with someone.
Just accept something:
It"s not about getting back at her. It will never be. It is over. Completely. So stop giggling and bragging about "pissing her off" with a text when that shit will never EVER matter or help you. Pissing her off, arguing, drunken FB messaging will all lead to one thing; it will keep her in your life longer, and that is the opposite of what you need. You will never get over her if you can"t be ok with that fact that this shit is over. It will take time to do, but that has to be your goal in order to start your life back up.
For some people, taking a step back and realizing that while they were getting shit faced last night and wallowing in self-pity people were getting shot in the head at protests, finding out loved ones were killed in a tsunami, and watching their children starve to death helplessly. At times, this is enough to trigger someone"s perspective to change.
For some people, it helps to take a step back and realize that while they were pissing and moaning over one woman, there was a ton of pussy out there and no reason they wouldn"t be able to find a better person to fuck.
For some people it helps to invest in yourself and create something you"re proud of; whether it"s a fucking minecraft mansion, a sculpture, or fixing shit in your house that you"ve neglected.
It really doesn"t matter WHAT it is that changes how you are viewing your current situation, they all pretty much mean you have to take the same universal view of life when shit gets tough; you"re alive... fucking act like it.