Seven times? Cheesus Christ!
You guys need to include ages of the people in these stories. That"s absurd, honestly. Unless you"re talking about heated fights where it"s "almost over" (someone feels hopeless and throws in the towel before being reassured of WTF ever they need to be), that"s horsepoo.
I did that in like 5th grade when I thought collecting boyfriends was a hobby like it was for garbage pail kids and pogs (hells yeah!!!). If girls seemed to like one more than the current one, I"d grab that one, too. However, I was absolutely repulsed by the idea of having to kiss a boy "with tongue" so I"d break up before I had to (later in 6th grade had the word "freezer" chanted at me for not making out on the spot... FU Matt).
Anyway, my point is that"s juvenile. That doesn"t go to say I haven"t came very close to ending a relationship before (of the grown up variety). I have, but it was during a moment of "I can"t fix this" despair.
Long distance is hell and not for many people. It"s not a big secret that"s what I did and the first year was like torture, it tests every insecurity you have (for women at least). You have no choice but to throw in trust you may not have under normal circumstances. Some people can"t take it, I barely could. But it made me work harder to move, made me try harder to find a job out here, etc. Having that said, I wanted to move here (or anywhere away from where I came from), so I was going regardless of the relationships outcome.
I"ve had friends who did the LTR and cheated, one didn"t just cheat, she maintained two relationships - one at home, one online. I felt bad and eventually snitched her out (I value guy code if the guy was my friend first).
However, I have another friend (she"s on here actually) who"s boyfriend moved to Hawaii, she supported his decision because she knew he may resent her if he didn"t go for the job of his dreams. She couldn"t go due to custody arrangements with her ex. She has remained 150% faithful even during his childish fits, breakups and tantrums. I"ve never met anyone so patient and loyal in my life. He couldn"t take the distance, but I suspect he will soon realize no other woman exists who will put up with the shit he does (he can maintain a 2 week silent treatment, I"m not exaggerating).
Having that said, I"m sure everyone who met her at my BBQ is stoked she"s single!
Anyway, can you clarify this... Are you talking a true leave, pack, walk-out breakup or was it like her being a bitch and just saying it"s over but bluffing? I"m blown away by this seven times thing. That seems unreal.