Ok, thread"s been dead for a while, guess I"ll post for advice.
I"m currently seeing 4 different girls. I"d never once dated more than one girl at a time previous. And actually spent August-April without a single date.
Ok, so this one girl. N. she got a cute face, but is overweight. She"s basically the borderline between chubby and fat. Kinda at the limits of what I find physically attractive. She talked about recently losing 20 lbs on our first date, so she definitely was fat before, but if she lost ANOTHER 20 lbs, she"d actually be really cute and If she lost 40 lbs I think I could even safely call her hot and not get made fun of on the Internet.
Anyways, the story and question isn"t really about that.
Thursday, I took her out for first date after talking online for a couple hours (we met on okcupid), had a great time at a habachi place, great conversation, I think we"ve got a lot in common... we talk for an hour outside the restaurant afterwards, I say we should def meet again.
I go out with 2 different girls on friday, so I don"t talk to her at all.
Saturday, she texts me and asks if I"m doing anything or got any plans tonight. I tell her no, she asks if I want to go to a surprise party, she tells me it"s going to be a bunch of people she"s not really friends, and at a country western dance club, which isn"t either her or my style and would like me to come along for support. I say sure.
I show up, and I"m walking in at the same time as her and her parents... what she didn"t really explain was that it was "her" surprise party that she was inviting me to. At first it was really awkward because it was like her entire family there (parents aunts and uncles and stuff) but as the night wore on, a couple of her friends (who are closer to our age) showed up so it was all good.
Ok so 3 questions I humbly ask the collective enlightened wisdom of fohss.
1) Do I give this girl a chance because she"s evidently losing weight and caring more about her personal appearance (her younger sister, who I met at the party, is literally a 10, She"s like a 5), but if she lost 30lbs would probably be an 8 (like I said, very cute face, just covered in fat). Or should I just accept the fact that I"m not really attracted to bigger girls and move on. She"s exactly 1 month older than me, is it too much to ask a girl turning 30 to change who she is just to date?
2) Looks versus personality. I like this girl, I really do, but I"m not really that attracted to her, and wouldn"t mind just being friends. She"s a "hardcore gamer" even though she plays very different games than me, I like hearing her stories, and having her talk to me in language I can understand. Girls do this to guys without even batting an eyelash, why does it make me feel like an asshole just for even thinking it.
3) The fact that she didn"t tell me her parents were going to be at this party, or emphasize the fact that it was "her" surprise party, I had only kissed her on the cheek after the first date, I def feel a little bit of the crazy is inside her if she"s having me meet her parents after just 1 date and only 2 days later.
Last summer I dated a certifiably crazy chick, but at least I fucked her before she introduced me to her parents after only a week, so I could see why she felt like moving things along fast.