Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Khane said:

Sounds like you know your husband about as well as you knew what the future would hold when you were 19.

Lindz listen... people change, they get overwhelmed. Some people can cope, some can't. Your husband, for all the support you've given him, seems to be slipping further into self indulgence rather than doing what's right for his family. There's a point where you, as his wife, are going to need to give him a wake up call.

Click to expand...

Khane is 100% correct here, imho.

I'm not certain his idea of a wake up call is the right move to make (guessing into his disturbed, but accurate, mind here)

But you need to slap him, figuratively or literally, and explain to him his ass needs to fucking step up.

Can't write cause he's waiting for edits? Theres a million things around the house. Motherfucker can shop for groceries, do the dishes, etc.

I worked at home for 6 years, I understand this shit. Shit, my wife was a house wife while I worked at home. I still mowed the fucking lawn and made the bed. I still cooked lunch and dinner, I still took the fuckin kids to school.

Sorry, but whatever he's going through. Whatever the reason? Fuck that shit. Snap him out of it. If he refuses to snap out of it? Bounce.

Now, I'm not advocating ultimatums here. Shit takes time, especially if it is depression. But fuck. He needs to start down the path.

I really don't like calling light of depression, but keeping it real, sounds like the dude is a manchild to be honest. How do you quit your job to write a book you don't even know will get published or read when you have a wife and kids? I mean hell I wrote a book, and I'd love for people to read it, but here I am popping this all out while gainfully employed, because that's what's putting food in their bellies and keeping a roof over our heads (well partially since the wife works too). I mean I know Lindz, that you are working to make up the difference, but then what I was saying before totally goes out the window. If he's the stay at home now, it's kind of on him to take care of things long before it lands on your lap. If he's using that time to play EQ, depression or not, that's complete bullshit in my eyes.

EDIT: going to leave it for full transparency, but I went back and saw that he was published, so I will (kind of) redact that. But really after reading Lindz's posts again, I still stand behind my main point. Dude is either having a mid life crisis or something, and he kind of needs to wake up. Therapy? Ultimatums? I don't know but what he's thrusting on your lap, is not good and selfish from my outside view.

And unrelated: why do people get so hot and bothered over Khane voicing his opinion? Yeah, sometimes I read what he says, and brush it off, because "he doesn't understand." But dude sometimes says things that are more than valid or it's funny due to his VERY clinical view on relationships in general. Anyhoo I just white knighted for the chronically single guy, holy shit.

Listen Namon, I like you, we have fun together but I'm just not in the right place right now. I don't want to complicate things. Let's just stay friends okay?

By the way what the fuck is a "clinical view" of relationships?

Is that like "Yo Khane's gonna put on a clinic for us. A dick clinic"

If my wife wanted to quit her job to write a book I'd really hope for an immaculate house when I came home

One can wish

Noodleface said:

If my wife wanted to quit her job to write a book I'd really hope for an immaculate house when I came home

One can wish

Click to expand...

Your wife quit her job literally to clean your house and it still isn't getting done. And I bet nobody will give me shit about saying so.

It was a poor attempt at a joke

I guess mine was too.

Fuck you, Khane.

Just trying to defy your expectations. Cuddle?

How could I say no to your ugly pizza cat face.

Looks like a perfectly normal cat face to me (with a pizza).

Hey. Potato, Po-ugly.

Everything can be blamed on eq. Everything ever

I couldn't decide whether to post this in the WoW thread, or here, but since we've been on the topic of MMOs in relationships, figure it fit here nicely.

So it's been said my wife has anxiety, and so dinner to bed time is a tough time for her to do solo. She handles it most of the time like a champ, but sometimes kids can be kids, and it gets very frustrating. From the million questions, to the typical not listening and not wanting to go to bed. So the idea of raiding in an MMO right in the middle of this was always off the table in my head. I was like no way she's gonna be cool with the kids going nuts, her running around the house, and I'm like peace out, I gotta go slay dragons!

Tonight we have a conversation, and I mention something about Noodleface WoW raid, and she's like do you have to go raid? So I push this further to figure out what she really means, and she's like whatever problem you think I had with you raiding was entirely in your head, and I've never said you couldn't raid. Wtf? I feel like sometime in the past there was an altercation, or the night time routine with the kids has always been so crazy, that I never dared asked if I could raid right in the middle of it? I don't know. This is as surprising to me as I'm sure it was to her when I didn't bring home froyo. I'm floored, literally. I was so surprised, I didn't really respond and just showed her the "It's a Trap!" Meme.

So I'm pretty sure I've just been doing the "right" thing, and making myself available and helping out with the night time routine this whole time, and it's been fine, but the minute I try and slay dragons, she'll need something every 2 minutes, or something. I don't know.