Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Oblio
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How is that even a response? Also, you could not be more wrong, because not only is my wife a dime piece she has a six figure salary plus bonuses.
Oblio
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Are you drunk right now? How can you not follow this?
I was not arguing for or against stay at home parents nor was I judging parents for whichever they choose. I was trying to engage you in a rational conversation which you have clearly shown you are incapable of on this topic. So I say good day to you Sir.
- You said that you lose ALL respect for women that even MENTION they would like to be a a stay at home mom.
- To which I basically replied the world is not that black and white, and I advised that you may want to ask some qualifying questions before you make such a dismissive judgement.
- You then attempted to insult my wife by again make a sweeping judgement without asking any qualifying questions.
- And then you come back at me with what I can clearly discern as reading comprehension worse than my 7 year old and ironically put a spin on it as if I am the one not worth enraging in a real conversation.
I was not arguing for or against stay at home parents nor was I judging parents for whichever they choose. I was trying to engage you in a rational conversation which you have clearly shown you are incapable of on this topic. So I say good day to you Sir.
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"I let my chauffer take two hours off to see his dying mother in the hospital today. Instead of using our second chauffer I decided to cut loose and drive myself to the golf course. Lol I don't see what the big deal is! I'm going to cut his wages when he gets back lol."
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We had four kids in five years. We got to a point where we had the discussion that one of us needed to stay home to make sense of things. We both had successful careers, so it was a discussion about what made more sense. I was making a lot more money, and was in the position to get us to a spot where neither of us had to work full time. And that is what we did. My wife made the sacrifice, and did six years of stay at home. She did work some, teaching evening classes, but she spent the long days with a lot of little kids.
She craved adult conversation, she was frustrated, she was bored at times, and all that.
Should I have lost interest in her at year 2 or 3?
She craved adult conversation, she was frustrated, she was bored at times, and all that.
Should I have lost interest in her at year 2 or 3?
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Mrs. Gravy
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G would remark sometimes that I responded negatively to his suggestions, sometimes I did; but most of the time what he interpreted as negativity was me needing to talk it through; to hear it out loud - the whys and whats... I needed to know pros and cons of what he wanted; especially in terms of financial output. (I had good reasons - we had thousands of dollars in medical expenses to manage and on my income). It frustrated the fuck out of him... he would say to me, "Why can't you just agree?"...to which my reply would be, "HI, I'm Tracy, nice to meet you." BTW - I didn't always disagree; as a matter of fact, I usually over indulged him but I had (have) my own opinion and I don't regret one time of having it.
We all get happy in the same damn panties we in which we get angry.
We all get happy in the same damn panties we in which we get angry.
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Clearly you needed to have four more ASAP to lock in a TV deal. Like I said. Lazy.
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I don't understand this response. Are you mocking me for having a lot of kids, or are you calling me or my wife lazy for having one of us be a stay at home parent?
Khane
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Really? You think it's one of those two things? I thought it was a pretty obvious joke about reality TV shows.
And can we please stop pretending that a woman who clearly has no ambition other than to stay at home and play mom is the same as a couple who finds themselves in the precarious situation of having four daycare aged children suddenly? I don't know how I could be any more clear that I am talking about women who actually do not want to do anything but be a mother and talk about it even before they have or are about to have their first child. But yea I'm the one with the reading comprehension problem... Let's concoct some ludicrously naive scenario where an educated woman with a degree and a career could somehow just stop working for 10 goddamn years and then jump right back into the work force. There's no way they'd have difficulty getting hired right? It's a sure thing!
But nah, it's just cuz I haven't really thought this through or asked the right questions. Bring on the women I need to support!
And can we please stop pretending that a woman who clearly has no ambition other than to stay at home and play mom is the same as a couple who finds themselves in the precarious situation of having four daycare aged children suddenly? I don't know how I could be any more clear that I am talking about women who actually do not want to do anything but be a mother and talk about it even before they have or are about to have their first child. But yea I'm the one with the reading comprehension problem... Let's concoct some ludicrously naive scenario where an educated woman with a degree and a career could somehow just stop working for 10 goddamn years and then jump right back into the work force. There's no way they'd have difficulty getting hired right? It's a sure thing!
But nah, it's just cuz I haven't really thought this through or asked the right questions. Bring on the women I need to support!
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So you're saying hard-boiled eggs are superior to scrambled eggs?
That's just fucking stupid, man.
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Khane
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No doubt thats a valid point. But there's no reason not to make entertaining the kid fun rather than trying to make it a soap opera and jerry springer day while they run wild every day. Go out and do shit.
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Definitely a nesting thing. My wife is hardcore career oriented and I can tell it takes a tole on her having to side line it, but with a new baby she personally feels like a POS if she went back to work (no opinion on my end, idc). I think it boils down to a trust issue that no one else is good enough to care for the baby you just made and relies on you heavily (aka I just decided to roll over and now I am suffocating, lol I'm a baby) to survive.
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