Marriage and the Power of Divorce

For some it doesn't make sense to have both parents work. With child care costs in some areas you end up pocketing very little.

Like with my two older kids, when they were in daycare we were paying $400 a week for both. Wife brought home almost exactly that in pay so why bother putting them in daycare when they can be home getting the full attention they deserve in an environment thats more conducive to them?

Outside of that reason though, yeah, there's little reason both can't work.

Finally got approval today that I can move out of state with my youngest son on the condition I fly him out to see his mother once a month. ($90-$135 round trip)

I'm getting set to move back to Michigan, my parents are in not the greatest of health and I'll be living about 2 hours south of them. There's also (of course) a woman I've been seeing that's from where I'm moving to. We've known one another since 7th/8th grade and have been best friends for about 10 years, we've been dating (long distance) for about 18 months now. We've taken turns flying back and fourth every two weeks the whole time, pretty confident things are good. I've known her since I've been 15 and I've known her exceptionally well for over a decade, I can go into this feeling confident that I'm not with a secretly crazy person.

My two oldest who currently live about 5 hours away and I see once a month are okay with the move. My 15 year old son said "If we still see you once a month then what's it matter if you live there or in the same state?" Which I was relieved he had that line of thinking. Even so it was a hard decision but thanks to cheap airfare it'll be easy enough to get them out to see me or me out to them whenever we want.

I've been in a pretty good place for a long time now, which is nice. Life has kept me busy which is why I haven't been posting a ton here in a long while. The woman I'm with is supportive, loves my kids (which was key since my 2nd wife hated my two older kids) and they are large fans of hers. She also has a 10 year old boy who I'm close with, he face times me a lot to show me his new trucks he build son Euro Trucker, lol, he's a good kid. She's good a good job, works hard and is supportive of me and the things I do and am passionate about. It helps we were such good friends for so long before hand, we know what to expect from one another with most situations as they present themselves.

I'm sure some here will find flaws or problems with these things, and that's fine. It's just been awhile since I updated so I thought I'd chime in.

Yeah we've been lucky, its an 11 hour drive, or a 70 minute flight (Minneapolis to Detroit) that Spirit started doing within the last two years. If not for that flight this never would have happened, so as shit as Spirit is as an Airline (customer service and charging for everything) I have a soft spot for them because of this. They fly it once a day and are talking about adding another due to its popularity so I know I'm in no danger of it going anywhere in the near future.

As far as a relationship with someone you've known for so long...yeah it's pretty great. We both know what to expect from one another, we are both still best friends and we feel like when we've dated others in the past there were things in your life you may be hesitant to tell the other person where with each other we don't have that. We've never been judgy with one another as we know we always have each others backs because that's how it's been for the last decade.

All in all it's the most satisfying relationship I've ever been in, which says a lot because for years I've thought I'd never have what I had with my first wife before things went south all those years ago...but this, this puts all that to shame. Like I said, I'm in a good place.

I'm not sure why? Their planes are all made by the same people making everyone else and are newer (their fleet of planes is the youngest flying) and they go through all the same safety inspections. Two flights ago we were delayed 20 minutes while they had to have someone come on board to repair an arm rest for Gods sake.

I mean, I'll sacrifice a couple inches of leg space for an hour though to save $250 per flight. That's a no brainier to me.

Don't get me wrong though, they will nickle and dime you to death if you let them. Her and I both have a dresser drawer of clothes at one anothers places and I can stuff my backpack as full as I want and its free to carry on. I'm not supposed to use the overhead bin but there's always room so I always do, they never check.

Alex said:

Spirit, Allegiant, and Frontier and on my never fly list. They are not the same quality dude. Planes feel like they're made out of plastic. Plus they pay their pilots shit wages which means they are low quality pilots. Know it's the US and the chances of an incident are low, but everything about those airlines feels cheap. I took a Frontier flight to Vegas once and I'll never use any of those budget airlines again. They have last minute cancellations and issues more than any other airline and they charge for shit like fucking water. Just a poor experience all around.

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That’s fine, I don’t feel any of those things I guess so it doesn’t bother me. -shrug-

Khane said:

Here's me looking out the window to see a repair crew fixing the arm of the plane I'm on

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I was on a Delta flight once to Dallas and we were delayed 45 minutes while they had to find a light bulb for one of the call lights. Haha I’ve seen the weirdest shit when it comes to delays.